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kyrafaith
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18 and preg
Posted: 05-01-08 12:56pm
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i dont know what is going on in my life
right now. i have prom tomorrow and im a
month away from graduating. i just found
out that im about 6 weeks along. my
boyfriends attitude has done a complete
180 since we found out. he doesnt text or
call me as much and i just feel like hes
brushing me off a lot and it hurts. I am
in love with my bf, who is 20, but i am
his first gf and we havent been together
long. Both his brothers got their gfs
pregnant b4 they got married. I dont know
what to do. I am in love with him, is this
just shock or what can i do? I dont want
to lose him, expecially because he is my
only support right now. <3
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Posted: 05-01-08 13:05pm
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You need to sit down and talk to him about
your situation. What do you two plan on
doing? Chances are, he is just as afraid
and confused as you are.
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Posted: 05-01-08 13:08pm
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Give him a little time, he is probably
shocked about this whole thing right now
too.
He probably in his mind, wanted to get
married before having a child or getting
the woman that he is with pregnant. So i
bet he just needs alittle time to adjust
to things right now.
Maybe try talking to him, explaining that
you dont want to lose him, and if there is
anything that he wants to talk about. Let
him know that this is hard on you as well
as hard on him too.
Do your parents know?
Are you taking your vitamins now?
materna..folic acid..
have you seen a doctor yet?
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kyrafaith
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Posted: 05-01-08 18:48pm
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thanks I really think that might be it,
because hes still like making plans with
me and telling me he loves me and
everything. Perhaps, it is because we
havent been together long... 2 months
only. and Yes my parents know, i think
they told the whole world because like
everyone knows im pregnant. And no im not
taking any vitamins yet, i dont have
health insurance yet so im planning on
seeing a doctor at a clinic out here
until my paperwork goes thru. i think my
bf is going to take me next friday, we
only found out on monday and im only about
6 weeks along. I just dont want to think
about losing him right now, so thank you
for your tips. <3
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Posted: 05-01-08 18:56pm
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| kyrafaith
wrote: | | thanks I really think that
might be it, because hes still like making
plans with me and telling me he loves me
and everything. Perhaps, it is because we
havent been together long... 2 months
only. and Yes my parents know, i think
they told the whole world because like
everyone knows im pregnant. And no im not
taking any vitamins yet, i dont have
health insurance yet so im planning on
seeing a doctor at a clinic out here
until my paperwork goes thru. i think my
bf is going to take me next friday, we
only found out on monday and im only about
6 weeks along. I just dont want to think
about losing him right now, so thank you
for your tips.
<3 |
You can go to Walmart and buy the prenatal
vitamins they have there. You need to
start taking them, the sooner the better.
Your parents don't have insurance on you?
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kyrafaith
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Posted: 05-01-08 18:59pm
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they do but it doesnt cover the baby, i
know its weird but its thru my dads work.
My prenatal care isnt covered until i get
this stuff called healthy start insurance
and it takesz 4-6 weeks to get. <3
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Posted: 05-01-08 19:03pm
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Your dad can check and see if it covers
you.
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Posted: 05-01-08 19:17pm
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do you need a perscription to get
maternaand folic acid in the U.S.??
i just walked up to the pharmacy counter
and said i need the materna vitamin
please, and they handed it to me no
perscription or anything.
it costs about..15$ or a little more
maybe.
you gotta take care of that baby hun, it
doesnt sound like your bf is going to
leave you, just in a little shock
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Posted: 05-01-08 21:40pm
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Materna is just a brand name. There are
TONS of different brands of prenatal
vitamins. You don't need to take folic
acid in addition to your prenatal
vitamins. Prenatal vitamins already have
folic acid in them. And, if you go to
walmart, they are much cheaper than $15,
more like $5.
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kyrafaith
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Posted: 05-01-08 22:37pm
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thanks for the advice, my dad did call and
i am not coverd on his insurance. and
tonight was better for me and the boy. i
still dont know all thats going on with
him, but we were talking and laughing and
he told me he loved me a couple of times.
It made my day a lot better. Im hoping
when he gets to hear the heartbeat it will
help a little. and thanks for the vitamin
advice, i will definately look into
getting some vitamins. I know i have to
take care of this baby. i just hjave a lot
on my plate right now and its hard to find
people to share that with that actually
get it or can help. thank you for the help
so far. <3
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Posted: 05-02-08 07:31am
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i was just wondering if she would take it,
because even though it has folic acid in
materna, its not a bad idea to take extra.
I am doing that, and some other women i
know have done that.
Also my doctor asked if i was taking
both.
So was just wondering if she would
consider taking both too..
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Posted: 05-02-08 07:33am
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| kyrafaith
wrote: | | thanks for the advice, my
dad did call and i am not coverd on his
insurance. and tonight was better for me
and the boy. i still dont know all thats
going on with him, but we were talking and
laughing and he told me he loved me a
couple of times. It made my day a lot
better. Im hoping when he gets to hear the
heartbeat it will help a little. and
thanks for the vitamin advice, i will
definately look into getting some
vitamins. I know i have to take care of
this baby. i just hjave a lot on my plate
right now and its hard to find people to
share that with that actually get it or
can help. thank you for the help so far.
<3 |
It sounds like its still good with you,
he's probably still adjusting.
I remember when my fiancee heard out
baby's heart beat on Valentine's Day, he
shed a few tears.  He was really
happy.
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kyrafaith
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Posted: 05-07-08 10:54am
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thanks for all the advice.
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Posted: 05-07-08 12:52pm
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Same thing happened with my baby's daddy.
He went from wanting to spend forever and
a day with me, to barely remembering to
call all weekend, though my bf was a lot
younger then yours, but he left me at 8
weeks along, accusing me of all kinds of
things. Though being older I'm sure your
bf might just need time, but be sure to
let him know, that while he may feel he
deserves time to run off and think about
it, you don't get that. Your pregnant, its
always with you, you can't run off and
think about it and do whatever.
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kyrafaith
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Posted: 05-08-08 23:48pm
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I think( hope ) hes coming around a
little. His attitude is back to normal and
hes still telling me that he thinks im
gorgeous and that he knows hes lucky to
have me. He also tells me he loves me and
hes in love with me. and then last night
he dropped kind of a milestone, and told
me that hes sure were going to have a
beautiful baby and that he already loves
it. Im hoping these are all good signs.
what do you girls think?
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Posted: 05-09-08 10:16am
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Definitely, your lucky to have a guy who
loves you enough to stick around and love
your baby. I think its totally a good
sign.
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Posted: 05-09-08 18:51pm
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onestly hun, I have a few things to
imput...
First of all, I know you love your
boyfriend... but you should start focusing
on the positiives! Focus on yourself and
the child you are carrying, making plans,
getting your pregnancy in order and your
plans for th future vs. worrying whether
your boyfriend is manning up.
Sit down with him and have a blunt face to
face conversation about his past and
current actions and the way he is making
you feel. How he reacts to you bluntly
telling him how you feel and what you
would like him to do, will show you the
type of person that he is.
Also you do not need insurance to purchase
prenatals... they even sell them at
walmart... People who arent even pregnant
take them for different reasons so they
are readily available.
If you having insurance is what is holding
you back from going to the doctor, then
apply for temporarly medical until you get
insurance in order.
Goodluck
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Posted: 05-10-08 01:24am
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even if he did leave you, you could still
do it. im 18 and am 33, almost 34 weeks,
and my partner of 14 months left me on
thursday, its hard and stressful, but you
could do it. the main thing to focus on is
that beautiful baby growing in you, and
your health. worry about him last. If he
did leave it would show you what kind of
person he is, and it would be better to
find out now than a few weeks before you
were due.
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