don't feel anything during sex Posted: 02-29-08 16:42pm
hi well, I'm in a sexual relationship.
It's my second one, and we've been having
intercourse for the past three months. My
problem is that when we have intercourse,
I don't feel anything. I don't feel him go
in, go out, or when he lets off. We tried
a vibrating ring, and I still felt
nothing. I'm wondering what's wrong with
me, and I am definitely too scared to tell
him. It was the same with my other
partner, I felt nothing. Please help!!
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run4life10
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Posted: 02-29-08 22:47pm
like you physically can't feel it or it
just doesn't feel good?
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lele25
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Posted: 02-29-08 23:38pm
More details? If you mean that you can't
orgasm with penatration alone then you are
not abnormal. Most women need additional
stimulation like clitoral to enable the
ability to orgasm. I very rarely climax
from just penatration, I need additional
stimulation.
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radar111
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Posted: 03-01-08 17:22pm
like i don't feel any physical change.
I can't feel him inside of me...
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radar111
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RE: Posted: 03-01-08 17:22pm
run4life10
wrote:
like you physically can't
feel it or it just doesn't feel
good?
as in, i can't physically feel it.
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Birch
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Posted: 03-01-08 19:53pm
I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical
injury or psychological event that might
be related to that?
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antigone
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Posted: 03-01-08 22:50pm
Try rocking your pelvis and moving your
hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes
you need to move your pelvis in order to
feel him during penetration. Kegal
exercises may help as well.
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freakyfashionista
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Posted: 03-10-08 00:22am
I know what you mean--sometimes I feel
that way too. Can you feel it better if
he puts a finger or two inside you? For
some reason that gives me a lot more
sensation. Or maybe you're using too much
lubricant. Try using very little. Or try
having him vary how fast or how slow he
moves. You might also not be doing enough
foreplay to arouse you, since intercourse
often does more for the guy than the
woman, no matter what the movies make it
seem like! I think we women have to work
harder to figure out what feels good. I
can't climax at all from penetration
alone, never, and I've been having sex for
over 10 years. I heard that less than 20
% of women can, so don't feel bad about
that.
I was also wondering what your opinions
are on the whole G-spot issue. I can't
seem to find mine or climax from it, no
matter what position. Was I just born
without one or is this a common
experience?
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radar111
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Posted: 03-10-08 23:18pm
freakyfashionista
wrote:
I was also wondering what your opinions
are on the whole G-spot issue. I can't
seem to find mine or climax from it, no
matter what position. Was I just born
without one or is this a common
experience?
Well Fashionista, I don't really think I
have one either, so you and I are in the
same boat, although even fingering makes
me feel nothing. I think i'm out of luck
and it's only going to be a mental feeling
of closeness to him. Which in all, really
sucks, and I'm going to go to my doctor
about it this week, since my boyfriend and
I are now engaged! and i really would
actually be able to like sex.
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radar111
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Posted: 03-10-08 23:22pm
antigone
wrote:
Try rocking your pelvis and
moving your hips a bit during intercourse.
Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in
order to feel him during penetration.
Kegal exercises may help as
well.
I've done Kegal exercises, and yes I
definitely have tried movig my hips and
pelvis, but feel nothing. In fact, I feel
nothing even with the insertion of an ice
cube. It sounds crazy, but it didn't even
have a feeling of coldness, whereas I'm
assuming others would screech at even the
thought of this.
[quote="Birch']I'm sorry to hear that! Any
physical injury or psychological event
that might be related to that?[/quote]
NO, not that I'm aware of. I hurt my tail
bone back in grade seven, but even then I
had no feeling.
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radar111
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Posted: 03-10-08 23:22pm
antigone
wrote:
Try rocking your pelvis and
moving your hips a bit during intercourse.
Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in
order to feel him during penetration.
Kegal exercises may help as
well.
I've done Kegal exercises, and yes I
definitely have tried movig my hips and
pelvis, but feel nothing. In fact, I feel
nothing even with the insertion of an ice
cube. It sounds crazy, but it didn't even
have a feeling of coldness, whereas I'm
assuming others would screech at even the
thought of this.
Birch
wrote:
I'm sorry to hear that! Any
physical injury or psychological event
that might be related to
that?
NO, not that I'm aware of. I hurt my tail
bone back in grade seven, but even then I
had no feeling.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 03-11-08 01:22am
Though I haven't really heard of someone
being completely numb, many women cannot
orgasm just off vaginal penetration. I
can't either, and though I can't remember
exactly what the percent is (Eiri correct
me if I'm wrong) but I think it was
something like only 30% of women can, so
its a pretty common thing.
Can you orgasm off of clitoral
stimulation? In order for me to orgasm
during sex either my boyfriend or myself
need to stimulate my clit, whether its
just touching or picking a position where
his pelvic bone rubs against me. Would
that help?
Congrats on your engagement!
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radar111
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Posted: 03-11-08 15:39pm
Maddie34
wrote:
Though I haven't really
heard of someone being completely numb,
many women cannot orgasm just off vaginal
penetration. I can't either, and though I
can't remember exactly what the percent is
(Eiri correct me if I'm wrong) but I think
it was something like only 30% of women
can, so its a pretty common thing.
Can you orgasm off of clitoral
stimulation? In order for me to orgasm
during sex either my boyfriend or myself
need to stimulate my clit, whether its
just touching or picking a position where
his pelvic bone rubs against me. Would
that help?
Congrats on your engagement!
I'm completely numb. I can't feel
anything, let alone orgasm. I'm more
stimulated just him feeling my breasts, as
I feel nothing during sex, or even oral.
And as for trying to stimulate, it would
be great, if I could even feel him inside
me. but thanks.
And thanks for the congrats, although I
know I have to either get this checked out
or tell him the truth.
We just recently bought studded condoms,
and a vibrating ring, and i can't even
feel those.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 03-11-08 16:08pm
No no, your clit is outside of your vagina
and does not require penetration in order
to stimulate.
Have you ever masturbated on your own? Did
you feel penetration with your first
relationship?
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freakyfashionista
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Posted: 03-11-08 17:23pm
There's a book called For Yourself by
Lonnie Barbach, a doctor, that really
helped me when I didn't know how to
stimulate yourself--yes, it sounds weird
that anyone would need a book to learn
that, but I did! It helped so much that I
got it for my two closest female friends.
They used it and it helped them too--none
of us were very experienced at that point!
It might not help with intercourse, but
if you know how to stimulate yourself,
then you can do that when you are having
sex and your partner will be glad that
you're having a good time, even if it
isn't just from intercourse with him.
As far as having an orgasm from
intercourse alone, I have absolutely no
idea how it's done. I've heard that there
are lots of sensitive spots inside us but
haven't found them myself.
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freakyfashionista
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Posted: 03-20-08 21:25pm
dear radar111, have you been to your
doctor and learned anything?
