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End of the road for mom soon Posted: 04-20-08 08:10am
As some of you know, my mom was diagnosed
with lung cancer about a year ago. Untill
now, she has been doing pretty well, just
with some dull pain etc. It already had
matastised from the left lung to the right
lung and lumph node. She has never asked
for any pain meds. I told her that they
are good to have on hand cause you never
know.
Well, it looks like Hospise is not far
away now. Last week when she say doc, she
asked him for something for pain and he
gave her Darvocet every 4 hours as needed.
My mother never takes pills, shes got to
many to take as it is. Well, last night
she took her first pain pill after I was
able to get the fear out of her mind. I
found out this morning she has been taking
them every 4 hours thoughout the night. My
mom tends to hide her pain from her girls.
I told her please don't ever hide you pain
from me. Just because my 1/2 sister could
give a rat's a$$ about her well being does
not mean I don't. We are two of a
different bread.
Mom really must be in pretty much pain for
her to start the pain pills. Each year I
say, I pray we have her for one more B'day
or one more Christmas. At least she will
get to see her newest greatgrandson due
any day now. At least I pray so.
I love my mother and I was never in denial
about her illness. But, when it looks like
it is coming to the end, things are a
little more clearer and you start the
greeving process, which I am in now. She
is such a good woman and would give the
shirt off her back for you. I just don't
know what it will be like without her. I
just pray that she goes in peace and not
to much pain. She don't say much to her
other daughter because she is worse then I
am and having her own mental battle with
reality. I'm the oldest of both and she
always comes to me for comfort and trust.
I will dearly miss her.
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Mom Posted: 04-21-08 19:47pm
Hi Carrie,
I am so sorry you are going through the
greving process, you are a wonderful
daughter. I just want you to know I am
here for you, should you ever need
anything.
Love Linndie
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Posted: 04-23-08 14:01pm
Hospice has now been called in.
I know that Linndie and I will always
appreciate that.
Hugs!
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Posted: 04-25-08 17:56pm
Welll, the pain medication was not holding
her. Hospice had to be called back in
today to change and up her to sometlhing
else. She is now on Oxycodone 80mg every
12 hours with another Oxy every 4 hours
for breakthrough pain. She was in alot of
pain this morning when she got up. Got a
call from her other daughter letting me
know. Seems like it is going at full speed
now. I guess it is downhill from here
gang. I am really trying my best to hold
myself together but, it is not easy. I'm
going over to see her tomorrow.
Thank-you Linndie for your reply. It means
alot right now.
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Posted: 05-16-08 00:44am
i replied to your post on another thread
but i wanted to tell you again that i have
been through the same thing, and i am
sorry that it is happening to you. it is
really hard watching this happen and not
being able to do anything about it. i wish
the best for you and once again i feel for
you, i really do. and im sorry.
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Posted: 07-06-08 15:06pm
I lost my mother to lung cancer back in
2003. She never smoked a day in her life,
and if she was around any second had
smoke, she'd always leave. I remember not
being able to go to a friend's house if
their parents smoked. She didn't want me
exposed to it. I still don't know what
kind of cancer it was, or what caused it.
I think she may have just had the genes
for it... she did have a case of thyroid
cancer some years before I was born, and
had that taken out.
It's been almost 5 years and I still
haven't gotten over it. She passed just a
few weeks before my 16th birthday; she was
48. I don't know how long she had it, but
I know that it was the worst after we
moved, just before I started high school.
From the time we moved until the time she
died was so traumatic that my mind has
blocked the majority of those experiences.
I have very few memories from that time.
I don't know if you still have your mother
now, since it's been a couple months since
the last post... but I hope you do. If
not, then I'm very sorry, but you should
know that she is in a better place and
will be watching over you.
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Thank-you both Posted: 07-06-08 15:15pm
Thanks to both of you so very much. Yes,
mom is still with us. Her pain threshold
has gotton a bit worse. She was on 10mg
morphine with a liquid for in between
times. She is now on 20mg of morphine
every 12 hours instead of 10. I tell ya
what, she is some fighter. I would have
given up long ago and just prayed to be
taken. Coming from a broken home she has
always had to be strong dispite her inner
and outter problems. I know, I have seen
many pass with lung cancer that were never
smokers or around second hand smoke. I
think there were so many factories in the
early days, you had no choice but to
breath that in as you took the smelly
fummed bus to work.
You both have my sympathy. And. I also
know my road ahead is going to be rocky.
But strong I will try and be. I have loved
ones that need me still around. My three
boys.
Love and Hugs,
Carrie
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FrootLoop
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Posted: 07-06-08 15:27pm
I wish you the best of luck with keeping
your strength. My mom was the glue in our
family, so when she passed everyone fell
to pieces. My older brother and I were the
only ones who didn't completely fall
apart, and thus I had to help him keep
everyone together... especially my dad. I
didn't really get to grieve much during
all that commotion, which is probably why
I have been struggling with depression and
anxiety problems.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 07-06-08 15:34pm
FrootLoop
wrote:
I wish you the best of luck
with keeping your strength. My mom was the
glue in our family, so when she passed
everyone fell to pieces. My older brother
and I were the only ones who didn't
completely fall apart, and thus I had to
help him keep everyone together...
especially my dad. I didn't really get to
grieve much during all that commotion,
which is probably why I have been
struggling with depression and anxiety
problems.
Absolutly FrotLoop. It is a known fact
that if you do not go through the grieving
process (ei...closure) it can linger for
the rest of your life. You can still find
closure FrootLoop. Just go into a room by
yourself and let it out.
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Hang in there Posted: 07-06-08 15:37pm
CarolDiane
wrote:
Thanks to both of you so
very much. Yes, mom is still with us. Her
pain threshold has gotton a bit worse. She
was on 10mg morphine with a liquid for in
between times. She is now on 20mg of
morphine every 12 hours instead of 10. I
tell ya what, she is some fighter. I would
have given up long ago and just prayed to
be taken. Coming from a broken home she
has always had to be strong dispite her
inner and outter problems. I know, I have
seen many pass with lung cancer that were
never smokers or around second hand smoke.
I think there were so many factories in
the early days, you had no choice but to
breath that in as you took the smelly
fummed bus to work.
You both have my sympathy. And. I also
know my road ahead is going to be rocky.
But strong I will try and be. I have loved
ones that need me still around. My three
boys.
Love and Hugs,
Carrie
Carrie,
You have my sympathy for the fight your
mom is waging right now. It is never easy
to watch a parfent die. My own mother died
a horrible death from systemic lupus and
she was also a battler. Much like your
mom, she refused pain medication until it
became too much for her to bear.
I wish you the best as you go through this
ordeal and know that you are not alone.
You have many friends here at eHealth and
I know all of them hope the path ahead
gets easier.
Love you, Rick
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Posted: 07-06-08 15:48pm
You and your family are in my thoughts and
prayers I can't imagine what you must be
going through right now...try to keep your
head up and just know we're thinkin of you
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Hi Rick Posted: 07-06-08 15:50pm
And to you lonestarguy a warm Thank-you.
My sypathies also go out to you. Yes, mom
also refused any treatment at all.
And yes Rick, how well I know and my
blessed and greatful. My three boys and
ehealth are what keep me going. I can not
lie about that. They have stood by me
thhrough battles of death even with myself
twice the last time beiing the closest.
And that is when I found this board. Ya
know, some will say I am to emotional. I
have always been that way. It did not take
me long to know that the friends I have
here on the board are the ones that are
going to be my shoulder always. There are
no friends that I have ever had in real
life that could even come close to my
cyber friends here. And I genuinly mean
that. YOU gang are my rock and do'nt
forget it.
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Posted: 07-06-08 15:53pm
worrywart01
wrote:
You and your family are in
my thoughts and prayers I can't imagine
what you must be going through right
now...try to keep your head up and just
know we're thinkin of
you
I need ya all now worrywart. But, I'm
really gonna need the gang down the road.
Guess it will then be time to start my
grieving and try and come to closure.
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