Joined: 20 Mar 2007 Posts: 4 Location: san francisco
boyfriends lack of sex drive Posted: 05-09-08 01:26am
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about
7 months, but I have been friends with him
for over a couple years. I am a very
sexual person, and need sex in a
relationship. alot of it. really good
sex. The beginning of our relationship
was wonderful. We'd just stay in bed all
night. Lately, my boyfriend wont even
touch me. He is on clonzepam for panic
attacks, and recently tried getting off
it, but had to get back on. Granted, we
are staying at his mother's for the time
being (until we find a place), and have
been constantly around each other, but I
still need sex. It's the only thing that
makes me truly happy. I can't talk to him
about it because he will say I am being
dramatic. I don't know if I should leave
him, I really am not attracted to him
except for the sex. He's my good friend
though.
ugg. someone help me please. I feel like
I'm stuck here.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-09-08 01:40am
Why would you stay with someone if it was
just a sexual thing? Especially if you
weren't getting any sex? (No disrespect,
it just sounded funny)
Talk to him about it. Really, thats the
only thing you can and should do. Just
tell him how you feel and then ask how
he's feeling. Honestly, if he just blows
off your feelings and says you're being
dramatic then his sex must be amazing
because there's no other reason that
you've stated for you to be there
with him.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-13-08 10:43am
Your with him for sex and only sex but
your getting nothing? Why would you waste
his and your time like that? Why would you
move in with him? Thats what couples who
are in love ad plan on having a long
relationship do. Not just for sex.
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freakyfashionista
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Joined: 09 Mar 2008 Posts: 18
Posted: 07-18-08 17:08pm
I agree with the previous poster, but it
also worries me that you say sex is the
only thing that really makes you happy--in
life? in relationships? I also love sex,
and never get enough of it with my
husband, who doesn't understand that it
makes me feel better psychologically even
more than physically. But there have been
times in my life where other things made
me feel that good psychologically. What
sorts of other things make you happy?
Which of these things can you include in a
relationship? It sounds like there's
other things you like about him, since he
was your friend before he was your lover!
What attracted him to you as a friend?
I also don't want to sound harsh, but what
do you look for in a guy besides good
sexual ability? (I mean, an expensive
vibrator can do more things in that region
than a guy can...) What other pleasure
can you find with him? If the answer is
nothing, then this relationship doesn't
sound great... And yes, I think most
people don't feel turned on by their
parents' house... but you won't live there
forever, right?
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worrywart01
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Posted: 07-18-08 22:22pm
Maddie34
wrote:
Why would you stay with
someone if it was just a sexual thing?
Especially if you weren't getting any sex?
(No disrespect, it just sounded funny)
Talk to him about it. Really, thats the
only thing you can and should do. Just
tell him how you feel and then ask how
he's feeling. Honestly, if he just blows
off your feelings and says you're being
dramatic then his sex must be amazing
because there's no other reason that
you've stated for you to be there
with him.
haha good point
maybe the reason you aren't getting any is
because he's starting to feel...used? I
mean you basically said the relationship
was about sex...and like maddie said..if
you aren't getting any..whats the
point?...plus..you really dont need to use
him like that...some guys have feelings
you know....believe it or not
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marvel
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Posted: 07-19-08 10:42am
Quote:
I really am not
attracted to him except for the
sex
^leave him. If you're not attracted to him
except for the fact that he puts out, the
relationship is doomed anyways.
