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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-13-08 18:56pm

So after almost 2 years or trying I am still here in the getting pregnant forum..... THis is not at all how I planned my life. I have not been here in awhile because I have been depressed and have pretty much given up. I wanted to thank everyone who ever showed me their support. I feel like I know all of your girls on here. Even though I am one of the last few posting in this forum from when I started. I am sitting here crying my eyes out because why did this have to happen to me... What did I do wrong.. I know I am not the only one with fertility problems but I am just so angry yet sad at the same time. What to do now?
I have no idea. Crying
or Very sad
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eeyore46

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Posted: 06-13-08 19:07pm

Don't give up! Have you and your husband been to fertility clinics? Another thing I have heard of is acupuncure for infertility. You can look this doctor up on line, her name is Dr. Lin Zoah. She specializes in infertility and even teaches classes at Baylor Medical Center in Dallas. Have you been on fertility drugs? Have you been to a doctor to make sure there is not some kind of blockage in your tubes? Is you husband's sperm count high? Don't give up - how old are you? Hope all goes well for you, my heart goes out to you. Do you have other children - how old are you?
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-13-08 20:20pm

I am 27 and no I have no other children. I ave been pregnant before though twice. Went to the doctors and they said they thought I had pcos but now I am without insurance again so I am up a creek without a paddle for the time being.
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eeyore46

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Posted: 06-13-08 20:33pm

I am not familiar with PCOS. I know how bad it must have hurt you when you lost your other two. Don't worry about insurance. There is all kinds of help out there for families without insurance. Where do you live? It sounds like there is no blockage or sperm count issue then, if you have been pregnant before. Good luck.
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-13-08 20:38pm

I am in California. it was about 4 months ago that I went to the doctor then that insurance went south uhg. One appt then no more insurance. I have just lost faith and it really really sucks.
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eeyore46

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Posted: 06-13-08 21:20pm

I do not know if you want to work, but a place like a hospital receptionist, insurance, business office, will provide great insurance. If not, do not worry about the insurance, just concentrate on the little one you are trying to conceive. Good Luck!
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-14-08 03:01am

well I actually do work I have to and i am stuck between a rock and a hard place with getting a new job because my job pays well and my husband has been on workmans comp for over a year and the extra money i make helps us to survive with the soaring prices.
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eeyore46

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Posted: 06-14-08 03:14am

Maybe you can check into another job that has insurance benefits. Again, the hospital or clinics are a good place to check out for job possibilities. The only problem with that, is a lot of places want you to work 3 months before they will offer their benefits. Again, good luck!
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-14-08 03:16am

thanks hun. I will look into it.
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Posted: 06-14-08 08:16am

Hey sweetie,

I am still here so dont feel alone. There are a lot of the oldies but goodies that have moved on over to the pregnancy side, but dont give up you will get there. I dont post much over here either, also because it is kinda depressing. I dont really track anything right now. We are trying to work on hubbys situation for the moment. We found out that he has the problem, so we are working on that.

We will get there, dont worry. We cant stay on here forever. Have faith.

Good luck in trying to get a job with good insurancy. I know that can be stressful
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-14-08 12:56pm

I so wish I knew exactly why.. It seems that everything went to heck after my miscarriage last june. I started becoming irregular then I started having stabbing pains on my left side like every morning (still wake up with em sometimes) Then nov-the end of march AF completely stopped then I had a normal cycle and then went one month and had a brownish discharge with a little pink and nothing more and now here I am no AF again for a few months. MY bb's are sore all the time I have Pitting edema of my legs (left worse than right) My belly is swollen to the point that I look preggo and people actually ask me when I am due and when they ask I do not know if I should get angry, brush it off, or cry. I have taken about 20 test in the last 2 months (dollar store and expenso test) All negative so I know I am not preggo. Something is really wrong with me and I just wish I knew what but I cannot afford to go to the doctors Gas is eating my bank account alive. 6 bucks a gallon at some stations around me. Oh and I forgot to mention the lovely smell of my discharge...... onions "Hurl" its not heavy or anything not chunky not weird colors it just smells rancid. I hate this soo much maybe with my descriptions someone can help me but I doubt it.
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negar

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just read your post
Posted: 06-14-08 13:31pm

Babyfutak,

I am so sorry about how you feel. Things can get really hard sometimes, but don't give up. I started trying when I was 29 and finally at age of 32 I had my first miscarriage and then another one at 34. I am now 36 with a healthy 5 month old boy.
To top it off I went through a divorce, got married again and was diagnosed with Hashimotto thyroiditis which is an autoimune disease and pcos.
It sounds to me like you need to get medical help. I know you said you cant, but must figure a way because without your health nothing matters. I am still paying for my doctor appointments and all the medical attention I recieved from 2 years ago. We are in debt beyond reality but we will survive.
Everyone has a different story to tell and the only reason I am sharing mine is not by any means dimissing yours, but to tell you I understand how you feel. I also don't want you to feel alone!!!
You have every right to feel what you feel, but know that you will get through it.
I used to tell myself, my time will come. You just need to trust that...

Love,
Negar
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-14-08 13:48pm

Thank hun =0) I was actually just looking online for clinics and such and found one I might be able to afford if they let me do payments so wish me luck. I have not really given up but I have given up the tempting and charting. I know I am not alone in my troubles. I know some of you are probably worse off then I am. I feel kind of bad for being so negative now. I was mad and upset when I posted this yesterday. Today.. I am in a very good mood. It's an emotional rollercoaster. And I wanted to add that yes I know having a baby is expensive I know this so I am in a way relieved I have not gotten preggo yet but still wanna know whats wrong with me. I am sorry if I in anyway sounded selfish and full of myself =0(
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negar

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oh no
Posted: 06-14-08 13:52pm

dont apologize....no no
you did not sound selfish at all. I just wante to offer you hope thats all.
this forum is for support and venting love....
we all have our days.
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-14-08 13:56pm

Ok.. Sorry lots going on in life now I am sometimes a little beside myself.
Thanks hun
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Posted: 06-16-08 17:44pm

I hope that you can find some help that you can afford. The cost of living is such a burden for so many people and I know that you having to work to make ends meet can be stressful. I feel so bad for you. I can't imagine being in your shoes and not knowing what is wrong or why. It gets so old too people always telling you its going to be ok and they know how you feel, but I hope for your sake their kind words do help. Good luck, and don't give up.
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Posted: 06-17-08 01:22am

I remember you! I was on this board as well. I have pcos and hypothyroidism. I was, by the grace of God, able to concieve a second time after my miscarriage. I have a healthy 4 1/2 month old baby girl. I remember the days of feeling depressed and like nothing mattered to me except having a baby. I will keep you in my prayers.
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ssuttles

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I feel your pain...
Posted: 06-17-08 10:17am

I know exactly how you feel sweetheart. Me and my husband have been married for 4 years. I have been TTC for 3 years now. And I too have PCOS. I have had 3 surgeries to have cysts removed from my overies. I have never ever been pregnant. It has been so long. My doctor told me what happens with PCOS is my eggs turn into cysts right after ovulation. So I have like 1 to 2 days to get pregnant. We just cant get. I feel depressed some days, but we just keep trying. I know God will bless me. It hurts though. I see mothers on the news that leave there kids in cars, etc, etc, etc. Horrible things that I would never do to a child. And yet these horrible women can give birth to beautiful healthy babies, and not even take care of them. Ok, I am going to go cry now. No but I have regular periods and everything so I dont understand. I will pray for you. Just keep trying if you think you are ready. ***Baby Dust*** (We need lots of it)



Common symptoms of PCOS include

Oligomenorrhea, amenorrhea — irregular, few, or absent menstrual periods.
Infertility, generally resulting from chronic anovulation (lack of ovulation).
face, chest and legs.
Hair loss appearing as thinning hair on the top of the head
Acne, oily skin, seborrhea.
Obesity: one of two women with PCOS are obese.
Depression [4].
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Posted: 06-17-08 12:10pm

BabyF
I'm so sorry that you are having a hard time. I truely feel terrible that you can not even go to a doctor because your health insurance doesn't cover it. It is so unfair. I wish there was something I could do or say to help you find a way to get care. Time is on your side at 27 yrs old - and I know many women with PCOS that got pregnant without medical intervention on their own.
One thing you have control over is to stay healthy with lots of water and exercise. Sounds simple but it works for some and it never hurts to be at optimum health.
Hang in there and keep trying. You can't give up - it's not an option. You can take a break for awhile but know in your heart that it will happen some day.
Take good care
Cheryl
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BabyFutak

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Posted: 06-17-08 13:06pm

Well I just got laid off from my job today I am officially unemployed as of july 1st. I am shaking. I do not know how I am going to find a job that pays what this one does.
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