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Forced pregnancy Posted: 07-06-08 17:16pm
This is an outline and what I am going to
share, I dont care who criticizes me
because im not ashamed anymore.
I was forced to carry my 2nd pregnancy
against my will, I didnt find out I was
pregnant till about 2 and a half months
along, so my time was short. I went to a
clinic to have an ultrasound done and
found out it was a boy.
My hubby was so desperate for a boy that
he told me, he would leave me if I had an
abortion or even cheat on me, with some
other nasty things but we won't go there.
At that time in my life it was a great
deal, I really did care for him and that
really destroyed me.
4 months came along and I was hating the
pregnancy even more, I started drinking,
well one night anyways I must have drank
half a bottle of vodka, not to many weeks
after I went into severe depression. I
went to multiple doctors, none of whom
would give me anti-depressants, even
though I was putting weight on like crazy
and crying everyday, they said DEAL WITH
IT.
I went to a few pregnancy centres,
majority of which were pro-life and they
were disgusted with me and told me I
wasn't in my right frame of mind, they
told me I would harm my kid for taking
anti-depressants. I finally came across a
centre, who associates themselves with
Planned parenthood and they helped out a
bit but I still couldn't get a grip on
life.
I put on 75 lbs altogether, so far I lost
about 45 but its a real bummer....
Afterwards, the birth I was somewhat okay,
I went on anti-depressants, I was on pills
for anxiety and acid reflux, my mental
health got worse because it wasn't dealt
with in a time efficient manner.
How did this affect my life.......
My marriage is in the hole, he decided he
could walk all over me, I hate but love my
kids and now I suffer stomach problems
that I never had before.
I lost my job, a stable job which is
almost impossible to find nowadays, my
friends have estranged from me and well my
family's not happy about the whole
sitiuation
What it made me realize, is how bloody
ignorant some people are, how some people
only care for themselves, how their is so
much more to the eye. It also made me
realize that parenting isn't my thing, I
have no patience and I have to give up my
education and my job to scarifice for
something I don't want.
Everyone critisizes me for what I do, if I
go on welfare I have people criticizing
me, if I go back to school and leave the
dad with the kids, I am told I am not
taking responsibilities for a two person
job, that lacks on one side anyway.
I guess I am pro-choice exactly for this
reason.........
I am going back to school and I have
already left my kids with their father, I
am not letting no one get in my way
anymore.
This is the unwanted pregnancy and the
damage you cause when you force a woman to
gestate, wake up and smell the coffee, go
adopt a kid in Africa for crying out loud
they need a home.
There is too many kids that need a home
and not enough people to adopt, lets work
on adopting them first before we start
this craap about keeping a pregnancy.
Im so sick on the bs that comes out of the
majority of pro-life....
Pro-lifers have nothing to do with your
situation. From what I read well you
screwed your life yourself and it's
nobody's fault. You decide to go crazy
because of a child, you deal with problems
in a unhealthy way and it's all but your
fault. I have had many problems in life
too but I choose to deal with them in more
healthy way. Life is what you make it.
YOU choose the path.
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Posted: 07-06-08 22:53pm
nightangel73
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Pro-lifers have nothing to
do with your situation. From what I read
well you screwed your life yourself and
it's nobody's fault. You decide to go
crazy because of a child, you deal with
problems in a unhealthy way and it's all
but your fault. I have had many problems
in life too but I choose to deal with them
in more healthy way. Life is what you
make it. YOU choose the
path.
Umm actually if you read it my dear all my
problems, depression, health problems
orginated in the pregnancy....
So please dont tell me how I felt, I will
tell you I regret being pregnant and
giving birth do you like that>?
Its true, some people do they just wont
admit it, cause people like you tell them
its wrong to feel that way.....
Just so you know the problems could have
been recitified earlier if proper action
was taken and nightangel next time you
feel, like throwing you thought in my
throat please go fly a kite.
Pregnancies can ruin somepeople ex
Because of my depression, I didnt want to
go to work, I didnt want to leave the
house and if I did, I would have severe
anxiety attacks. I was crying all the
time as well, my mental health before that
WAS QUITE fine.
Now because the hubby is pro-life only
when its a boy, somehow his ideals work,
he thinks who cares your having it whether
you like it or not and if I want to give
it up for adoption, well I need his
signature..
THATS RIGHT, IF YOU KNOW THE FATHER/ARE
WITH HIM YOU NEED HIS SIGNATURE FOR
ADOPTION....
I can't work therefore I cant get daycare,
I need money to pay these people, I hope
you know that.
Education, well I need a job and someone
to watch the kids 24 hours...
If you are a single mother with no help,
its welfare and school or you can just
live on welfare....
OPEN YOUR EYES PLEASE..
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Posted: 07-06-08 22:56pm
what an insensitive thing to say, why
would anybody "decide" to "go crazy".
I see what you are saying diamondz, and I
am sorry you felt forced to carry out a
pregnancy that wasn't ideal. Many people
handle things in their own way, and we all
learn from our mistakes, there is no cut
and dry way to handle things, and you did
the best you could on your own where
others couldn't or wouldn't help. I also
understand why your situation would make
you pro-choice as opposed to pro-life; you
know what it is like to not feel like you
can make your own choice. I'm glad you are
somewhat better and I truly hope that you
get to where you want to be in life.
kind regards,
Amino
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Posted: 07-06-08 23:04pm
Btw Im just sharing how I felt in that
part of my life, I dont feel that way
right now, things are a little different
in a positive way.
N/a I didnt choose to be depressed its a
chemical imbalance in my brain and it
happens from pregnancy if you are or just
gave birth, read up. My issue was they
wouldn't give me medication when I knew I
was depressed.
Depression ruins live, the depression was
partly hormonal and post from my other
one, but the pregnancy made the mild down
worse than what it was.
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Posted: 07-07-08 00:10am
nightangel73
wrote:
Pro-lifers have nothing to
do with your situation. From what I read
well you screwed your life yourself and
it's nobody's fault. You decide to go
crazy because of a child, you deal with
problems in a unhealthy way and it's all
but your fault. I have had many problems
in life too but I choose to deal with them
in more healthy way. Life is what you
make it. YOU choose the
path.
Your post is so ignorant it's practically
a joke. Nobody CHOOSES to have
depression. You'd tell a person dying
from cancer that it's their own fault.
Diamondsz, thank-you for telling your
story. It is rare to hear about
experiences like yours, and more people
need to understand the ramifications of
forced pregnancy.
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Posted: 07-07-08 06:08am
nightangel73
wrote:
Pro-lifers have nothing to
do with your situation.
since pro-lifers seem to think unwanted
pregnancies should be carried regardless
of the womans feelings I would say this
experience is very valid in showing the
effects an unwanted yet gestated pregnancy
can have (and also the fact diamondz
visited pro-life based centres, thought
you guys were all about continuing the
pregnancy?)
nightangel73
wrote:
You decide to go crazy
because of a
child
no-one decides to suffer health
problems, mental or otherwise.
I noted in another post you also don't
worry about PND - I sincerely hope you do
not suffer this btw - but I guess that's
because you'll choose not to get PPD,
right?!
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Posted: 07-07-08 11:27am
I often think I'm not cut out for
motherhood either diamond so I sympathise
with you when you say that. I don't like
the demands it makes of me and I can't
stand silly, noisy games. My pregnancy
was planned but I didn't bond with my son
straight away and I suffered with post
natal depression which has not gone away
yet and my son is three and a half. I
don't want any more children, in fact the
idea of going through it all again
terrifies me. I think the fact I have a
supportive husband and a loving family is
what has got me through. I love my son
with all of my heart and I do not regret
having him but by God, it's so much harder
than I ever thought it would be.
At the end of the day, your children need
a stable and happy life and if you don't
feel you are able to give that to them
(through absolutely no fault of your own)
then you have done the right thing by
stepping away.
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Re: Forced pregnancy Posted: 07-07-08 14:15pm
diamondsz
wrote:
This is an outline and what
I am going to share, I dont care who
criticizes me because im not ashamed
anymore.
I was forced to carry my 2nd pregnancy
against my will, I didnt find out I was
pregnant till about 2 and a half months
along, so my time was short. I went to a
clinic to have an ultrasound done and
found out it was a boy.
My hubby was so desperate for a boy that
he told me, he would leave me if I had an
abortion or even cheat on me, with some
other nasty things but we won't go there.
At that time in my life it was a great
deal, I really did care for him and that
really destroyed me.
4 months came along and I was hating the
pregnancy even more, I started drinking,
well one night anyways I must have drank
half a bottle of vodka, not to many weeks
after I went into severe depression. I
went to multiple doctors, none of whom
would give me anti-depressants, even
though I was putting weight on like crazy
and crying everyday, they said DEAL WITH
IT.
I went to a few pregnancy centres,
majority of which were pro-life and they
were disgusted with me and told me I
wasn't in my right frame of mind, they
told me I would harm my kid for taking
anti-depressants. I finally came across a
centre, who associates themselves with
Planned parenthood and they helped out a
bit but I still couldn't get a grip on
life.
I put on 75 lbs altogether, so far I lost
about 45 but its a real bummer....
Afterwards, the birth I was somewhat okay,
I went on anti-depressants, I was on pills
for anxiety and acid reflux, my mental
health got worse because it wasn't dealt
with in a time efficient manner.
How did this affect my life.......
My marriage is in the hole, he decided he
could walk all over me, I hate but love my
kids and now I suffer stomach problems
that I never had before.
I lost my job, a stable job which is
almost impossible to find nowadays, my
friends have estranged from me and well my
family's not happy about the whole
sitiuation
What it made me realize, is how bloody
ignorant some people are, how some people
only care for themselves, how their is so
much more to the eye. It also made me
realize that parenting isn't my thing, I
have no patience and I have to give up my
education and my job to scarifice for
something I don't want.
Everyone critisizes me for what I do, if I
go on welfare I have people criticizing
me, if I go back to school and leave the
dad with the kids, I am told I am not
taking responsibilities for a two person
job, that lacks on one side anyway.
I guess I am pro-choice exactly for this
reason.........
I am going back to school and I have
already left my kids with their father, I
am not letting no one get in my way
anymore.
This is the unwanted pregnancy and the
damage you cause when you force a woman to
gestate, wake up and smell the coffee, go
adopt a kid in Africa for crying out loud
they need a home.
There is too many kids that need a home
and not enough people to adopt, lets work
on adopting them first before we start
this craap about keeping a pregnancy.
Im so sick on the bs that comes out of the
majority of
pro-life....
Was your first child wanted? Did you know
you did not want another child? If so, did
you try to prevent this from happening?
Did you know your husband was pro-life
before you married him? Did you guys ever
discuss children and how many you would
like to have before getting married?
What happened to you was unfortunate. But,
pro-lifers aren't actually to blame. Don't
turn this sad situation into a way to bash
pro-lifers. I know you're angry, but focus
more on YOUR HUSBAND.
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Posted: 07-07-08 14:40pm
NeutralUsername
wrote:
[
Was your first child wanted? Did you know
you did not want another child? If so, did
you try to prevent this from happening?
Did you know your husband was pro-life
before you married him? Did you guys ever
discuss children and how many you would
like to have before getting married?
What happened to you was unfortunate. But,
pro-lifers aren't actually to blame. Don't
turn this sad situation into a way to bash
pro-lifers. I know you're angry, but focus
more on YOUR
HUSBAND.
He wasn't pro-life, he only went complete
extreme when he found out it was a boy,
now I was on birth control but I still got
preggo and my doctor didn't believe me
when I told him.
Pro-lifers are partially to blame, because
when I really needed help in that point of
my life, they told me I was wrong for
doing what I did and for the feelings I
had. I got pregnant with my first
because it was planned on the
circumstances that he did his half of
taking care of her. Like jules said she
actually stated it well, it took me almost
a year if not more just to bond with my
daughter but I conceived when she was 9
months. I had only wanted one but when I
asked to have my tubes tied I was refused
because I was 20, even after him I had
asked again (3 times) and was refused
again.
I am not angry, Im just stating how I
felt, like I said I dont feel like that
anymore........
Anyway, what I should have wrote, is that
pro-life scream for people to keep their
pregnancy but never want to assist people,
its like you expect a car to be made
without anyone to put it together. I
really explain things the wrong way but I
will use another analogy, you expect major
profits in a company but dont have enough
people to keep up with it.
Let me ask a better question, why should I
not abort if I had another kid?
My reasoning on this, why put a kid into
adoption, when the adoption needs can
nearly be met as they are right now>?
Basically with no care you want a kid
brought in this world whether they have
parents or not, is that not selfish and
stupid?
I guess this is where I am going
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Posted: 07-07-08 14:43pm
What I forgot to add
Some people are coerced into abortion and
others are coerced into pregnancy and the
rates people are coerced ino pregnancy are
alot higher than we think.
It could be as simple as telling them,
they are supposed to take responsibility,
they are wrong for feeling the way they do
or even by threats, financial, emotional
or physical (ex I will kick you out.)
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Posted: 07-07-08 14:44pm
A point that is being missed is that
diamondsz was giving us a glimpse into the
life of a woman who was coerced and
manipulated into giving birth, which was
not a choice of her own free will.
Prolife advocates need to pay heed to her
story as there would be many more if the
prolife morality was written into law.
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Posted: 07-07-08 15:08pm
Jules
wrote:
I often think I'm not cut
out for motherhood either diamond so I
sympathise with you when you say that. I
don't like the demands it makes of me and
I can't stand silly, noisy games. My
pregnancy was planned but I didn't bond
with my son straight away and I suffered
with post natal depression which has not
gone away yet and my son is three and a
half. I don't want any more children, in
fact the idea of going through it all
again terrifies me. I think the fact I
have a supportive husband and a loving
family is what has got me through. I love
my son with all of my heart and I do not
regret having him but by God, it's so much
harder than I ever thought it would be.
At the end of the day, your children need
a stable and happy life and if you don't
feel you are able to give that to them
(through absolutely no fault of your own)
then you have done the right thing by
stepping away.
I hope things get better for you
soon.
Thank you so much for the honesty, Im not
stepping out of their lives, Im just going
back to college so I will be away
temporarily, im just explaining how I felt
in that part of my life.
Like you I had an extremely hard time,
bonding, I still dont have much patience
but I dont hate them although they do
drive me nuts. Their father is getting
posted to another city and they dont have
a college there, so Im staying here to do
my schooling but will drop by. Alot of
people dont understand how it affects you,
some people can deal with, some cant but
still deal with but I still dont think it
is a one sided issue.
Not many people would be able to say what
you have, I respect you that much more
because there is alot of woman who are
made to feel bad for that!! Good luck
Jules
Jules, just one small comment you had
empathy for me, not sympathy. Sympathy is
really bad it is having pity for someone,
or feeling bad/condescending for them.
Empathy is when you try to understand the
other person,put yourself into another
persons shoes or even base it off off
personal experience. Hope this doesnt
offend you.
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Posted: 07-07-08 15:32pm
Diamondsz, something just seems off about
your story. I can't figure out if you
actually went into your marriage wanting
children, or that you actually never
wanted any but your husband believed you
did. Or you thought you did but realized
you didn't when you had your daughter?
Also, when you got the ultrasound of your
second child, did you want to know the
sex? Did they just outright tell you
without you asking? Did you actually ask
what the gender was? Did you know your
husband really wanted a son?
A lot of things seem to be left out.
I still don't see what this has to do with
pro-lifers. There seemed to be a lack of
comminication in your relationship and you
weren't allowed to have your tubes tied
which has nothing to do with the abortion
debate. You should have got that procedure
if you wanted it and nothing like this
would have occured. Still, if your husband
knew how you felt in all this (even with
your daughter), then HE is the problem.
Not pro-lifers. If pro-lifers were wiped
from this earth, your husband STILL would
have done this. Your husband wanted a son
badly and didn't care about your feelings.
He could have been pro-choice (or had no
opinion in the abortion debate) and still
have done this.
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Posted: 07-07-08 16:02pm
NeutralUsername
wrote:
Diamondsz, something just
seems off about your story. I can't figure
out if you actually went into your
marriage wanting children, or that you
actually never wanted any but your husband
believed you did. Or you thought you did
but realized you didn't when you had your
daughter?
Also, when you got the ultrasound of your
second child, did you want to know the
sex? Did they just outright tell you
without you asking? Did you actually ask
what the gender was? Did you know your
husband really wanted a son?
A lot of things seem to be left out.
I still don't see what this has to do with
pro-lifers. There seemed to be a lack of
comminication in your relationship and you
weren't allowed to have your tubes tied
which has nothing to do with the abortion
debate. You should have got that procedure
if you wanted it and nothing like this
would have occured. Still, if your husband
knew how you felt in all this (even with
your daughter), then HE is the problem.
Not pro-lifers. If pro-lifers were wiped
from this earth, your husband STILL would
have done this. Your husband wanted a son
badly and didn't care about your feelings.
He could have been pro-choice (or had no
opinion in the abortion debate) and still
have done
this.
Also, this quote you made in another forum
just made things more confusing: "Now my
Son was unplanned but I had more with him
and enjoyed the pregnancy more than I did
with her, he came out and I am still very
attached to him as he is with me."
Do you have more than one son? I thought
you hated the pregnancy with your son?
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Posted: 07-08-08 08:59am
I enjoyed the pregnancy with my daughter,
didnt enjoy the birth, with my son I didnt
enjoy the pregnancy but the birth was so
much easier. I still had a harder time
bonding with both of them.
Me and him had talked about having a kid
and then I said I had wanted to wait and
see if I had more, I was on birth contol
but like you probably read, antibiotics
lessened the effect and therefore I got
pregnant without my knowledge. I was
originally told Cam was a girl, when it
came to sex and there was talk with my GP
about medically terminating because of
defects(although there ws none.)
Even if it wasn't him, it could have been
someone else pushing me into the
pregnancy, anyone can coerce and by making
someone feel bad for what they feel is
ridicoulous. I went to birthright, its
centre down here that offers aid,
counselling to pregnant woman, when I
went, I met a really nice woman, who told
me I was wrong for thinking about ending
the pregnancy. Although we knew I was
depressed and I had informed them I needed
something because no one would give me
meds for depression. Our conversations
starting becoming less of me talking and
more of her putting me down and thats when
I stopped attenting. I went back to my GP
and asked if he could find me an outside
counselling group(if you get a request
from a doctor, there is usually no
charge.)
I made calls around and it seemed that
there were no doors for me, I went to a
pro-choice centre, it was nice but really
out of my way and I didnt have my drivers
licence then. So although the help was
available, it was out of my way but I did
find outside help although I did have to
pay.
The point being is when I needed help, not
only with my emotions, my beliefs or even
how I despised the pregnancy, Birthright
continually made me feel down about my
emotions, it was almost like having those
thoughts were wrong (about trying to end
the pregnancy.
I havent gone into all the details but I
tried throwing myself down the stairs, I
tried over drinking and popping pills
because that is how bad I didn't want it,
now whether it was partially the
depression, I really dont know.
Lack of communication, yes because I have
a harder time expressing myself in English
than I do in my mother tongue.
I did get pregnant again not too long
after my son, me and hubby split up, I
went and threw myself into someone elses
arms(stupid I know) and well I came back.
I told him I was pregnant ( he was seeing
someone else) but he wanted it. I ended
up loosing it and we went back down the
same road. I have just decided Im really
fertile lol!!
Anyway, my point is, some of you want to
tell people you care for a baby to be but
there was no care, in any way shape or
form for my mental health. Planned
parenthood, offered help but like I said
it was really hard to get there and I was
burning my bridges but I did find someone
to help who was neutral.
So if I came to you tommorrow and told you
I had thoughts of abortion in my mind, how
would you react? Would you give a crap
how I feel?
Some of you are incapable of empathy and
birch made a really good point.
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Posted: 07-08-08 13:15pm
I think, I could be wrong, this is what
may be missing from some people's
understanding.
This is not a case of a pro-choice woman
not wanting to go through with a
pregnancy. It isn't that she didn't want
children when she got married.
It's that pregnancy CAUSES MAJOR
DEPRESSION in some people, just like it
can cause diabetes and high blood
pressure, and other things. Diamondsz got
depression from her pregnancy, and it
didn't just go away, it was exacerbated by
ANOTHER pregnancy.
The conflict with her husbnad was ot a
clash of views or ideologies, she
pro-choice, or he pro-life. It had
NOTHING to do with that. It had
everything to do with Diamondsz developing
a SERIOUS medical condition that her
husband REFUSED to allow her to have
treated.
It's exactly the same thing if she
developed pre-eclampsia, and he wouldn't
allow her to abort because it was a boy.
He would force her to risk her life for
the pregnancy, the fetus was more
important than his wife.
You have to understand what depression
feels like to really get this story. I
understand and I get it.
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Posted: 07-08-08 14:31pm
diamondsz
wrote:
I enjoyed the pregnancy with
my daughter, didnt enjoy the birth, with
my son I didnt enjoy the pregnancy but the
birth was so much easier. I still had a
harder time bonding with both of them.
Me and him had talked about having a kid
and then I said I had wanted to wait and
see if I had more, I was on birth contol
but like you probably read, antibiotics
lessened the effect and therefore I got
pregnant without my knowledge. I was
originally told Cam was a girl, when it
came to sex and there was talk with my GP
about medically terminating because of
defects(although there ws none.)
Even if it wasn't him, it could have been
someone else pushing me into the
pregnancy, anyone can coerce and by making
someone feel bad for what they feel is
ridicoulous. I went to birthright, its
centre down here that offers aid,
counselling to pregnant woman, when I
went, I met a really nice woman, who told
me I was wrong for thinking about ending
the pregnancy. Although we knew I was
depressed and I had informed them I needed
something because no one would give me
meds for depression. Our conversations
starting becoming less of me talking and
more of her putting me down and thats when
I stopped attenting. I went back to my GP
and asked if he could find me an outside
counselling group(if you get a request
from a doctor, there is usually no
charge.)
I made calls around and it seemed that
there were no doors for me, I went to a
pro-choice centre, it was nice but really
out of my way and I didnt have my drivers
licence then. So although the help was
available, it was out of my way but I did
find outside help although I did have to
pay.
The point being is when I needed help, not
only with my emotions, my beliefs or even
how I despised the pregnancy, Birthright
continually made me feel down about my
emotions, it was almost like having those
thoughts were wrong (about trying to end
the pregnancy.
I havent gone into all the details but I
tried throwing myself down the stairs, I
tried over drinking and popping pills
because that is how bad I didn't want it,
now whether it was partially the
depression, I really dont know.
Lack of communication, yes because I have
a harder time expressing myself in English
than I do in my mother tongue.
I did get pregnant again not too long
after my son, me and hubby split up, I
went and threw myself into someone elses
arms(stupid I know) and well I came back.
I told him I was pregnant ( he was seeing
someone else) but he wanted it. I ended
up loosing it and we went back down the
same road. I have just decided Im really
fertile lol!!
Anyway, my point is, some of you want to
tell people you care for a baby to be but
there was no care, in any way shape or
form for my mental health. Planned
parenthood, offered help but like I said
it was really hard to get there and I was
burning my bridges but I did find someone
to help who was neutral.
So if I came to you tommorrow and told you
I had thoughts of abortion in my mind, how
would you react? Would you give a crap
how I feel?
Some of you are incapable of empathy and
birch made a really good
point.
You STILL said that you enjoyed the
pregnancy with your son more than you did
with your daughter. But, now you said you
hated the pregnancy with your son. Which
is it? You said you bonded right away with
your son, but not with your daughter. Then
you said you had a hard time bonding with
BOTH children. Which is it?
Also, I read somewhere that you drank in
MODERATION with BOTH pregnancies, but then
you keep saying you drank heavily with
your son. Which is it?
Try to keep your stories straight please.
I do not believe that your pregnancies
were ever unwanted. There are other ways
to make a point.
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Posted: 07-08-08 14:33pm
aochriss
wrote:
I think, I could be wrong,
this is what may be missing from some
people's understanding.
This is not a case of a pro-choice woman
not wanting to go through with a
pregnancy. It isn't that she didn't want
children when she got married.
It's that pregnancy CAUSES MAJOR
DEPRESSION in some people, just like it
can cause diabetes and high blood
pressure, and other things. Diamondsz got
depression from her pregnancy, and it
didn't just go away, it was exacerbated by
ANOTHER pregnancy.
The conflict with her husbnad was ot a
clash of views or ideologies, she
pro-choice, or he pro-life. It had
NOTHING to do with that. It had
everything to do with Diamondsz developing
a SERIOUS medical condition that her
husband REFUSED to allow her to have
treated.
It's exactly the same thing if she
developed pre-eclampsia, and he wouldn't
allow her to abort because it was a boy.
He would force her to risk her life for
the pregnancy, the fetus was more
important than his wife.
You have to understand what depression
feels like to really get this story. I
understand and I get it.
Except it seems that she may not have
actually been depressed because of the
contradictions in her story.
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diamondsz
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Posted: 07-08-08 16:40pm
NeutralUsername
wrote:
You STILL said that you enjoyed the
pregnancy with your son more than you did
with your daughter. But, now you said you
hated the pregnancy with your son. Which
is it?
Since you are pulling
up archives, go through mine for placenta
previa and the one I started back in
05/06
Its hard to explain, I didnt want to be
pregnant, like I started this post yes,
that was probably what I wrote reversed
lol but I also am saying I am revealing
how I felt. DO NOT Call me liar.........
I used to tell people what they wanted to
hear to keep them off my back, if you read
some of my drinking posts we had people
getting in my face go back to 2006.
So I had problems, people would get in my
face, and well made me feel like a EFFIN
horrible person, now I just don't care,
thats the difference.
NeutralUsername
wrote:
You said you bonded right away with your
son, but not with your daughter. Then you
said you had a hard time bonding with BOTH
children. Which is
it?
I did, although I had a slightly easier
time with it, as I went back to work when
he was two months.
NeutralUsername
wrote:
Try to keep your stories straight please.
I do not believe that your pregnancies
were ever unwanted. There are other ways
to make a
point.
Stop putting words in my mouth.........
IM SO SICK of people telling me how to
feel or how to talk
Im talking about how pregnancy cn be the
worst thing in the world, what can you not
understand about that? Not everyone is
jumping for joy and I wont let you tell me
it is!!!
Please name one woman who actually enjoys
pregnancy besides babys kicking? PLEASE
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