btw I didn't actually write a cuss word under the stars, I just typed up a bunch out of frustration not knowing what to even call the loser.

Did you got pregnant by accident? How did he felt about having children before you got pregnant?

I'm sorry for your situation and hope it gets better.

well it wasn't planned, he likes kids, and he was excited at first, and trying to tell me to be.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this.

Hiding from you and breaking up with you are childish things to do, and neither one is going to change the fact that he has a child now. Neither one is going to alter his level of responsibility in this situation. Hopefully he realizes that and comes around.

sorry you had to go through this...
Thats such a pathetic thing to do, he's really not getting out of anything though, he still has to pay child support, i wouldnt give the baby his name either if i were in your situation. He doesnt deverve it one bit.
Maybe its just starting to sink in that he is actualy going to have a kid..i know he said one thing before, and was excited about having a baby with you, but maybe the inital shock came and he got scared, which made him split on you and the baby..Is there any way you could talk to his dad or someone in his family?
I know you said his dad was trying to get him to be responsible about this, but how does the rest of his family feel? Maybe try talking to his dad about this and see if he can help at all.

My boyfriend also left me at the beginning of this pregnancy. PM me if you need to talk. Hopefully he's just young and scared right now and will come around with time and especially when the baby comes. If he can't be a man about the situation, then he doesn't deserve to have a child with his last name. He still needs to take responsibility for the life he created, so make sure you file for child support. I'm sorry this happened. Boys are so childish and only think about themselves.

I know, his dad was encouraging him to leave me, knowing he wouldn't take responsibility, saying i needed to find someone who would. In other words, because he knew his son had no real intentions of sticking around, I'm better off being alone and pregnant. His family just says theres nothing we can do. we cant force him It angers me off, and I plan on giving the baby my last name, but putting him down on the birth certificate. That way I can still get money out of him. I said something to his sister, and she said well thats the consequences of having sex and I can't help but be mad, what about him. He helped get me here, I didnt get pregnant by myself. its totally retarded.

How long were you together?

You cannot put his name on the birth certificate without his signed (notarized) consent.

I can take him to court for it. 3 months technically, but were only officially dating for a month and a half. I heard I can put his name down. Because he probably won't or I could take him to court and he'd have to.

He should not be able to just be let go of this whole thing.
He was apart in creating a life too, i think you should mention that to his family.
Yeah, they cant force him to be in the child's life, but they have to know that it takes two people to make a baby[im sure they do know, it just seems that their letting him off really easy, and his sisters response kind of made it seem that way too] They can atleast get him to grow up and put his name on a birth certificate, and MAKE HIM pay child suoprt.
Some role model he is to his child. A coward and failure.

I know, but they say its up to him to take responsibility, and hes refusing to talk to me on top of that. Its really messed up.

...sounds like his family is taking his side more about all of this instead of trying to give his hed a shake.
Yeah it is his decision, but someone could encourage him to do the right thing...
It almost seems as if their saying, well its your problem now, not ours..

This is what family court is for. His family will (from the sounds of it) insist on a DNA test proving paternity.

No one can just put a father's name on a birth certificate without that person's legal consent.

well hes not denying that ts his...yet. He knows its his baby, and so does his family, they just don't care enough and yes exactly what Kristine said, they feel its my problem now.

I am aware of that. But they are going to demand a DNA test also. Just wait.

I know, I'm prepared to take his retarded butt to court if I have to

Ingi's right, if you are not married then your bf would have to sign a statement (affidavit of paternity) before he can be named as your child's father on the birth certificate. If you are married none of this applies because any child you have while married is legally considered your husband's child (whether it is or not). Gotta love the law!

lol oh yeah