do you ever forgive yourself for having an abortion? Posted: 07-08-08 22:44pm
its been 2 years. do you ever stop
remembering. how do you get rid of the
guilt. do i tell my 5 year old when she
is older that i made this decision. would
she understand. i know why i did this. i
can make sense of it in my head but i
never feel like its justified. im having
difficulty finding peace with this. i do
not look down on others.. i realize how
difficult this is. if anything it has
taught me to never judge others, every
situation is different . i just cant seem
to stop harshly judging myself
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Moo
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Posted: 07-09-08 06:16am
Honestly, I never felt guilty for having
my abortion but if you are having problems
with it then you should try and address
them. As for telling your daughter that's
something that hopefully time will give
you an answer to.
Sounds to me like you may want to find
someone you can talk to about this.
Perhaps a friend...do you have insurance
and can seek professional help?
The reason I suggest this is that
sometimes, women need counselling after
the procedure. I'm sure you were given
brief counselling where you had the
aborton done, but sometimes it doesn't
surface until later. It's like PTSD- for
some women, this is extremely mentally and
emotionally taxing.
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Posted: 07-09-08 17:48pm
I'm so sorry you are having problems. I
hope you can find someone who has been
through what you have to talk to or like
said above maybe conselling. Take care and
hope you find some relief some how.
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aochriss
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Posted: 07-10-08 03:22am
I've never known anyone to feel anything
but relief after the procedure. I'm not
doubting your feelings, though, just
giving you another perspective.
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meblonde01
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Posted: 07-10-08 07:27am
aochriss
wrote:
I've never known anyone to
feel anything but relief after the
procedure. I'm not doubting your
feelings, though, just giving you another
perspective.
I have know serveral women.. Even after
seeking help in many cases it helps,
however, the guilt still remains..
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Birch
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Posted: 07-10-08 14:19pm
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I hope you find someone to talk with.
I worry that if there is something to
forgive, it may not have been the best
choice for you. If that is the case, you
have to recognize that people make bad
choices for themselves everyday, and you
will have to accept it, grow from it, and
learn from it.
I've never known anyone to
feel anything but relief after the
procedure. I'm not doubting your
feelings, though, just giving you another
perspective.
Omg! I can't express how relieved I am.
My situtation may be different from some
and maybe that's why I feel nothing but
relief. My husband and I have been
seperated. I got pregnant by a "jump off"
(slang term for friends w/benefits). My
husband and I will be reunited soon. So,
not only do I not want this guy to be my
child's father, I do not want him in my
life or my husband's. It was a stupid
decision on my part to hook up w/him but
I'm ecstatic that I got rid of any result
of my dealings with him. It's over now
and I can go on w/my life w/my husband.
To the OP, you gotta do what you gotta do.
Don't feel bad for doing something in
your best interest.
