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boyfriend didn't stick up for me Posted: 03-28-08 21:16pm
so me and my boyfriend have been going out
for a little over a year now. and he
smoked before we went out but he quit
because i have asthma and he told me he
loved me and that he would stop. well the
other day i found 2 lighters in his
pocket. he lied and said he was holding
them for his friend. i knew he was lying.
so i kept questioning him and he finally
told me. he has started to smoke again. it
made me so upset. should i been mad at him
or upset for him starting to smoke again?
i dont know what to say to him. i mean, i
was just him to tell me when he smokes. i
dont want to have to find out that he is.
i just want to be told. any ides what i
could do to make him know that im not mad?
oh and we were hanging out with his
friend tonight and his girlfriend and it
was all good and all till her boyfriend
pissed me off. he was jumping on the back
of my car constantly after i asked him to
stop nicely. and he started to get an
attitude with me so i threw a little bit
of my water on him. not much. then his
girlfriend was like aww its cold i cant
believe you did that. and i was like well
i told him to stop. get over it. was i
wrong to do that? oh and on top of that my
boyfriend didnt even stick up for me? he
rarely sticks up for me..
well answer my questions please.
i need some answers please
thank you i appreciate it!!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 03-31-08 14:32pm
Wow, ok. thats actually funny that you
threw water on him, lol. Anyways, I
probably would have screamed at him and
maybe done the same thing. I would also
get upset if my boyfriend wouldn't stick
up for me. my ex said he would never get
into a fight over me and to me that shows
he doesn't care. My current boyfriend
*does* stick up for me and is slightly
protective and I love it! I don't blame
you for wondering about it. You should
talk to him and see what he says. You'll
be able to tell whether he stays out of it
because thats how he is or if he just
doesn't give a crap.
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IMCONCERNED
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Joined: 15 Mar 2008 Posts: 5 Location: ,
Posted: 04-01-08 11:56am
Smoking: Many people who try to quit
smoking do not succeed on the first try
and many will also try to hide the fact
that they have failed. Reasons for the
dishonesty about smoking may very but for
most it is just embarrassment about
failing and I would not read too much into
him hiding this from you. I quit smoking
several times before I actually succeeded
so I know it’s not easy. Personally, the
thing that helped me the most in my
efforts to quit was when my wife stopped
bothering me about it. I know she was only
showing her concern for my health but it
seemed to put additional pressure on me
that I did not handle well. Try to
encourage him to try again without adding
to the pressures of stopping. I hope he
succeeds because it will be one of the
best things he ever did for himself.
As far as him sticking up for you, I am
lost on that one because I am overly
protective of my wife to the point that I
have punched guys for disrespecting her.
Did you tell him how you felt about it and
what did he say?
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ladyT02
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Posted: 04-09-08 18:22pm
no matter how annoying your guys friends
get be the bigger person and not throw
things at em lol your boyfriend should
have been the one to tell him something
not you. for the smoking its not easy my
guy is going thru it but i wont go off on
him if he suddenly feels a craving and has
a smoke. but when he is doing good i.ll
praise him for it. if he doesnt stick up
for you i say stick up for yourself, my
guy dos but wen it comes to other females
he lets me do the dirty work lol after he told
me he was glad that he wasnt with a yes
girl, a girl who acts spoiled, like a baby
etc but that she sticks up for herself
even if it sometimes means against him.
some guys like independant girls
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xPantera
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Joined: 27 Jun 2008 Posts: 5
Posted: 07-07-08 15:49pm
About the smoking, just give him time.
About him sticking up for you...you
shouldn't have to depend on him to fight
for you, you're supposed to do that for
yourself. If he doesn't do it, then
whatever, just don't worry about it.
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lol after he told
me he was glad that he wasnt with a yes
girl, a girl who acts spoiled, like a baby
etc but that she sticks up for herself
even if it sometimes means against him.
some guys like independant girls