Fit pitching and almost two

Hannah has become a wee little tyrant. She completely falls apart if we tell her no. She's straddling the line between wanting her independence and needing boundaries. She has done away with her little clip on high chair and likes to kneel on the stool at the breakfast bar for meals which is fine, but she likes to get up and down and up and down and up and down and then when we won't let her get up anymore she pitches a fit. There are 1001 other things she pitches a fit about: wanting juice instead of milk, wanting to wear something that I didn't dress her in, not wanting to brush her teeth (that's a big one), wanting something someone else has, wanting a cracker, not liking what she has been served for breakfast. My GAWD this child has opinions! I have been using the three strikes method, cry pillow, naughty chair for big infractions or hitting, but any other ideas would be helpful, as there are days when my arsenal of tricks seems to be getting a litttle low and my patience begins to wear thin. That's the other thing, she has no thresh hold for frustratioin and absolutely no ability to wait for something (like her food to be cooked, to get out of the car seat, etc). It's so funny how different she is from her older sister, or it could be that my memory has faded, but I am pretty sure Geneva was not as much of a challenge as this one is. Thanks for listening!