Maybe this is weird I don't really know. I
recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2
years. I don't love him anymore, I don't
call him at all. I don't hate him or
anything, I just need "space" right now.
Anyways, we had really good sex, we really
left no stone unturned. Well, I was with
someone else last night, someone new and
different, and everytime he would try to
go down on me, (he tried about 3 times) I
[gently] pulled him by his hair back up to
my face. I was really trying to avoid it.
I dont have any problems down there, and i
am squeaky clean, but for some reason i
didn't want him to do that to me. for some
reason i'm afraid guys going down on me.
(my ex loved it) but.....why wont i let
anyone else go down? this has happened
before.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 06-05-08 09:50am
Maybe its an intamacy issue? You may have
to feel close to someone before you share
something so personal??? I did not give
oral sex until I was with my hubby. And it
took about a year and a half for me to get
comfortable with him. I had to be with
someone that I loved and that loved me.
Maybe you are the same way. Did you let
your ex? Did you enjoy it? Are you scared
of something....like odor or how you look?
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Maddie34
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Posted: 06-05-08 12:03pm
You say you recently broke up with a guy
after two years?
Give yourself some time. If you're not
comfortable now then don't worry about it,
I would think its normal considering you
were with one guy for so long. Just try
and take things a little slower for now.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-05-08 15:54pm
agreed..maybe you're just not comfortable
like that yet and feel like you're going
too fast..slow things down for a while
until you're ready
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melancholydaye
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Posted: 06-06-08 05:35am
agreed...i'm having problems with
relationships right now, i do need to take
it slower, the guy asked me out, i said
no...not because i don't like him, just
because i am enjoying single life, but i'm
not sleeping around at all, i just enjoy
the freedom to flirt or whatever if I
wish, ....as for vaginal odor, that isn't
an issue for me. and i love my vagina lol,
but, theres something else there that just
tells me to say no. yeah i let both of my
exs do it...69 position was done a lot,
and just really enjoyed it......i think it
may have something to do with the guy that
i'm with idk
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Maddie34
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Posted: 06-06-08 10:21am
Well being single and without a guy for
awhile sounds like the best thing for you.
Or at least just taking things slow. If it
doesn't feel right, then don't do it right
now.
