Recently I'm back to work in the society
after gave birth to a baby gal and I
realised that I'm having a very serious
problems with my look. I get stares by ppl
surrounding me which makes me feels
inferior, moody, frighten, no confident
and low self-esteem.
To tell the truth, I've always having a
problems with my high cheekbones, and i
feel ugly and less attractive. Now as age
goes by, my cheekbones are getting more
prominent than before. Getting those
stares from ppl, I get frustrated easily
and only wish to go home immediately after
work.
Having difficulties to concentrate with my
work, I'll have to take care of my 6 mth
old baby, doing house-choirs, cook dinner,
etc.. I feel like ending my life and get
rid of all these troubles.
Is there anything that I can do to help
myself?
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-26-08 18:10pm
To my knowledge in America anyway, high
cheekbones are considered extremely
attractive! It's possible people stare at
you because you are BEAUTIFUL, not ugly!!
You should smile, pull back your hair, and
let your lovely face show!! I bet you're
gorgeous!
Darlin', you can't be THAT old if you're
giving birth so relax!! You're young and
pretty!
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bbfeet9
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Joined: 05 Feb 2008 Posts: 62 Location: ,
Posted: 03-26-08 18:29pm
You mentioned you just gave birth.
Well...after i gave birth i did not feel
attractive. There is nothing wrong with
the way i look it's just that i felt dowdy
and frumpy. Coming home after a day at
work, cooking and what not, then you have
the task of probably getting up and down
with baby. You probably can not find time
to just sit in a nice hot tub of bubbles
to relax. You need to take time for you.
And when people look at you, smile at
them. Depending on where you live, the
winter months can sometimes depress us.
Spring is here and soon you will be able
to get the sun on your face. Have hubby
chip in a little (or mate) he helped bring
baby into this world too. If you are
alone, check into a local babysitting
service. The Red Cross can help you with
that. They offer info on it. Ask gramma to
sit for a few hours,take a walk or window
shop, but yourself something pretty. Or
drop baby off and go back home. Sit in the
tub with a book and some wine or coffee or
whatever. Just take a few hours out of the
week for yourself. It will help. You do
not sound un attractive at all. Your a
mom, that makes you beautiful. So relax
and don't talk nonsense, who will take
care of that baby girl you just gave birth
to.
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Hart74
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Joined: 06 Apr 2007 Posts: 519 Location: Woodlands (not like there are woods anywhere near) Garden City ,
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trinizz Posted: 03-28-08 12:44pm
It's normal for women after giving birth
to think that she is no longer attractive
hey I've been there, you're not alone so
please don't ever think that you're not
pretty anymore and please stop thinking of
ending your life talk to someone let
everything out don't bottle your feelings
- no good hun.
Being a new mother, you have to do all the
housework and looking after children is
not any easy task I know because I have
experience it myself, sometime the feeling
is too overwhelming, I cried at the
smallest thing such as when my first born
cried the first time when I wanted to bath
her and there was no one around, I felt so
hopeless and angry at myself and told
myself that I am useless but then as time
goes by I realized what I said was
actually 'hormons talking' (to me) I was
so overwhelm with the new motherhood
experience. So hun you've already taken
the first step by coming here the next
step is to share your feelings and
thoughts there will be a lot of people
here who are willing to listen. Good luck
pm me if you need to talk - Love Hart74
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trinizz
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Joined: 26 Mar 2008 Posts: 3 Location: ,
Thank you message Posted: 03-29-08 06:56am
Thank all of you for your piece of advice.
I understand that being a mother is no
easy task especially as a full-time
working mum. Maybe I've been too stressful
recently and am trying my best to suit in
this life-style.
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