Depressed after family death Posted: 03-14-08 04:21am
Well my mother died Feb. 23 2008....just a
couple of weeks ago, and ever since we're
distant he doesn't like to talk. i just
started a new job couple of days before
she passed. My brother is 17 and goes to
an alternative school.learn at your own
pace sort of school. On one of his papers
he drew a man hanging from a rope. He has
told me that he has suicidal thoughts
sometime's. He is on anti-depressants, but
he hasn't been taking them. I have to work
10 hrs. a day and don't get to talk to him
much cause he's at school and i work til 2
in the morning. he takes me to work right
after he gets out of scool. I am really
worried about him. I'm dealing with my own
sorrow as well. But i'm really worried he
might do it. He got drunk tonight ,he was
supposed to pick me up from work. I got a
ride to my our house , and his car wasn't
there. i walked over to where i knew he
would be at. I walked in he was passed out
on someone's bed. i got him up and drove
him to our house his car.(i don't have a
liscense) we're both adopted, both
depressed, ....just alot of problems
really. also the house he was at i used to
live at. One person who lives there gets
drunk and urinates in weird places and one
time in a drunken rage started swinging a
sword around and i think he was seriously
going to kill me....you should have seen
the look in his eyes. My best friend just
recently died of an overdose, we hadn't
talked in a year because of a certain
"incident". just alot of things to get
off my chest. don;t know if anyone will
read this but that's some of what's going
on in my head right now. thoughts racing
can't type them all.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 03-14-08 09:45am
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.
Losing a family member is NEVER easy,
especially when it is your mother. Is
your father still around, or are you
taking full care of your brother? It is
really amazing of you for taking such good
care of him and worrying about him. It is
incredible you are still able to work a 10
hour day on top of all the stress and
grieving.
Have you talked to anyone about your
brother? You should not be going through
this alone. Maybe you should bring it up
to a trusted adult or someone who can get
him help.
I'm sorry to hear about your best friend
as well. It's terrible that those two
things happened so close together. You
must feel very upset and lost lately. You
are very strong for hanging in there. Do
you see any type of counselor? It really
may help if you don't. They are trained
to help you work through this and know how
to get you from thinking about the
negative of the situation to remembering
the positive memories and cherishing them.
Sometimes making a scrapbook can help
too. Maybe you should take pictures of
your mom and physical memories of her
(concert tickets for example) and glue
them into a book. It is creative and will
help you remember the good times instead
of just focusing on the scary loss part.
If you need anyone to talk to, me as well
as everyone else on this forum are here
for you. Take care of yourself.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 04-03-08 00:53am
This sounds more like the greeving process
then it does depression. Although they are
similar in symtoms. Greeving takes time
and everyone is different in the leangh of
the cycle. Try not to get the two mixed
up. You are both greeving badly. It's not
like you lost her years ago and had time
to regroup yourselves. It is going to take
time. It is hard to loose a parent or
child. Not an easy thing. You both will be
fine.
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marvel
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Posted: 04-03-08 12:40pm
hi, lonely_guy.
I'm so sorry to hear about all that you
have been through.
I would like to give you kudos, because,
even though all of this has happened,
you're doing a remarkably good job of
keeping yourself together and taking care
of your brother.
Like MsCarrie, I think this sounds like a
grieving process. People try to fill the
void with other things, like alcohol. It's
a sad story sometimes, because these
fillers can end up taking on a large part
of one's life.. for a very long time.
Have you two been to counselling or any
type of therapy? I think it would be good
for the both of you, especially since he's
having these thoughts of suicide.
If you ever have more thoughts racing
through your head, never hesitate to
Private Message me, or any other
supporters on here. We're here to listen!
I sincerely wish you the best!
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