Yes it's normal. What if your bf and his ex just wants to be friends? Is it wrong for friends to check up on each other??

I believe calling his ex to see if she is okay is a legit reason and nothing to worry about.

Get back with him, he didn't deserve what you did to him and I strongly believe he needs a second chance, so give it to him.

But be on your toes, if anything seems fishy, than ask him and talk to him. Let him explain the best he can. Basically be understanding.

In my opinion, what you did was unfair, breaking up with him over such matters.

Give him a chance, he might be actually checking up on her like he said and you might look stupid thinking that he was going to or is cheating on you.

Remember in most relationships, guys worry more about the possibility that his girl might break up with him, no matter how stable the relationship is.

Tell me what happens.

Cheers,

Peter

I do not think thats its normal for him to talk to his ex. I understand that she has chrons and I do feel bad for her. But.....he could have told you first...before he called her...so that he could get your input on the situation. He should have told you before and not after. If I was you, I would keep checking on those phone records.

Depends on the situation...some people were friends with their exes before they decided to be in a relationship and then ended on good terms hoping to remain friends...so it really depends...though I know my boyfriend has no business talking to his ex..actually..he wouldn't really want to..and I dont care to talk to mine personally....but you may have over reacted by ending the relationship, i think you should have talked to him about it first and see what is up..let him know that you dont think this is something he should hide...i always say honestly is the best policy..even if something isn't a big deal..the fact that someone hides it makes it a big deal..bc then you question if it wasn't a big deal, why would you go to the trouble to hide it? anyway..just talk to him about how you feel..i dont think really he's done much wrong just let him know it makes you uncomfortable if you wish to get back into the relationship

Couldn't have said it better, Worrywart01.

-Peter

Hmm,

I think that he definietly either feels sorry for her or he feels sorry for himself for leaving her.

Jenny, has he been trying to call and get back together with you?

Jenny,

The real problem is not whether you are justified in feeling betrayed or not. I dont care if his EX was mother TERESA with Crones Disease!

The fact of the matter is that THE CORE FOUNDATION of a relationship is to be supportive and cherishing of each other's feelings.

Even if the whole world including indigenous tribes say that you are overracting... It doesn't change the fact that HE took on the RESPONSIBILITY of being an emotional supporter for you... HE and ONLY HE. and ... well.. he failed.

So... Either he can say...

a. "My girlfriend is tooooo high maintenance!" and leave...
or B.
b. He can say... "I can see how you'd be upset. Since there is a conflict of interest, Your feelings are more important to me than my Ex's."

What you can do is...

A. Evaluate whether your feelings are worth coping with for the sake of keeping the relationship.
OR

B. Finding someone else who cherishes your feelings and defends them as the most precious gift he's ever been entrusted.

IF A: Then support him in his actions that are hurtful to you. (People tend to STOP doing hurtful thing as soon as you act like it doesnt hurt)