G/F lied to me about masturbating Posted: 02-29-08 23:37pm
Hi this is my first post.
A little background. My G/F and I have
been together for 6 months and our
relationship is going very strong. In fact
I know that she is the ONE for me because
I'm in Love with her and she is in Love
with me. I want to spend the rest of my
life with her, we click so well together,
and we each love each other so much. We
have each agreed to be honset with each
other and have a very open to speak about
everything and anything.
Today after coming out of the shower I
noticed that my G/F was clearing the
Recent Documents folder history on the
computer. At first I didn't think much of
it, but then I found that her vibrator had
been moved since I last saw it. My G/F
likes to masturbate so I thought, "Hey I
guess she just masturbated to porn on the
computer". which to me is not a problem at
all anymore. I told her before that it's
ok if she masturbates without me.
Continuing....I asked her to come to bed
with me so we could have sex, she agreed,
and I asked her if she had masturbated
while I was in the shower (I expected her
to be honset as I was going to use this to
lead into sexual conversation) To my
surprise she denied it, she lied right to
my face, she told me she had not
masturbated. I told her that I knew she
had been masturbating because I saw her
deleting the history and I found her
vibrator had been moved. Upon hearing this
she still was reluctant to admit it, until
she finally admitted it. At this point she
was upset. As for me I was and still am
very hurt, not because she masturbated,
but because she lied about masturbating.
She looked me in the eyes and lied to
me...
Has this ever happened to anyone else? Is
it normal? How should I react?
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hrtz2mch
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Joined: 28 Feb 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 03-01-08 10:44am
i honestly dont think u should react, this
is something small...sometimes girls jus
feel uncomfortable admitting they do
masturbate, and maybe w/ u asking her over
an over again she felt like she did need
to hide cuz of how u would feel, or how u
approached it...not sure if this helps or
not but, but jus remeber sometimes girls
jus wana keep that thing private, but not
all the time
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ladyT02
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Posted: 03-01-08 16:58pm
its not a big deal if she gives herself a
little pleasure. if my guy asked me i'd be
a little shy to tell him yea i masturbate.
she just felt shy and you pushing her to
tell you the truth didnt help either thats
why she got mad. dont worry about it,
lieing to your partner that you msaterbate
isnt a big deal. but if her masturbating
starts to get in the way of you guys
spending time alone or having intimacy
then you should reallt tell her something
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 03-03-08 12:45pm
I understand that your hurt that she lied.
Quite honestly I would have lied too. I
wouldn't want to ruin my bf's experience
or turn him off by saying I had
masturbated just minutes before he got out
of the shower. I really don't think you
should take this too harsh. She probaby
didn't want to cause any waves or make you
feel uncomfortable.
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