Joined: 04 Jan 2008 Posts: 52 Location: Minnesota,
bf cheated now depressed Posted: 03-08-08 03:09am
I had some problems with depression back
in high school. I had many friends in
elementary and was kind of popular. Junior
high hit and I lost a couple friends,
mostly due to different schedules. High
school, I lost the rest of them. They
started hanging out with the wrong crowds,
and were doing things that I didn't agree
with such as smoking and drinking. My
great-grandpa passed away when I was a
junior in high school; I was actually in
the room and watched him take his last
breath. I became so depressed that I just
stared at the floor when i walked to avoid
eye contact with anyone. I just wanted to
go to school, do my homework, and go home.
Things got somewhat better for me as I
went on to college. I didn't really have
any friends in college, because I just
wanted to concentrate on my school work. I
have always been very self conscious, and
shy.
I met my first boyfriend in November. We
had a great time together, and got
extremely close. I had never opened up to
someone as much as I opened up to him. 3
days ago, he told me that he cheated on
me. Our relationship ended that day. I
trusted him, and loved him. I am getting
depressed again, and can't stop crying. I
feel like I am so alone, and that nobody
likes me. I feel like I am unattractive,
and I feel like I'll never find a guy. I
am very quiet, and have trouble meeting
people. I have trouble sleeping, and have
been taking benadryl to help me sleep at
night. I just want this pain to go away.
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Hart74
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Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 532 Location: Woodlands (not like there are woods anywhere near) Garden City ,
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Posted: 03-08-08 06:57am
Dear penpen,
Sorry for your lost and what you're going
through. Losing someone and breaking up is
a part and parcel of life, I've been
through all that. I lost the grandpa that
raised me from 3 days old, he actually
took his last breath infront of me after
battling diabeties and other complications
for about 2 years (he was bedridden) I
was 19/20 at that time. Breaking ups oh
boy, a lot that I can think of. I lost my
bestfriend of nearly 10 years when I was
23.
The thing to all these is to talk to
someone close or someone you trust. Don't
bottle up your sorrow. About not finding a
guy, the time will come for you, as for
your ex who cheated on you do you think
it's worth all these, hunny let me tell
you he's not worth of your tears and your
heart. Pm me if you want to talk, take
care - Hart74
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penpen
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2008 Posts: 52 Location: Minnesota,
Posted: 03-08-08 22:48pm
Thank you Hart74 for your response. I'm
sorry for the loss of your grandpa, and
your best friend.
I have been talking to my mom about all of
this, she is very supportive. My ex and I
used to text each other all day, everyday,
and now we aren't talking at all, and I
think that is the hardest part about all
of this. He taught me how to kiss, and he
was my first. I feel really stupid now,
because I'm not the kind of person who
just goes around having sex with
anyone...in fact, I wanted to wait until
marriage, but I loved him, and changed my
mind. I wish that I wouldn't have done
that. I have to get tested for STD's now
because even though he told me he was
clean, I don't trust him. I really cared
about him. He cheated on me, and thats why
the relationship ended....but I miss him!
Thank you for listening.
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PenguinsRus
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Joined: 05 Nov 2007 Posts: 1211 Location: New York, NY United States
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Posted: 03-11-08 14:41pm
I'm so so sorry for both of your loses. I
can only imagine how hard it is to watch a
loved one pass away before your eyes, and
it is understandable that it made you feel
so depressed. You should try to focus on
all the great times you had with him
instead of the last time you saw him. Do
you have pictures or any physical memories
with him (perhaps a ticket of something
you saw together)? Maybe making a scrap
book would help. It would let you
remember in a positive light the good
times you had with him and give you
something to keep forever.
Good for you for standing up for your
beliefs and not hanging out with friends
who made bad decisions. Sure, you may be
a few friends short, but its much better
than being stuck in the wrong crowd. At
least you can feel good about sticking to
your morals and being so strong.
Are you in college yet/do you have plans
of going? College can be a great place to
meet people who hold the same morals and
values as you, as well as similar
interests. There are often many clubs and
organizations that can help you find the
kind of people you want to associate
with.
I'm very very sorry to hear about your ex
as well. It has to be extremely hard to
be hit with that kind of information. I
know what a shock it must have been and
how scary it seems now, especially knowing
that he was a lot of your firsts. Time
will heal this wound, even though it may
seem impossible at this point. You will
find a guy who will treat you with the
respect that you deserve. Good luck, and
keep your head up high.
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fantasticj2
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Feb 2008 Posts: 23 Location: Miami, U.S.A
I'm so sorry for the things happening to you.. Posted: 03-19-08 14:58pm
I'm really sorry for the things that
happened to you. I know that you think
that theirs no hope for you to be happy
again, but i disagree. Life is all about
that. All my life i been having in my head
that friends comes and go. Just like
girlfriend and boyfriends. This is my
opinion, some other people might be lucky
on the girl or boyfriend relationship. I
got lucky just no when i met this girl,
But i wasn't lucky enought because she is
in Washington(state) and im in Miami
Florida. Is a long trip. But i will get
there and i'm almost there. Life sometimes
turns weird, everybody seems against you,
people in your family dying just like that
without you expecting it and maybe dying
when you most need them, just like
friends. Im really proud that you didn't
continue being friends with those in high
school that smokes and drink, trust me, It
wouldn't be good, you would have physical,
mind and organs problems such as alcoholic
and asthma. Knowing that you found a
person that you would be happy with and
then he just go like that(your
ex-boyfriend) is really hard to just even
thinking about it. You probably be
thinking that you would never find that
guy and that happiness, But nobody, NOBODY
in this world was born alone,. You
actually have that soul mate. And believe
it or not i think it was best that your
relationship ended fast because imagen 1
or more years of relationship and then you
find out he cheated on you, It would've
been worst. It makes scence, he wasn't the
guy you need and expected. And guys
nowaday just want to sex and have fun and
not taking anything serious, TRUST me i
know. This is why i think i will never
brake up or make my relationship hard for
us because i don't want my girlfriend to
end up with somebody like that. You know
what i do when im deppress? I think, and
think, and think, and you can even come
here and idk add me to your friendlist and
you can share your feelings, im all ears.
Depression can be control, but not just
make it disappear. I wish you good luck
because time like this in my life, it
would come harder and harder and more
depress. So, I wish you the best PenPen.
And if you want us to be friends, just add
me, i will add you too..
