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Fear of touching nipples Posted: 08-09-08 06:11am
I'm wondering if anyone else has this
problem. I will describe it for you.
I think I have sensitive breasts, to the
point where I don't like them being
touched. It doesn't really hurt, I just
have a fear of it. I can handle the skin
being touched, but if they get anywhere
near the nipple I instinctively push the
hand away. It seems to have got worse, but
it's frustrating because I know I enjoy
it. It feels good, but I dunno how to
explain it, just when my boyfriend goes
anywhere near my nipples I can't stand it.
I fear direct contact with the pointy bit
mainly. I have a vague idea of where this
came from, and we started working on it
last week but I have to sort of zone out
to allow him to touch them so it takes a
lot of effort. Does anyone else experience
this?
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Posted: 08-16-08 01:40am
Is this fear based on something that
happened in the past? Where does the
behavior originate?
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Posted: 08-16-08 09:22am
I was never abused or anything like that,
but when I was younger my dad was quite
protective of me, and always told me not
to let anyone touch me. I think that's
where it comes from, as though my
boyfriend isn't 'allowed' to touch me and
I know in myself that I want him to, it's
just some sort of unconscious block that I
can't get rid of.
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Posted: 08-16-08 14:06pm
I see. Well, I'd suggest that you start
touching them yourself. See if you can
get used to it. And maybe touch them when
he's kissing you. What techniques are you
currently using in order to try to
overcome this fear?
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Lion79
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Posted: 08-17-08 06:04am
Recently I've used relaxation techniques
while he touches me, and just taking
everything slowly. It worked pretty well,
and I found I really enjoyed it and it
turned me on, but I had to get myself into
a certain state of mind because if I
thought about what he was doing I was get
the block again. We haven't done anything
sexual in the last couple weeks but we're
going to try doing that again to see if
there's any improvements. I would like for
him to touch me without all the hassle and
effort!
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Posted: 08-17-08 13:40pm
I hear you. It's frustrating if there is
a block. If you have the time and money,
you might also want to consider consulting
a sexologist. These are psychological
specialists who deal with ... well, sex.
You might learn about your response and
triggers and also different ways to cope.
I think it's OK to relax into sensation.
We use our minds so much that often it's
difficult to turn them off. The mind is a
useful tool, but can get in the way as
well. Good luck and let us know what
techniques help!
