About a month ago, my partner and I had
unprotected sex for the first time. I am
on the pill and have been for about 8
months. My period was about a month late,
so i took a test and it was negative, and
then i still hadnt gotten it so i tool
another yesterday and it was positive. Im
already on bad terms with my parents right
now, they are very angry with me...any
suggestions how i should break the news?
Im really scared...
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manuftw82
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Posted: 05-08-08 08:07am
First off congrats on your pregnancy!
Second if you are maybe scared about doing
it face to face you could write them a
letter, leave it on the table, then go for
a walk and once they have cooled down come
back. Just an idea.
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Ingi
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Posted: 05-08-08 11:10am
You should go to planned parenthood or
somewhere else to confirm the pregnancy.
Then consider your options. Then MAKE A
PLAN. Your parents are going to be
questioning you a lot on 'What do you plan
to do' (trust me, I've been in your shoes
and I'm a parent now and that is what I'd
ask!).
What do you plan to do? Short term? Long
term? Will you continue school/college?
How? Work? Boyfriend? Expenses? The better
prepared you are to face them, the better
off it will work out.
Good luck!!
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justforfun
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Posted: 05-08-08 12:57pm
Good luck to you. I have actually never
had to be in the situation you are in. I
just called my parents with no worries but
then again I'm much older. But I totally
agree with Ingi!
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justforfun
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Posted: 05-08-08 12:59pm
Good luck to you. I have actually never
had to be in the situation you are in. I
just called my parents with no worries but
then again I'm much older. But I totally
agree with Ingi!
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kyrafaith
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Posted: 05-08-08 23:51pm
I completely agree with Ingi, but once you
confirm that you are pregnant tell your
parents. Im in a similar situation to you,
in that i am also only 18 and pregnant.
Just make sure you tell your parents, they
will only be more upset with you in the
long run if they find out you didnt tell
them when you knew. They may have a hard
time dealing with or accepting it at
first, but they will definately respect
you for taking responsibility and telling
them. I hope everything works out. <3
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 05-09-08 10:18am
Well what i did was I told my mom through
texts, and we talked back and forth and
when she promised she wasn't mad or
anything I went home. And things worked
out pretty good. Even my dad is starting
to come around
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krystineM
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Posted: 05-09-08 15:30pm
The earlier you tell them, the better.
Its tough to spit out, i wasn't on very
good terms with my parents [mostly my mom]
either before i told her.
I had planned to tell my mom and dad and
step mom all together because my parents
are divorced, but before i could do that,
my mom found out.
Then i told my step mom first before
telling my dad, and she sat with me when i
told my dad and was there as a
supporter...Maybe you could sit with your
mom first, and talk calmly with her about
it so then she can support you when you
tell your dad-OR-bring a friend that your
close with to your house so she could be
your supporter and be with you when you
tell your parents.
The sooner you tell them, the better, but
like Ingi said, make sure you know
exactally what your next step is going to
be. Because they will ask. Both my parents
hounded those questions at me.
Don't get mad if they get frustrated or
upset, they most likely will be mad, but
dont fight/argue with them because that
makes things worse. Just let them voice
the things they want to say, listen to
what they say and speak calmly when you
reply to their questions.
Best of luck
BTW-have you gone to a doctor to confirm
your pergnant?
Are you taking Pre-natal vitamins?
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bpgirl126
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hi all Posted: 05-09-08 17:19pm
IM SO NERVOUSSSS! hehe
i have gone to the doctor to confirm and
its positive i am having the baby.
i am not on prenatal vitamins, bu i will
be going to the store tomight to get
them....i havnt had the time...
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jessamyn
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Posted: 05-09-08 18:18pm
Hi bpgirl126, I got pregnant at 18 as
well. My advice, though not what you want
to hear is flat out tell them, the sooner
the better. Do you rely on them for
everything? Housing, finances, school,
insurance, etc...? Especially if you are
on their insurance they need to know. They
may be mad but eventually they will come
to their senses whether it takes days or
months.
You need to make the adult decision to
take action about this pregnancy now.
Sooner rather than later. The support of
your family makes a great stance.
Just make a plan before you tell them.
Write out your supporting answers to any
question they may ask/yell... just be
prepared and stand your guard. Yourenot a
child and you need not act like one.
Also, prenatals can be purchased from any
drug store, you should be taking them!
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Ingi
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Re: 18 and pregnant Posted: 05-10-08 12:43pm
bpgirl126
wrote:
About a month ago, my
partner and I had unprotected sex for the
first time. I am on the pill and have been
for about 8 months. My period was about a
month late, so i took a test and it was
negative, and then i still hadnt gotten it
so i tool another yesterday and it was
positive. Im already on bad terms with my
parents right now, they are very angry
with me...any suggestions how i should
break the news? Im really scared...
How far along are you? This wording
confuses me. About a month ago you had
unprotected sex with your partner for the
first time. You are on the pill. Your
period was about a month late so you took
a test and it was negative then you took
another one and it was positive. How long
inbetween these two tests?
What due date did the doctor give you?
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bpgirl126
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Posted: 05-10-08 13:40pm
hahaha yeah i understand how i was
cofusing, my apologies.
my doctor gave me January...oh crap...ill
get back? haha late january
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Ingi
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Posted: 05-10-08 15:43pm
bpgirl126
wrote:
hahaha yeah i understand how
i was cofusing, my apologies.
my doctor gave me January...oh crap...ill
get back? haha late
january
Weird.
If your EDD is January 30th, 2009 (end of
January), you would be 2 weeks pregnant.
Conception would be today... hurry up and
have sex so you can get pregnant!
I think if your period was at least a
month + late, you'd be due at the end of
November.
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