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STB7542
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mom in l & d room ?
Posted: 03-12-08 14:02pm
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So this is my first child, I'm about 20
weeks or so along, and already starting to
panic about the delivery. I'm planning on
doing it naturally mainly just to
experience the whole experience of birth,
and I figure if my mom could do it with me
than I could totally do it. Anyway my
question is obviously my husband is going
to be there during the delivery but I also
really want my mom there, mainly for moral
support and with this being my husbands
first child too I don't know how he's
gonna be as far as staying calm and not
panicing. I know my mom will be awesome
and keep me calm and mainly give me a
sense of relief as I know I'm going to be
terrified and need someone who I know is
strong there to tell me I can do it.
Anyway do most hospitals allow two people
to be in the room during the delivery?
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 03-19-08 10:18am
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My mum and boyfriend were with me whilst i
gave birth to my daughter, most hospitals
should be fine with having more than one
person with you
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 03-20-08 19:40pm
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Most hospitals do allow no more then 2 in
the room. Now that we have private
dilivery rooms, it makes it alot easier
for mom and baby to have that closeness
too. I personally don't think you will
have a problem. BTW: I had two of my boys
natural and it is the most wonderful thing
in this world in my opinion.
Good luck, you will do just fine.
Carrie
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lexismummy
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Posted: 03-27-08 17:07pm
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yes most hospitals do allow 2 people in
the room at a time...i am fortunate enough
to be having my child at lexington
hospital which allows up to 3 people not
including Dr.s and dulas. so my boyfriend
my mother and my childerens godmother will
be able to watch
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Saragirl
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Posted: 04-11-08 10:30am
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i had my boyfriend, my best friend, and my
mom with me, my step dad was in the room
behind the curtain so he couldnt see, but
he got to see emma as soon as i was all
covered up
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CarolDiane
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Congratulations
Posted: 04-11-08 10:40am
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Congrat's on the birth of you new girl.
She is beautiful. I am so happy that you
had your family there with you too.
Now you can forget the pain. Childbirth is
so unbelievable being so painful but,
never remembered. Best of luck to all of
you and may she have a healthy and happy
life.
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worriedauzzi
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Posted: 07-06-08 01:35am
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I am a couple of days away from my due
date and my mum has decided she will be in
the room, haha she is more excited then I
think I am. Yes all hospitals should allow
at least 2 support partners. My mother
will be with me cause lets face it growing
up when you were in pain most kids want
there mums for comfort and now that I am
having my own I still need my mum to
comfort me and for her to witness the
birth of her first grandchild will be
something never to be forgotten. Also my
younger sister will be cutting the
umbilical cord since partner has a weak
stomach and my father will be waiting
outside so hopefully if all goes to plan I
will be able to endure a drug free birth
with the people that mean the most to me
witnessing it. So goodluck with your birth
and having your mum by your side.
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eeyore46
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Posted: 07-06-08 02:08am
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Good luck - I would not do it pain free
when they can give you an epidural and
ease the pain and the delivery is much
faster with the Pitocin drip. Also, why
put yourself through that when it is not
harmful to you or the baby and makes the
experience much easier and more pleasant.
I am sorry, I had two c-sections - one
after 34 hours of labor and the other was
3 weeks early so they gave me a spinal
block and my husband was able to be there
for the delivery. You do what feels
natural to you. After all you are the
MOMMY! Yes, I think they let 2 - 3 people
in the delivery room.
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worriedauzzi
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Posted: 07-10-08 02:15am
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Yeah my whole pregnancy i said i would
take the epidural but then i thought about
it ... I have probably only had 3 panadole
in my entire life and I have never had any
medication before even when I broke a
bone, so I will try to go without pain
killers mainly because my body has never
had chemicals in it before and if I can
bare going without then I will. I'm due
tomorrow so i'll write sometime next week
to say if I managed without drugs LOL. By
the way 36 hours of labour OH MY! I would
NOT be able to hold out that long!
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eeyore46
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Posted: 07-10-08 02:46am
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No, I should not have either. They let
me go way to long until my baby boy was in
distress as well as myself. They finally
took me to the operating room, gave me
anesthesia and took him c-section. I was
exhausted and my son was in stess. I was
not awake since they gave me the
anesthesia to see him born. It is a
miracle he lived. After I delivered him,
the doctor told me that I was too small to
even have delivered a 2 lb baby. He was
only 6 lbs. My baby girl was 5 lbs,
c-section -early - and just an epidural
and my husband was there for the
delivery.
Recently two of my friends gave birth the
same day. I was going back and forth to
both rooms - pretty funny now.
Anyway.........one had the pitocin drip
and delivered in 7 hours and the other
delivered without medication and delivered
in 14 hours. It was the first for both. I
may be wrong, but from what I understood
that day from the doctor was that the
pitocin helps you deliver faster and is
safe for the mother and the baby.
I think it is up to the mother - after all
you are the one delivering. If you want
to deliver without meds then do it, but I
think there is a time limit on when the
epidural will take affect, should you
decide otherwise. Good luck!
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CarolDiane
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Best of luck
Posted: 07-10-08 02:47am
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Childbirth is one of the most wonderful
moments one can ever go through. And I
can't blame you mom for being excited. I
was in the delivery room with both my
sisters kids and I think I was pushing
harder then she was. I was exhusted at the
end. Many do not realize that your birth
partners are on of the most important
people you will ever have to pick in you
life besides a husband or mate.
I wish you the best of luck, happiness and
a healthy baby.
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eeyore46
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Posted: 07-10-08 03:02am
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I agree - I was so disappointed when I was
anesthetized and could not see my first
born. It was a totally different
experience when my baby girl was born.
Even though she was premature and
c-section, I was awake and got to see her
as soon as she was born. My husband
almost passed out, but I kissed and hugged
her before they even cleaned her up. I
did not know either time what I was having
- boy/girl. I already had my baby boy and
then had my baby girl. I was so happy
when they told me she was healthy since
she was born 4 weeks early and I was awake
to experience her birth. You are right,
it is the most wonderful experience you
will ever have. We as mothers, have a high
pain tolerance, just keep telling
yourself, this too shall pass, and then I
will have my sweet baby.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 07-10-08 04:07am
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It was also my husband and my choice not
to know the sex of the baby. To me, that
is taking away the feeling of surprise. I
got everything in yellow and light green.
LOL, I had three boys. And each time, we
were ready for them as girls were hard to
come by on both our sides of the family. I
had my first two asleep. But my third I
had natural and it was such a wonder
handing him to me and putting me in a
wheel chair with him and bring him myself
to the nursery. As much as I love all my
boys, there has alway been an extra
closeness and friendship between Chirs and
I.
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eeyore46
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Posted: 07-10-08 23:53pm
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I am very close to each of mine. Yes, I
wish I could have seen my first born
immediately after he was taken c-section,
but I was asleep. As I said in an earlier
post, I did get to see my little girl
immediately after she was born c-section.
The bond between both children are the
same for me. Sometimes we do not have a
choice, but for me the relationships I
have with both is the same. Good luck
sweetie! You will know what all this talk
is about once you have your little one -
haha
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Posted: 07-11-08 02:52am
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You gals have no idea how lucky you are to
have the privedge of have pitocin for
induction. In my day we had somethng
similair that went under your tounge but
did not work have as fast. Ya wanna here a
funny story?
When I worked maternity unit, I had never
seen a delivery. So, this night I went in
and approched one of the waiting doc;s if
I could scub and go in if I stood out of
the way. At that time we still had
delivery rooms instead of bithing rooms.
He said yes! I got a cup of coffee and sat
at the nurses station just watching the
status board. I really don't know what
happen but, for some reason I got called
away. When I got back, the delivery I had
gotton permission to see was already fully
dialated and fully afaced and crowned!
OMG! I said, I will never make it in
there. Well, I did. And ladies let me tell
you, on my end, childbith was one of the
most awesome things I have ever seen from
my view and ( being a mother) the last
thing you are thinking about is looking to
see your child born. Aftr so many years, I
had forfilled one of my dreams in health
care.
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Posted: 07-11-08 10:22am
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You girls are making me feel guilty about
my c-section! I really wanted to do it, no
meds, no nothing. I ended up getting
preeclampsia and induced at 38wks. 15hours
later, 1cm and no effacement. I couldn't
get out of bed, they had me on some nasty
medicine to keep my BP down (also stops
labor  )
but didn't even help.
I watched my sister give birth naturally.
Needless to say I was speechless for
awhile, partly due to no sleep the night
before though. She tried to have an
epidural, but it didn't work. She went
from 7cm, sat up for the epi, half hour
later, no epi, fully dilated. 5 pushes
later, out pops a 7lb 8oz baby girl! Oh,
and a little tip if you are watching
(especially if you are a woman) look away
when they pull out the scissors for an
episiotomy, I could hear them cutting
*shudders*.
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Posted: 07-11-08 10:26am
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It depends on your doctor's preference on
how many people he/she will allow in the
delivery room. My doctor would allow no
more than 2.
I had my boyfriend and mother in the room
with me.
Personally, my mother drove me CRAZY!
She kept saying I wasn't doing it right
and whatever. Then her phone started to
ring obnoxiously while I was pushing. She
told me she shut it off then my next push,
it started ringing again. I grabbed it and
smashed it against the wall HAHA.
She to this very day, still tells me what
a b**** I was...
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Posted: 07-11-08 10:37am
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I only had my husband in the room. I
didn't want any family anywhere near my
room. It creeps me out to think of my
family seeing me go through that. I didn't
allow them into the room until I'd given
birth, the mess had been cleared away, and
I'd taken a shower and eaten.
There wasn't enough room for more people
anyway. I had a doctor, a few nurses, and
three medical students in there besides my
husband. I had enough people staring at my
down-below already.
We're thinking of filming this birth, but
only for us (well, me really). I'm not
planning to show the tape to anyone. "And
here's my vagina stretching to the size of
a basketball!" No thank you.
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Posted: 07-13-08 05:41am
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Haha that sounds JUST like my mum her
phone always rings (LOUDLY) at the worst
moments and refuses to turn it off. I am
overdue and she came in with me to see the
doctor and she promised me her phone was
switched off and the second we were in the
room it rang. So now I am booked in for an
induction! Hopefully i'll go into labour
before getting induced.
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