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yogahoneybunny

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Caregiver just lost patient
Posted: 04-10-08 06:18am

Hi all,

My aunt just lost her main patient, as grandma recently passed away. What should we expect in terms of helping her? (she helped an invalid grandmother for more than 10 years at home). Any tips appreciated.
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Tmddyan

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Posted: 04-10-08 12:41pm

oh my--I hope that you aunt is handling this ok---we had a client die in the past year and it was really hard on all of us. But for the rest of the clients we kept a happy face. It helped them a lot and in their way they supported us and helped us get over loosing him. He was a great guy. Im sure that pointing out all the good things that they had together would help. we did that and it helped us laugh agin. We made a poster of our best photos of him too.
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Posted: 04-10-08 15:39pm

I'm so sorry for the loss. I would recommend listening to your aunt when she needs to talk.
One of the biggest things I noticed is when we lose a loved one or one we cared for such as a client, people are there for you for the first few weeks then they get busy with their life and we are still in mourning. Keep in touch with your aunt, it's so important to be there after the weeks have passed, because whoever is in charge of making arrangements, packing up your grandma's belongings, etc... it is difficult and even into the months, years that go by a song, a phrase,anything might trigger a memory and to have someone to talk to about it is important so they can share it with you.
I also made a collage of photos, then another project I took photos and put them to music on a disc and these are memories that we will have forever.

How I miss my grandpa..Sad
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Posted: 04-11-08 16:27pm

Great suggestions. Thanks, everyone. We'll see how it goes. The blessing of this is that grandma was 87 and aunt is 57. She didn't really get a chance to leave the house much in 10 years. Now, she can be more flexible with her time...and grandma lived a long, rich life. But I like the idea of the memorial. I think that's a great idea...but what about the bed where she was laying all that time? Maybe a furniture re-arrange?
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Posted: 04-11-08 20:12pm

Maybe your aunt can make the room into a den or if she prefers to keep it as is that's OK also.

I wouldn't rush to make any decision unless your aunt is ready. How is she doing?

How are you holding up?

Take Care
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