18 and want to get pregnant Posted: 06-10-08 20:15pm
me and my boyfriend are best friends. I
love him and he loves me alot. we plan on
getting married but i've been wanting a to
have a baby for as long as i can remember.
me and him decided we could try for a
couple of months to see if it happens if
not we are goin to wait until may of 09 to
try.
I just want some advise on getting
pregnant & staying pregnant. the last 2
times i've miscarried
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*star*
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Posted: 06-10-08 20:29pm
If you are going to get married, why not
wait until you are married, have a house,
a steady lifestyle before you bring a baby
into the world. No need to rush things
now.
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 06-10-08 22:26pm
I agree with star.
But once you have all that down, start
acting like you are already pregnant. Eat
right, take vitamins and exercise.
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his_babii
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Joined: 10 Jun 2008 Posts: 3
Posted: 06-11-08 08:02am
we thought about waiting to get married to
have kids. but we decided against it. this
is something that i've been wanting since
8th grade. and i decided to wait until i
graduated high school and was in a stable
relationship to have any children. I'm not
saying that i want to have 4 kids now.
just one.
Lilly Ivy- i've started taking prenatal
vitamins, basically eating healthy and
jogging every morning. its just i dont
know what else to do last time we tried i
miscarried at 7 weeks
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 06-11-08 08:29am
It may be something you want - there's
nothing wrong with that. But you need to
look at the bigger picture. Can you
provide everything your baby deserves
right now? Are you and your boyfriend
living on your own? Paying your rent and
utilities? Do you have jobs that pay well?
Do you have health insurance? Do you pay
for your car, gas, and insurance? What
about college? What about a career? What
about owning your own home someday?
And that's just for starters. Babies
require clothing, food, diapers, medicine,
toys, interaction, and supervision. Will
you stay home with your baby? Can you
afford to? Will you put your child in day
care? Can you afford that? Will your
parents watch the baby while you work? Are
they willing to do that? And how long
would your child spend with your parents
or at day care while you're working or
going to school? How much time will you
actually get to spend with your own
child?
Wanting a baby is one thing. Whether it's
a good decision right now is another thing
altogether. Babies are extremely expensive
and a huge responsibility. There are so
many lessons in life you still have to
learn, and these lessons come with
first-hand experience. Move out on your
own, establish your credit, get bills in
your own name, and live that way,
self-sufficient, for a year. Talk to your
boyfriend about getting married if you
still think it's what you both want. Get a
savings account started, get yourselves
established at your jobs, and THEN
consider having a baby.
It's difficult to start out on your own in
this world. It's even harder when you have
a tiny person who's completely dependent
on you to worry about. With the cost of
gas, food, and everything else going up so
high, you wouldn't believe how expensive
it is to survive out there. Don't add
another tiny person to the equation when
you haven't even started really living
your life yet. Ask yourself what your baby
deserves, and what you're able to actually
give them right now. That's the first step
towards being a mother - putting your
child's needs above your wants.
