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Co-worker want to hook me up with his cousin Posted: 04-16-08 23:08pm


I got a co-worker of mine, whos a pretty cool guy. He's really taken a liking to me. We were petty good buddies, I gues you can say. He recently got his cousin a job as a cashier at our work. And he really, really want me too hook up with his cousin. However, his cousin is 16 and I'm 18. I find this age gap very wrong, like wrong that I could get in trouble for it. He really wants me to hook up with her cause I pretty much have my head on straight. Going to college for building renovation, plan to start my own company in the future, poilte, a real delite to be around, etc.. Anyways I wont hook up with her, cause I don't like the age gap. Opinions

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Posted: 04-16-08 23:12pm


if you dont want to hook up with her then dont. it is your choice. and by "hook up" do you mean date or just have sex with her. the age and legal teoubles only come if you have sex with someone younger, going on a date has no harm when it comes to legal matters.

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Posted: 04-16-08 23:21pm


hook up i mean date, and then he wants the relationship to turn out to a boyfriend-girlfriend thing

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Posted: 04-17-08 11:54am


well if you dont want to, i wouldn't do it. Besides, if you do end up dating and broke up, wouldnt things be weird between you and your friend.

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Posted: 04-17-08 13:39pm

coliejo wrote:

if you dont want to hook up with her then dont. it is your choice. and by "hook up" do you mean date or just have sex with her. the age and legal teoubles only come if you have sex with someone younger, going on a date has no harm when it comes to legal matters.

Not in all cases do you get into trouble for havnig sex with someone younger than you. In some statesd you can be 16 others 17 and the counter partner may be an adult. However since this is not the case. . .

I don't see anything wrong with dating someone 2 years younger than you. It might sound bad to you right now but 2 years is nothing. My boyfriend is actually 3 years younger than I am and I'm 23. It's pretty much whatever your comfortable with. Don't let someone push you into a relationship because it's what they want either.

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Posted: 04-17-08 13:56pm


yeah my boyfriend is 2 and a half years older than me and we started dating when i was 14, so if age is the only thing stopping you from dating her, I wouldnt worry too much about it

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Posted: 04-17-08 21:09pm


If I were to date her and brake up with her, I would think things would be strange between us. I'm going to be a General Contractor he wants to be a Plumber and wants to work together. Things would be strange, work wise as well, if we were to partner up. I don't really see anything wrong with dating someone younger and/or older then you. My cousin and her husband have 2 years difference, she is older then him. But its different when I am 18 and she has just turned 16. I'm born 1989 and she is born 1992.

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Posted: 04-18-08 06:15am


It's only because she's 16 and like I said, it sounds bad but really in a few years you wont think that way anymore. Let me tell you, when I was 16 I was dating a 21 year old. . . Probably not the best of things I did, lol but he had no problems with it. What you really need to be looking at is how well the two of you get along or click. She may be 16 but lots of girls are way more mature than their age. Maybe after talking to her it wont bother you about how old she is. Do you (and the girl) work together directly? Or just with your friend? If you do get together with her I would tell your friend that anything that happens between you and the girl is your own business and you do not want it affecting your relationship with him in anyway. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel pretty much.

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Posted: 04-18-08 22:51pm

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

It's only because she's 16 and like I said, it sounds bad but really in a few years you wont think that way anymore.

In a few years, yeah I wont think that way because it wont really be bad. But when you think of it 16 is still a kid, 18 is an adult. Say we were to hook up, and we are still going out in like two years. Whats would she say to her friends, yeah my boyfriend is 20 almost 21 and hes a general contractor, making it big in construction. And she is still 17 not 18.

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

Let me tell you, when I was 16 I was dating a 21 year old. . . Probably not the best of things I did, lol but he had no problems with it.

My buddie did that for a few months when he was 16. She was actually dating a 22 year old. She was pretty laid back, chill and everything, really like him but used him to get with his buddie who was 18. When she got with his buddie, she ended up getting pregnant and then getting married within a few months.

~*~Melissa~*~ wrote:

Do you (and the girl) work together directly? Or just with your friend?

Somewhat. I work the floor as a sales associate, she works as a cashier. So when she pages, I'm usually the one who answer the pages (in general)
Well I don't work directly wiith her cousin either. He works merchendising department, so they set up promotional items but hes around the store all the time, but we do work together.

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Posted: 04-19-08 00:45am


I am 18 right now and my bf is 21 and out of school and working as a mechanic and stuff, it is not weird at all for us. We have been dating now for 4 years and even when he was 18 and I was 15, I didnt think too much of it. His mom thought the age diffecterence was a little much but she was ok with it.

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Posted: 04-19-08 21:18pm


Yeah but is better now, since your 18. Its looked upon different. The other thing is shes pretty much the same as my brother, he's turning 16 in July (the 2nd to be exact), I think that would be kinda strange as well. Like you said your mom thought about the age difference. What are her parents (divorced) going to say?

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Posted: 04-20-08 10:21am


I dont know what her parents would say, it depends on how they are. Some parents wont care at all and others will think it is a big deal. Two years really isnt too much for parents to worry about, i wouldnt think. Her being the same age as your brother might be weird for me too. But jyst remember that girls usually mature faster than boys and a lot of women do date older guys

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Posted: 04-20-08 10:25am


I don't think work relationships are the way to go as it is, age differences aside. If you two got together and it didn't work out, it could put your job in an awkward situation and it's more important for you to keep your job. The guy that you know who is so cool doesn't seem so cool if he's pressuring you to do something you don't want to do or feel just uncomfortable about. Make sure that if you do something, it's not because you feel obligated to a third party or because you have to do them a favor.

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Posted: 05-02-08 23:57pm


You see now I see why he wants me to date her. Two new guys started working at my work. The white wanna b gangsters. Acting all tought, they are not the best of ppl to be hanging around with. And she is hanging out with them. So I guess thats why. Personally, I don't think work relationships are the best just in case something does happen and become all strange between "a" and "b". As for the age, its more like 3 years differnce. Yes I am curently 18, but not for much longer. In a few more months I will be 19, and she just turned 16 in like Febuary.

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Posted: 05-05-08 11:46am


Well then I say don't do anything you aren't comfortable with!