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PlacidIntricacy

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Dating GF who cheated
Posted: 05-19-08 20:34pm

I'm only 18 going on 19 in september.

my girlfriend is about the same age. I love her to death... i really do. but loving her has been an epic battle in my mind since day one.

it all started 4 years ago. I liked her, and she liked me... and she liked someone else. she often chose him over me (she even admitted it was for sexual purposes, because i didn't want to do anything sexual and he did.)
finally after about 3 months of me loving her and her lusting him she realised she needed to set her heart first.
She ended up dating me. the first 6 months we never had a single argument. from there it was a downhill slope. Eventually i gave into the sex thing she wanted (after about a year of us dating). which helped for a while but then the slope continued downward. i started thinking she was the craziest, most pessimistic, and jealous girl on planet earth. after about 2 and a half years of dating i was told she cheated on me with some guy i was rather suspicious of in the first place.

So i broke up with her. she nearly immediatly dated him. which lasted about a month. I stayed broken up with her for almost a year. (the entire time she claims to not have done anything sexual with any of the guys she was with at the time. even though i know her to be quite an aroused girl and i know she drank alot and did some cocaine during this time, and also got naked in a hot tub with some girls and guys). now you are all probably thinking she is a horrible person. and im NOT saying she isn't. but eventually she broke up with everyone stopped doing drugs and didn't drink nearly as much, basically because she wanted to look good for me (so she says). Now... the entire time we weren't dating she says she didn't cheat on me in the first place.

I finally gave in. i am dating her agian. she doesn't do drugs. she hardly drinks, she's very clingy (in a good way) but honestly i dont know what to beleive about her. DID SHE CHEAT ON ME!? and im a good person. i dont do drugs (other than the occasional marijuana), i dont drink, i'd never cheat on anyone. and she's starting to become overly jealous and difficult to handle at times. I worry her negativity will one day make me negative too. it hasn't yet BUT SHOULD I WORRY IT WILL? I love the little things she does when we are together, like the innocent cute faces she makes and whatnot. just little things that seemed to haunt me the entire 11 months we weren't dating. i feel like i cant be without that. but she's such a bad/angry person. What should i do? stay with her, conciderring she's alot better than she used to be and she quit doing so many things she liked for me. and spent most those 11 months we werent together trying to win me back. or should i end things because she is still ruining my happiness and often stopping me from even hanging out with guy friends or having fun when i clearly should be... should i?

someone needs to tell me something. i just need someone else's advice. that's all.
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PlacidIntricacy

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Posted: 05-19-08 20:36pm

and 90% of my memories of the last 4 years are involving her. there are so many good memories. and i can;t tell what weighs more. the good or the bad. She's so loving to me when she's in the right mood too. i dunno. GOD IT'S SO CONFUSING.
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Posted: 05-20-08 15:19pm

yea story of my life..my boyfriend and i will have been dating 2 years now in june..he's done some questionable things some girls probably wouldn't have put up with...i too have an issue with trust with him, he didn't cheat on me, however there were some inappropirate texts in his phone that i came upon...his last girlfriend cheated on him, so i doubt he'd ever do it to me, but theres still that question in the back of my mind you know? you just have to put your foot down and let them know its NOT ok and you DO NOT have to put up with it..there are plenty of other guys/girls out there, respect and trust are huge to me in a relationship, i would never ever do anything that i wouldn't feel comfortable with him doing..and i expect the same from him...sometimes people dissappoint you...you just have to decide if you're happy...if YOU are happy thats all that matters...
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maritza0412

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Posted: 05-20-08 15:41pm

I was taught NEVER NEVER NEVER underestimate your apponent(gf/bf) I did and guess what i thought no he got cheated on he wont cheat on me, he loves me! blah blah blah to make the story short he cheated and i was stujpid for taking him back!!! and the reason he finally admitted it was because the girl messed up his car!! so yes he got caught! but yeap and i have been so supportive of him!!! i have been there thru thick n thin and it hurts to see that he choose a girl that wud take him tthru hell and left me and pushed me to the side! i just didnt see how he would cheat he went to school was keeping 3 jobs! and has a tattoo with my name on his arm with his! i dont see how if he loved me but yet i am kinda still friends with him and we dated for 2 yrs i am in love with him and i love him to death but i cant take it no more! i cudent and i am just not gonna disrespect myself anymore...and if you feel like she is ruining your life because u cant trust her? let her go i finally took my own advice and my life slowly but surely is getting better...well i hope it works out for you...
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Posted: 05-20-08 16:27pm

You seem to be a great guy. I am telling oyu this from a womans side, as I was once your age....have a daughter older than you...I can relate. She is jealous of you and clingy, because she knows what she did in the past to you was WRONG. She also LIES...........Her anger and frustration will take its toll on you and you do not need this in your life. You are young. You also deserve to haveGUY time and be allowed HAPPINESS. Life is short sweetheart. Take it from me, FGM....you don't appreciate what you have until its gone........... There are far too many other DESERVING girls out there who would apprecaite you. I'm not saying you can't be friends..........I just would not trust her as far as I could throw her........this is just MY opinion....... HUGS!
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