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Dating GF who cheated Posted: 05-19-08 20:34pm
I'm only 18 going on 19 in september.
my girlfriend is about the same age. I
love her to death... i really do. but
loving her has been an epic battle in my
mind since day one.
it all started 4 years ago. I liked her,
and she liked me... and she liked someone
else. she often chose him over me (she
even admitted it was for sexual purposes,
because i didn't want to do anything
sexual and he did.)
finally after about 3 months of me loving
her and her lusting him she realised she
needed to set her heart first.
She ended up dating me. the first 6 months
we never had a single argument. from there
it was a downhill slope. Eventually i gave
into the sex thing she wanted (after about
a year of us dating). which helped for a
while but then the slope continued
downward. i started thinking she was the
craziest, most pessimistic, and jealous
girl on planet earth. after about 2 and a
half years of dating i was told she
cheated on me with some guy i was rather
suspicious of in the first place.
So i broke up with her. she nearly
immediatly dated him. which lasted about a
month. I stayed broken up with her for
almost a year. (the entire time she claims
to not have done anything sexual with any
of the guys she was with at the time. even
though i know her to be quite an aroused
girl and i know she drank alot and did
some cocaine during this time, and also
got naked in a hot tub with some girls and
guys). now you are all probably thinking
she is a horrible person. and im NOT
saying she isn't. but eventually she broke
up with everyone stopped doing drugs and
didn't drink nearly as much, basically
because she wanted to look good for me (so
she says). Now... the entire time we
weren't dating she says she didn't cheat
on me in the first place.
I finally gave in. i am dating her agian.
she doesn't do drugs. she hardly drinks,
she's very clingy (in a good way) but
honestly i dont know what to beleive about
her. DID SHE CHEAT ON ME!? and im a good
person. i dont do drugs (other than the
occasional marijuana), i dont drink, i'd
never cheat on anyone. and she's starting
to become overly jealous and difficult to
handle at times. I worry her negativity
will one day make me negative too. it
hasn't yet BUT SHOULD I WORRY IT WILL? I
love the little things she does when we
are together, like the innocent cute faces
she makes and whatnot. just little things
that seemed to haunt me the entire 11
months we weren't dating. i feel like i
cant be without that. but she's such a
bad/angry person. What should i do? stay
with her, conciderring she's alot better
than she used to be and she quit doing so
many things she liked for me. and spent
most those 11 months we werent together
trying to win me back. or should i end
things because she is still ruining my
happiness and often stopping me from even
hanging out with guy friends or having fun
when i clearly should be... should i?
someone needs to tell me something. i just
need someone else's advice. that's all.
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PlacidIntricacy
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Joined: 29 Apr 2008 Posts: 76 Location: Ohio, 43566 USA
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also Posted: 05-19-08 20:36pm
and 90% of my memories of the last 4 years
are involving her. there are so many good
memories. and i can;t tell what weighs
more. the good or the bad. She's so loving
to me when she's in the right mood too. i
dunno. GOD IT'S SO CONFUSING.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 05-20-08 15:19pm
yea story of my life..my boyfriend and i
will have been dating 2 years now in
june..he's done some questionable things
some girls probably wouldn't have put up
with...i too have an issue with trust with
him, he didn't cheat on me, however there
were some inappropirate texts in his phone
that i came upon...his last girlfriend
cheated on him, so i doubt he'd ever do it
to me, but theres still that question in
the back of my mind you know? you just
have to put your foot down and let them
know its NOT ok and you DO NOT have to put
up with it..there are plenty of other
guys/girls out there, respect and trust
are huge to me in a relationship, i would
never ever do anything that i wouldn't
feel comfortable with him doing..and i
expect the same from him...sometimes
people dissappoint you...you just have to
decide if you're happy...if YOU are happy
thats all that matters...
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maritza0412
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Posted: 05-20-08 15:41pm
I was taught NEVER NEVER NEVER
underestimate your apponent(gf/bf) I did
and guess what i thought no he got cheated
on he wont cheat on me, he loves me! blah
blah blah to make the story short he
cheated and i was stujpid for taking him
back!!! and the reason he finally admitted
it was because the girl messed up his
car!! so yes he got caught! but yeap and i
have been so supportive of him!!! i have
been there thru thick n thin and it hurts
to see that he choose a girl that wud take
him tthru hell and left me and pushed me
to the side! i just didnt see how he would
cheat he went to school was keeping 3
jobs! and has a tattoo with my name on his
arm with his! i dont see how if he loved
me but yet i am kinda still friends with
him and we dated for 2 yrs i am in love
with him and i love him to death but i
cant take it no more! i cudent and i am
just not gonna disrespect myself
anymore...and if you feel like she is
ruining your life because u cant trust
her? let her go i finally took my own
advice and my life slowly but surely is
getting better...well i hope it works out
for you...
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Fairy Godmother
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You asked! Posted: 05-20-08 16:27pm
You seem to be a great guy. I am telling
oyu this from a womans side, as I was once
your age....have a daughter older than
you...I can relate. She is jealous of you
and clingy, because she knows what she did
in the past to you was WRONG. She also
LIES...........Her anger and frustration
will take its toll on you and you do not
need this in your life. You are young. You
also deserve to haveGUY time and be
allowed HAPPINESS. Life is short
sweetheart. Take it from me, FGM....you
don't appreciate what you have until its
gone........... There are far too many
other DESERVING girls out there who would
apprecaite you. I'm not saying you can't
be friends..........I just would not trust
her as far as I could throw
her........this is just MY opinion.......
HUGS!