feel unattractive

Hey there,

It makes me sad to read your post. I just really felt your pain. I'm sure what you're saying is not true at all. I bet you're a really fantastic person ( notice I said person as I'm not sure if you're male or female ) Everybody has they're insecurities. Like for me I think I'm a bit overweight, not pretty enough but that just makes you human. I like to go to the hairdressers and get my hair done. It makes feel better. Or i go and buy a new top or jeans. Do something that makes you feel good. At the end of the day that's all materialistic though. It's not all about whats on the outside. It's whats on the inside that really counts. and you sound really sweet.. If you ever want to chat I'm here.

Harmony1 xo

thanks for the response. im a male haha.

i guess what bugs me more than anything is everything i do feels like im just setting myself up for failure.....ive tried doin stuff like you mentioned and it works for a little bit but then i start seein stuff wrong with that and it goes back to feelin worthless...its so stupid

No it is not stupid. If that were the case there are many of us in the same boat. You can try and reinforce yourself and get out and start living and don't give in to those thoughts. You can also seek some proffesional help to bring out the good in you that you can't see right now but is still there. Maybe you need a little antidepressant will be perscribe for you.

I wish you the best,
Carrie

Hey Crimsonrain,
It's definately not stupid. hun you're not worthless at all. you are kinda showing signs of depression though. Are you still in school? If so do you have a councellor you may be able to talk to. Talking about how you feel can help you feel better too.

Harmony1 xo

I was a really dorky looking kid. Big glasses, braces for years and years, really pale.
Even after I got older and grew into my features, I was still harboring the years of being teased, or at the very least the feelings of unattractiveness.

Secretly, I always love kids with glasses. I wear contacts now because I'm such an active person, but I hate it when people are insensitive about people who do wear glasses because they simply have no choice.

I digress. The summer before 10th grade, I decided, "Okay. I have no choice. I look the way I do, there's no changing it." And, most remarkably, I somehow convinced myself to deal with it.

Slowly but surely, I've assured myself that it's okay to look the way I do. I've come to appreciate my flaws, and I think when I look in the mirror, I see who everyone else does, and I'm totally okay with who I am....at least on the outside.

It was a slow process, from going through the motions enough that the habit of reassuring myself that I was not ugly became the way I really do feeling about myself. After I accepted the way I looked physically, it was a lot easier to come to terms with the me inside, and I like the person I am too.

Especially women are held to such high standards. To be a female teenager is to be expected to be perfection. Screw society, I like who I am.