Bulimia (Asking for help) Posted: 07-17-08 23:10pm
I'm 17 years old, 5'5 about 110lbs. I feel
great about myself, extremely active,
tri-athlete, good student, involved in as
much as I can and so excited about my
future. But over the past year I started
growing and losing weight naturally and I
didn't want to put any weight on so thats
when bulimia came into the picture. I know
myself well and I would think I could
overcome this by myself, but I'm having
doubts that I can do it by myself. I
haven't told anyone because I'm pretty
disappointed in myself. Recently I've been
getting horrible stomach pains which is
causing a loss of appetite...so I'm asking
for help. All this has got to stop and I
want a healthy lifestyle.
Thanks for reading.
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rowdyg
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Posted: 07-20-08 18:43pm
Hi Keeno,
I think you've made the first step in
looking for help, which is recognizing
that this is not good for your health. My
husband was actually bulimic when he was
in high school (he wasn't my husband then)
and on and off through college... he
always told me that he "had it under
control" but he was full of crap! It
wasn't until he admitted to me that he had
a problem - and I helped him by seconding
his desire to quit - that he was finally
able to stop.
Even though it might be hard, I would
actually suggest telling someone that can
keep you accountable - someone you're
around regularly who might notice if you
make a quick trip to the bathroom.
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kandersonn
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Joined: 24 Jun 2008 Posts: 21
Posted: 07-22-08 01:18am
Hello Keeno, about your problem, i am very
much agreed with rowdyg but if u feel not
to keep accountable with u then you
canyourself maintain a diary but stick on
that. For a time being jus write down and
plan out evrything you can feel to control
yourself.
If you want to have something then you can
eat but take some small gap/time
intervals....have something light that you
can digest...Keep avoiding even looking at
junk and canned food.
For the results first and formost you have
to be strict on your plans. If this doen't
work and if you are having problem
maintaining this..will suggest you other
good solution but atleast give a week
trial strictly.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 07-22-08 07:04am
If she is having horrible stomach pains
she sounds like she must having another
condition aside of the eating disorder.
That pain could be due to ulcers. I would
go to the doctor asap.
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danielv
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Posted: 07-22-08 08:01am
you seem very competative - which is a
great quality to have, and one that can
help you to achieve alot in life.
nevertheless, you may want to ask yourself
whether you are doing all this for
attention, for approval, or to attain
something that you want.
i'm sure that its a combination of all
those things. approval and attention feed
our ego, but that sort of fuel tends to
make us only crave more. i would suggest
that you re-evaluate your priorities in
life.
also, there is a difference between
attention and love. it's natural to want
to be loved and to love others.
we are all seeking love in all of it's
forms. don't settle for flattery.
good luck
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danielv
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Posted: 07-22-08 08:02am
all of this bulemia and stomach pains are
just symptoms of the pressure you are
putting on yourself. just ask yourself
why.
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keeno
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Joined: 17 Jul 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 07-22-08 22:10pm
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it is
helpful.
Going back to what a few of you have
said,
I do keep a journal...since I was 8 now.
I'm going to reevaluate my priorities and
whats important to me. Health is a top
priority. Since I've posted this forum
I've actually been doing better...I think
that I released a little of this
ridiculous secret I've been keeping it's
taken weight off my shoulders.
The competiveness danielv has to be a
factor.
I know many may think I should tell
someone close to me about this, but I'm
going to give it about a week to see if I
can really stop the nonsense on my own.
Going to an online forum is very unlike
me...I'm glad I did. Thanks again.
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kandersonn
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Joined: 24 Jun 2008 Posts: 21
Posted: 07-23-08 02:38am
Hey keeno, it's gud to know that you
really taking all this things so sincerely
and dedicately working as very true and i
am also agreed with danielv that we should
ser priorities in life first. And i am so
happy that you know how health is
important. Competiveness can be a factor
but not dominating over other important
factors. Don't take too much stress and
jus keep a track of small things also.
Take your own sweet time, a week or two
but analyse carefully so that u can leave
a mark on this forum with a well known
identity and it will work for others also
who suffering from same problem.
If everything going well and it effect jus
suggest and share your views on this forum
to help others too
good luck
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mhunter916
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There is help... Posted: 07-23-08 09:49am
Keeno, for eating disorders there is a
12-step program called Food Addicts in
Recovery that is for both overweight and
those with ED to stay thin. It is a
fellowship of those that help you deal
with what is going on inside your head
that makes people over eat or starve or
purge. Not sure if there are any meetings
in your area, but you can check online at
www.foodaddicts.org.
It's a non-profit organization that is
self funded, there are no dues or
membership fees, people donate a dollar or
two at each meeting. Like with
alcoholics, food addicts have found an
uncontrollable urge to eat because of an
allergy to sugar, and flour. Once you
find a sponsor, you are guided in a new
way of eating and trusting a Higher Power
to help you do what you can't do on your
own. Check out the website.
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alivia-jhonnes
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Joined: 23 Jul 2008 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-24-08 00:29am
Hey mhunter916 Its really nice to read the
referred website. Specially FA taught me
how to live and free to enjot life. It
will motivate people who lacks. My brother
is having Eating disorder and as he is
short hightened it will look more over
weighted and fatty. I will surely refer
him this site and will tell him to try.
As we don't have such public teams so i
request you to keep in touch when
something new information flashed.
Thank you
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keeno
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Joined: 17 Jul 2008 Posts: 6
Slowly but surely Posted: 09-21-08 00:04am
Just an update:
I'm not completely recovered and I'm still
pretty upset with myself about that, but I
think I've been improving. I know its
horrible, but I was doing the bulimic
thing almsot everyday and lately its just
been every once in awhile...I know its not
perfect but I feel like its an improvement
from where I was a few weeks/month ago.
My schedules been very busy...stressful,
but the busy part helps because I'm
occupied on the tasks at hand rather than
sitting back and stressing about stupid
things.
I stand alone when it comes to fixing this
because I'm too ashamed to tell anyone
besides the "forum" ha, but in the long
run I think this will make me stronger. I
hope this is helping other people reading
as well.
Take care everyone
-keeno
