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15 and pregnant Posted: 06-30-08 14:21pm
Ok So I am 15 and 13 weeks pregnant as of
tomorrow... The dad of the baby is the
love of my life... But when he found out
he got really scared and left and went to
one of my best friends.... He is about to
break up with her to get back with me he
says... I am trying really hard to accept
that he is with her even though he claims
he is leaving her... but she is making so
much crap up to stay with him she is
tyring to say she is pregnant when i went
woth her to the doctors and they told her
she wasn't and then she tried to pull it
as she lost the baby.... She already has a
2 month by another man..... She has
conned him into buying it everything and
doing everything for her (the baby)... I
was with him today and he told all of his
friends that we are engaged and just
hasn't got the ring yet... He told them
that we are expecting in January and
everything... I do not know if he is
playing games or not cam anyone give me a
lil advice on this and he don't know how
to end it wiht her he says so a lil advice
there 2 plz....
Thank you
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-30-08 14:27pm
i'd get rid of that "best friend" of mine
for sure...bc thats in the unspoken rule
book..a friend does NOT go after another
friends man even if they are broken up
especially if she still knows her friend
still has a thing for him...this isn't
someone to be around, I really dont know
what to tell you in this situation...he
doesn't know how to end things with her?
why not? if it isn't working out it isn't
working out...tell her that..the
end...guys will say alot..if he doesnt
have you some sort of ring then dont get
your hopes up, he's probably just really
confused and scared right now as are
you..i'm sure this is a very tough
situation to be in, i can't imagine being
pregnant that young....just keep your head
up and hopefully things will work out with
the two of you
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 06-30-08 15:14pm
I agree. It is very rude and
inconsiderate that your "best friend"
would date your boyfriend when you are
pregnant with his child and had literally
JUST broken up. Things are going to be
rough. Forgive him if it's in your heart
and you believe it's whats right, but
please be careful. If he did this to you
once, there is always the chance that it
will happen again. He is probably really
lost and scared about having a child while
still technically being a child. It's
hard knowing that in a few months that
your life is dedicated to someone else for
the rest of your life whether you like it
or not. Stay strong. I'm sure you will
make an absolutely wonderful mother when
your child arrives, and it'd be great to
have him by your side through this but if
he's too immature to stick with you and
keeps on playing with your feelings, I
know you'd be an amazing single mother
too. You have shown your strength in
writing this post and I know you can do it
no matter what happens. Good luck. Keep
us updated!
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Hi Sweetie! Me Fairy*Godmother Posted: 06-30-08 15:17pm
Best Friend my ***............do not waste
your breath on this person anymore. And,
if your so called boyfriend isn't man
enough to stand up to her...this should
tell you somethig as well. If yo uboth
plan to be together and raise this baby
the way it is supposed to be raised, this
so called best friend needs to be
HISTORY.......end of story. Why does there
have to be a nice way to END things? Its
obvious she has already liesd and tried to
manipulate things.............Fess
up.....I hope for this baby's sake you and
your boyfriend work things out. Games are
for kids..........you're playing inthe big
league now!
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forbiddenbuttrying
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Posted: 06-30-08 17:24pm
Thank you for all of your replies to
this.... I had left something out earlier
to get an answer better... The dad is 19
years old and wants to be with me more
than anything he says and wants me and the
baby to move in with him as soon as he
gets his own plzce and everything like
that... He really is a great guy and
everything... I know that he will make a
great dad come January.... Can you tell me
one other thing???? That is I blew up on
her and told her everything and she has a
23 month old like I said and started to
cut herself when I told her and said she
will die before she loses him... Am I
still doing the right thing with trying to
be with him???? I mean I don't want
nothing to happen to Miley(the baby) or to
her.... Also Cory (the dad of mine) told
me that he should pick the ring up
tomorrow and be able to give it to me the
next time that we see eachother.... Am I
really wrong here I am confused and really
don't know if he is playing with my head
or not any advice on this stuff would also
be greatly appreciated....
Thank you
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Fairy*Godmother
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Will you LISTEN AND TAKE the advice? Posted: 07-01-08 19:13pm
You are 15 years old/young. I could not
imagine having a child at 15, let alone
sex. Sorry, I am quiet a bit older, but
the more wiser. I do have a daughter and I
am saying to you the same thing I'd say to
her. I'd call Family and Childrens
Services on this "other Mother' who is
cutting herself. This is ABUSE. Not only
on her self but her 23 month old. She is
UNSTABLE..............she needs
PROFESSIONAL help. As for you.......guys
play head games....and they will tell you
what you want to hear as long as you allow
them to treat you in a certain way. Where
are your parents? Are you not living at
home? Surely you have someone you can talk
too? Are you not going to finish school so
that you can learn a trade and provide a
good environment for this baby? I am so
lost here.............kids 15 years YOUNG
having babies and no job, no home, not
even sure of a boyfriend???????
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forbiddenbuttrying
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Posted: 07-02-08 16:48pm
I made a typing mistake the baby is only 2
months old not 23.... Yes I am living at
home for the time being I am trying to get
a job as we speak and am trying to get
either ammanicpiated or wait until I turn
16 and he siad that we can get married
providing the courts will let us it is
possible I ting a place right now as we
speak... I love him with all of my heart
but I am just so scared that he is just
playing games wiht my head likehe has
before and like every other person that I
even start to trust... I just don't know
what 2 do and I am starting to think that
he is only with me because I am pregnant
but he say that is not the reason at
all... for over a year now every time he
gets in a relationship and they start to
get serious he always comes back to me and
what not like that Always.... Even before
I ended up pregnant so there is a chance
that maybe just maybe he loves me like he
says he does.... Any advice on that
part....
Thanks alot
Aubrey
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Fairy*Godmother
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You betcha Posted: 07-02-08 17:39pm
He does keep running back to you because
you ALLOW it. You are kinda like a
springboard. WHen a relationship goes bad
for him, he knows he can come crawling
back to you for comfort. I am NOT saying
he doesn't love you or have feelings for
you. I know LOVE SUX.....not really, it
does hurt. I've been there a zillion time.
Its a wonder I have a heart left, it was
broken so many times.........You are worth
far more than just a springboard. I'm not
sure what to tell you, I do know you need
to somehow gain his trust. He has done
this to you SO MANY times.....how long
before he does it again? I for one, do
hope he MAN'S up and does the right thing.
He needs to prove to you that its YOU
thats most important to him. If you marry
him, things are not going to change. I
would first let him know he has to prove
to you its you he loves and not just gonna
marry you because you are pregnant. I am
not going oto sugar coat things and tell
you what you WANT to hear.I am telling you
the GOSH awful truth cause I think you and
this baby deserve only the
best..............not second fiddle! What
do your parents think? YOu do have to
consider the fact, you very well could be
a single Mother. Sure he will have to pay
child support..........but there is always
the possibility. Aubrey, I wish I were
there to wrap my wings around you and tell
you things are gonna be just peachy....but
I can't be. I can tell you what I feel is
honest. I can be here if you ever need me.
You also may PM me at anytime. HUGS!!!!!
