I am 25 year old female and I had been in
this relationship for 9 months. He is 33
and everything goes on very well at the
first place. The problem is he enjoying
watching porns while I am against it. He
had promised it will not happen again but
yet I caught him doing the same thing as
well. Beside that, he controlled my social
life and do not allow me to keep in touch
with any of my friends, neither female nor
male. He still keep on socialising and
keep in touch with some of the girls he
had been going after before me. I ever
asked him on having children in future and
he said he dont want. Last 2 months, I was
suspected to be pregnant and he looks
worried and said he dont want the baby and
wanted to go for abortion. Luckily, in the
end, I am not pregnant. Beside that, he is
sexually active and wanted to go to bed
with me almost everyday. Does he love me
or he is just using me?
He's using you. I'm sorry but I'll have to
shoot it: if you don't get out of there,
he will change you into a muppet he
control at distance and make you unable to
leave. I don't mind the porn thing, but
cutting your social life while HE can see
HIS exes is not fair. Injustice is
disrespect, and disrespect is not love.
Moreover, if you want babies while he
doesn't, but however he does want sex with
you, means that you have different
optinions on important matters, and that
will make too much trouble ahead to
handle.
From your description to me he sounds like
a sexpervert with zero willing of
responsiblilities.
You guys don't look like you fit together.
It's better for you to break this if you
feel it's not your place. You have rights
too, remember that.
Just in case you had this in mind: Being
afraid to be alone is not an excuse to
stay with someone you're not confortable
with. If that crossed your mind, forget
it. You're better off being alone than
being with an egoist jerk.
Screw him and talk about it around you --
maybe that's why he doesn't want you to
contact your friends! Because he knows
he's wrong with you and your friends would
effectively tell you he is...
Good luck.
SK.
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ladyamar
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Joined: 07 Apr 2008 Posts: 1
what shall i do????????????? Posted: 04-11-08 18:20pm
im a woman,married for 13 year..and i love
a man and ive been with him for 12 years.i
tried to leave him but i couldnt..we make
sex together and he doesnt allow me to
make sex with my husband..i live in kuwait
its an arab country and i cant get
devorce..
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-08-08 08:41am
It doesn't sound like he cares for you
much. He sounds like he just lieks to
control you. This is no type of healthy
relationship for you to be in. no one
should be controlled. Also, if you do not
have the same relationship views (Ex:
children and such) he probably isn't
someone you would want to stay with anyhow
(if you in fact want children one day). He
sounds like a player also. I'd get rid of
him sice he doesn't feel the need to
respect you.
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