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Anal sex advice Posted: 03-21-08 17:32pm
My boyfriend really wants to try anal sex
and I keep telling him no. Does it really
hurt terribly bad like I am picturing? any
advice on how to make it hurt less?? any
suggestions are appreciated
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123papillon
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Posted: 05-12-08 14:58pm
if you don't want to do it than don't.
naturally only the vagina is for sex, but
if you decide to do it than use some extra
lubricant and condom because if you don't
it would be very paintful as there is no
natural secrets in the anal. also very
often girls bleed so don't panic, it's
nothing serious
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maritza0412
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Posted: 05-12-08 15:15pm
ok ok ok this is how i was and i expected
excrusiating pain!!! it is not bad at all
use a lot of lube and he has to be gentle
if its ur 1st time lets say extra gentle
depending on his size! and also once he
has inserted it he has to hold da base of
his penis and make sure u tell him not to
go crazy and just hump u! ur anal is not a
vigina! tell him dat and please use lube
or else it cud really hurt.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 05-12-08 15:52pm
I was worried about it too. Use lube and
lots of it! Make sure it's just a plain
lube though nothing fancy (i found out the
hard way when i didnt read the pack
properly and it was mint, ouch). Take it
slow and relax, if you're tense then it
will hurt. The first time is uncomfortable
i'm not going to lie but it wasn't painful
at all
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jessamyn
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Posted: 05-12-08 16:38pm
I was agianst it for forever until a
boyfriend talked me into it... it can be
good and bad but when its good its great!
You just have to be relaxed and into it,
if youre stressed or tense its not gunna
be fun or fulfilling..
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Rosie H
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Posted: 05-12-08 16:53pm
I agree only do it if YOU WANT TO. But its
very pleasurable and gives me a different
type of orgasm. Its hard to explain.
But it will not hurt of you do it right.
It may uncomfortable until you get the
hang of it, but it shouldnt hurt. The 1st
step is: you have to want it. If you dont
then your body will be tense and it will
hurt.
I recommend getting familiar with fingers
first. let him insert one or two fingers
and see how that feels. Use lots of lube.
Pay attention to your own body and how it
responds. The natural reaction is to tense
up, well try to focus on loosening
up...kinda when you are going #2. (go to
the bathroom before)
This allows you to relax your muscles at
will. Once you are comfortable with that
try inserting his penis. I recommend
inserting his head 1st. Get used to that.
If its uncomfortable or hurts then stop
and try again when you are ready. It can
take some time to get your body used to
something going in instead of out. But
practice these moves and you can have a
blast.
But do not go from anal sex to vaginal
sex. You do not want any bacteria from
your anus going into your vagina or
urethra. And the condom idea is great. It
allows easier friction the 1st couple of
times.
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ritabrown_94
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Joined: 15 May 2008 Posts: 1
STD Posted: 05-15-08 20:01pm
can u get an STD from anal sex? and what
are some symptoms?
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Lady_Magoo
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Posted: 05-22-08 00:44am
I have very perverted friends, friends who
are addicted to sex, friends who have
kids, etc...I hang out with a variety of
people to be honest.
Anyways, the things I have heard from my
friends (which most of them are couples)
are as follows.
For the first time:
1) Go Number 2 if you are the girl
2) Get lube condoms
3) Water based lube (NO WARMING STUFF!!!!
I have heard it burns like the dickens,
and it will make your first time
uncomfortable if you do)
4) I have heard "Doggy style" works the
best. Depending on the height of the guy,
the best bet is to put yourself (if you
are the girl) on the end of the bed, and
let the guy stand.
5) Relax
6) Make sure to move slow. Let the guy
control it, and make sure you tell him (if
you are the girl) to move slow.
I keep hearing if I ever wanted to to take
is slow...I have lots of friends who push
me to have sex with my fiance. I get lots
and lots of advice. My fiance and I have
been together for 4.5 years and have never
had sex (amazing I know) but we both get
plenty of sex advice we have not used or
have no use for...What I said has been
repeated by many friends...
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worrywart01
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Posted: 05-22-08 00:52am
wow..someones gonna have a nice honeymoon
to look forward to haha 4.5 years and
no sex..thats pretty amazing, props to you
guys
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treetrunk
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Posted: 05-23-08 13:51pm
I disagree with the water base lube. It
bad with anal. I prefer silicone lube for
my girl. It's the best for anal. It
works better. Less friction with that
kind of lube. Use as much as it takes.
And you shouldn't do it until you remove
the bad image in your head that it will
hurt. If you keep thinking that then your
body will tense up and yeah it will hurt.
I say you should be on top for the first
time. That way you're in control.
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LeahBia07
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Posted: 05-23-08 21:44pm
I was not for it at all! but i fell into
it. I think its different for every1. 2 b
honest with u it hurts soooo bad at 1st.
definately lube up real good! after awhile
it does start 2 feel good. once my guy was
doin it way 2 hard and i felt like i was
gona go2 the bathroom!! how embarrassing!
just b careful and tell him 2 take it easy
lol
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haha 4.5 years and
no sex..thats pretty amazing, props to you
guys