Depressed over a REALLY SUDDEN break up Posted: 03-26-08 22:30pm
Okay so my girlfriend and I of 5 months
and not one fight just broke up the other
night. She wants to be just best friends
for now.
This is the reason why.
She said it finally hit her how she is
always feeling pressured and upset about
"things" that we did. We did not have sex
but we did things. And now she is saying
that she only did it to make me happy and
that she feels really messed up and that
she doesn't feel like innocent anymore and
that she has a clean slate anymore. Let it
be known that I never pressured her at all
and the whole time i thought it was
something special and she did it because
she did it because she wanted to do it.
She doesn't want to be in a relationship
anymore because she doesn't want to feel
this way anymore. She doesn't want to be
in a relationship with anybody to be
exact. She told me she will always like me
as more than a friend too. Me and her
still text and talk on the phone and she
wants to hangout with me and stuff. So I
really don't know what she wants and she
doesn't exactly know if we are going to
get back together. I think that this
kind of thing can be worked out. She told
me that she does not want to stop speaking
to me and that she thinks things will work
out maybe because she says she is just a
basket case and stuff. I just dont want to
be left waiting around and nothing ever
happens. That is not fair on my part ya
know?
What do you guys think? Please help!
She really does mean the world to me and I
am feeling so awfully depressed about this
whole thing and it's really really
bothering me.
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-01-08 22:38pm
If she does mean that much to you, you
should listen to her requests to just be
friends. I believe you that you didnt
force her into anything, but maybe she
just doesnt feel ready. Just rememebr, it
is better to have her as a friend in your
life than to lose her for good.
Does she eventually want to get back
together with you and she jsut wants to be
single for a while?
Anything I can do to help, please let me
know
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mominashoe
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Posted: 04-01-08 23:09pm
Sometimes girls do things like this, and
it isn't anything you are actually
responsible for or can do anything about.
If she wants to take a break and just be
friends for now, you should do that.
Taking a break from the more intimate
parts of a relationship can be a very good
thing for a couple. You will be able to
connect on a much deeper level and get to
know each other more.
I don't think you will be left waiting
around forever. Besides, if she really
does mean the world you, it will be more
than well worth the wait to getting back
together with her again. There is no
reason why you shouldn't be open with her
with your feelings and ask her how she is
coming a long with hers every so often.
It's your right to know where things are
going, just don't put the pressure on her
since she's afraid of that.
As Coliejo said, it is better to have her
as a friend than lose her forever, but
remember also that no one is holding you
bound to her. You are still free to do
what you want, just remember that you have
her heart on the line....whatever it is
feeling.
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The Loki
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Apr 2008 Posts: 6
Re: Depressed over a REALLY SUDDEN break up Posted: 04-26-08 21:18pm
espionage2020
wrote:
What do you guys think? Please help!
She really does mean the world to me and I
am feeling so awfully depressed about this
whole thing and it's really really
bothering me.
Others will prob dissagree with me But if
you still love her and she doesnt want to
get back together then its best for you
NOT to remain friends. If/When she decides
to date other people and your "friends" it
will mess with you quite a bit mate.
From Personaly experience you both have to
be happy with the situation or its not
going to work. If your Ready for a
relationship but she isnt then its not
fair to either one of you.
In Conclusion you need to be happy as
well. Find something you both can live
with.
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Larlen
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jul 2007 Posts: 71 Location: New York, United States
Posted: 04-27-08 15:45pm
Its a real good thing she wants to be
friends with you. Just try to go get used
to being friends again - if there was a
strong friendship before it should be
easy. And tell yourself you still love her
- which you do - but now it has to be on a
friendship level. It wont be so hard and
you wont feel so much heartbreak because
you two will be hanging out and stuff. And
Im almost sure she will want a
relationship again atleast she didnt write
you off completly.
Just enjoy the friendship you two have and
things will get easier with time.
I wish you luck and PM if you need to
talk. Talking helps alot
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