boyfriend wants to move out...with the guys Posted: 06-18-08 21:31pm
well my boyfriend was telling me how he
wants to get a 3bedroom 2 bathroom house
in the city and we could all move in
together. so it would be me and him with
our own room, and the other 2 guys have
their own rooms. it sounds awesome cause
we all have the same interests and get
along super well. they've stayed over
quite a few times and it doesnt bother me,
i just wouldnt want them to be out driving
drunk etc you kno. i wouldnt mind moving
out with the guys cause their
respectful,responcible,and dont cause any
problems. but im scared that being the
only female there would mean that i would
have to cook for all of them lol i make
something to eat for my guys friends when
they come to visit, but living together
would be a whole different thing you know.
i wouldnt want them or my boyfriend to
think that since im the only female there
that imgonna be feeding everybody or
cleaning up after everybody. any advice?
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Ingi
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Posted: 06-18-08 21:43pm
You should just say it right out. Just
because you are the female doesn't mean
you are required to take care of everyone.
I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't even start
doing anything like it or else it might
become one of those things where they
expect it.
Living with people is hard. Make sure
everyone is on the lease and all the other
bills (internet, phone, electricity, etc)
- because what starts out very friendly,
often doesn't end that way.
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sagegrl81
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Joined: 19 Jun 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 06-19-08 13:37pm
I lived with a bunch of guys at one time.
They never cleaned up after themselves and
never washed thier dishes. I only cooked
for them for special occasions. How these
guys live now will indicate what you are
getting yourself into. Are they neat or
messy? Do they cook or order takeout?
And most important what do thier bathrooms
look like? Have they ever been cleaned?
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Rosie H
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Posted: 06-19-08 14:03pm
I would not agree to anything until you
make sure to set down rules of the house.
Now by rules I just mean what all the
other posters said. Let them know that
they will have to take care of themselves.
Let you BF know how you feel too. If you
want to cook and clean for your BF thats
one thing, but if they expect you to do it
for everyone??? Then no way. The most
important thing is to come to an agreement
before you move in. Otherwise they could
try to walk on you later and it will be
even harder to get your point across.
You could also set a schedule. Like X days
you do the cleaning and X days I will do
the cooking. make like a chore list of
some sort that everyone follows. I know it
sounds like kid stuff but we adults also
need guidence in the house, especially a
bunch of bacholers.
I personally would do a chore list of
everyones responsibilites of the home. IF
they dont follow the dont do it for them.
Best wishes!
