Ok, so my boyfriend, has been sort of
avoiding me since I've been pregnant, and
then his dad stopped letting us hang out
and wants him to break up with me. He said
its because I'm pregnant, his sister told
me that he has no intention of being there
for me, and his dad wants him to break up
with me because he thinks I deserve
better. So I confronted him about it on
myspace and he flipped out, incredibly
defensive. And so I don't know what to
think, but I plan to keep this baby no
matter what, and when he turns 18 if we
haven't worked things out by then, I'm
going to collect child support.I refuse to
let him walk away from this like nothing
happened.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 04-13-08 19:09pm
I think you should try to talk to him
face-to-face. Myspace probably isn't the
best way to talk to him about such a major
issue.
You don't have to wait until he is 18 to
go after him for child support.
I think you should do what is best for
your child and yourself. If he is not
going to be there and support you, then I
agree, you do deserve better. Don't stay
with him simply because you have a child
with him. He can still be involved in your
child's life, even if you aren't
together.
The key is to be mature about this. Try to
stay civil with each other, it make every
thing easier that way.
Good luck
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 04-13-08 19:32pm
Thing is he hates talking about the baby,
and refuses to discuss it, I've given him
so many options, I've been more then
patient with him, and he has refused to
cooperate.
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krystineM
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Posted: 04-14-08 14:00pm
Guys are different when it comes to
baby's, they dont really bond or have a
connection until they are born.
If he's not being supporting, or acting
weird, think hard about what you think is
best for you and your baby. Tell him that
you want him to be in the baby's life,
that you want to be in a relationship with
him too, but in the end he's the one that
makes the final call.
I wouldnt wait until things work out, that
could take years [or less] i would start
collecting it from the time that baby is
born. Otherwise he'll just throw in your
face, how you never asked him for money
before, and he might just end up saying
no.
You should talk to him face to face too.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 04-14-08 14:55pm
I plan to start collecting right away when
the baby is born. I never see him anymore.
He avoids me on top of that.
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Posted: 04-14-08 15:02pm
Then i wouldn't waste my time stressing
over him.
He has to grow up, and be responsible for
his actions as well.
It takes two to make a baby, and two to
raise one as well.
But since he's acting like a child, i
wouldn't waste my time over him. He's
missing out on a beautiful thing, so he
can either choose to be a part of the
baby's life, or be a loser and leave his
baby and you.
I'd try talking to him one last time, face
to face, or getting one of his buddy's [if
you get along with any of them] to talk
some sense into his head.
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Ingi
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Posted: 04-14-08 16:12pm
Amethyst_Butterfly
wrote:
I plan to start collecting
right away when the baby is born. I never
see him anymore. He avoids me on top of
that.
Well, good luck collecting right away.
There will need to be a paternity test and
'court' or Child Support Enforcement of
some kind. This takes a little while. It
sounds like he is going to argue that he
isn't the father (at least it sounds like
his dad will push him to argue that he
isn't).
You'll be lucky to start getting child
support by the time the child is 3 months
old.
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 04-14-08 18:22pm
well his dad wants him to take
responsibility, and he hasn't denied it
yet. But he might. If he hasn't to others
already. What am I suppose to do about the
birth certificate, how do I get him to
sign it, will the courts make him? Or
should I see if he'll do it himself?
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Posted: 04-14-08 18:31pm
I am in a similar situation. The court
will put his name on the birth certificate
if he is found to be the father. But you
can't force him to sign it. I have talked
to a lady who worked in our local child
support office. She advised me to pay the
$25 and file for child support. The court
will order a paternity test and WHEN it is
proven my baby's father is indeed the
father, he will be responsible for paying
for it and they will collect child support
from him.
Note: My ex is also younger than me. His
parents are trying to get him to pay half
the hospital bill...yet to see any money
and it's due this month... He claims he
wants to take responsibility so he got a
job. Yet all the money he has made thus
far has been put solely into his car. He
just seems to SAY one thing and DO
another. I've seen him once in the past 2
months...
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 04-14-08 19:59pm
Yeah this guy is younger then me as well.
And his parents want him to take
responsibility, but hes not offering to do
anything. in fact I haven't heard from him
in several days, and don't think I will
for a while. But if he thinks I'm going to
let him walk away, he's got another thing
coming to him.
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