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Relationships and Marriage Forum - girl txt my guy....again
well i had previously posted last year of
this one chik who txt my guy and when she
asked him if he was still single he said
yes (a tota lie because we were together)
and i confronted him about her and he said
she knew of him and i.
so today were standing at the computer
listening to music and i saw him txt
someone andi recognized the number...it
was her again! i got so annoyed and angry
cause that jus means he lied when he told
me she knew of us being together. i
couldnt make out much of the txt but i
think she said she wanted to grab a drink
together and he replyed something like
when she would be in town again . i know
her number by heart so i am so close you
guys to pickin up my phone to txtn her
myself and telling her to cut it out and
that he does have a girlfriend and later
i.ll deal with him. what would you guys
suggest, she doesnt even live in the
state, i love my guy so much and i heard
him tell his friends he knows he talks
sh** but that he would never do aything to
jeapordize what we have....if he wouldnt
do anything or act upon it then why does
he drag her along? why do guys do that?
ugh im so mad somebody, guys girls give me
some advice
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-29-08 00:52am
have you tried talking to him about this?
i had a similar situation when my current
boyfriend and i first started dating..i
was actually away at college and had come
home one weekend to spend time with
him..this girl..seriously was blowing up
his phone..they were classmates but she
was driving me INSANE...we were out to
dinner and were supposed to go to some
friends place to chill/drink..well,
apparently SHE was going there too..she
knew he had a gf...maybe she didn't know i
was in town but I was gonna make sure she
did by the end of the night...she
called..and called..and called...i told my
bf if he answers that phone again I'll
pick it up and give her an earfull..thats
incredibly RUDE and annoying..i haven't
seen my bf for THREE weeks and you're
blowing up the phone?! huh uh
hunny...haha...anyway, he told her to
leave him alone and she didn't say a word
to him at the party...there were no
suspicions of him cheating or anything,
but the girl i swear...could not take a
HINT....ANYWAY...my whole point is my
problem solved itself eventually..while it
took her dumb self alittle longer than
expected she did finally get the hint and
began to back off...however, your problem
seems to continue...are there suspiciouns
of him cheating? you should talk to
him..tell him it gets to you, you're not
sure why, it just does..and you would
appreciate it if he a)be honest with you
and b) kindly tell the girl to back off
alittle bit..if he loves you he'll take
that to heart...if not...do you really
want to waste your time worrying all the
time?
sorry its SO long
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ladyT02
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Posted: 06-29-08 01:06am
the thing i forgot to mention was he
rarely uses his personal phone (which is
the one she txt him to) he.ll turn it on
maybe 4 times a month to see if any
creditors or what ever has called him. he
doesnt use it everyday like his work phone
which he has on 24 hrs a day. he knew this
chik back in college and they and she
hadnt moved away at the time so she kept
insisting they hangout etc. and one of his
txt sounded like he was annoyed cause he
said "weve had this conversation before".
and she kept insisting. so i confronted
him about it and he said she knew about
him and i, that she moved to another state
and that she had kids and was married. i
really just want to politely tell her to
stop inviting my guy out for drinks cause
im his girlfriend. and he said he said all
that but that he was playing around.
we had barely started living together so i
dont kno if he did it cause he wasnt used
to living with anyone and wanted to feel
some sort of freedom? the thing that does
put me a lil at ease is he never has ASKED
her to hang out, he.ll be like whatever
yea lets kick it, but he never uses that
phone. shes very insistant so if i keep
noticing this i.ll just tel him straight
out, either he tells her the truth and
stop dragging her along or i.ll do it
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-29-08 17:19pm
well you know, I did have a really close
guy from back in college too, this post
makes it sound more like shes just wanting
to catch up with him, when I read the
first of your posts I thought that she was
texting ALL the time(since you know her
number by heart) and was pushing to hang
out all the time...i could see how it
might bug you but I wouldn't get too upset
about it, especially if he isn't on his
phone all the time....my boyfriend has a
girl that he's known since kindergarten I
think..they dated very shortly and every
once in a blue moon he'll get a text from
her asking to hang out or something...but
he never follows through with it..so...I
mean, honestly if it REALLY bothers you
that much..just talk to him and ask him
for honesty..it doesn't sound to me like
he's too interested in her and it doesn't
sound like he's that interested in
following through with plans, if he were
going to grab a drink with her and really
wanted to..dont you think he would have by
now?
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harmony1
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Posted: 06-29-08 17:35pm
Why don't you send her a text telling her
that. I would.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 06-29-08 19:30pm
worrywart01 your right, but what irks me
is the fact that if she is still asking
him to hang out, she still thinks hes
single and that means he lied to me when
he told me she knew of him and i being
together. all i wanted to do was send her
a txt letting her know who i was and that
i really would appreciate it if she would
stop trying to go out with my boyfriend.
nothing menacing lol and i mean ewww shes
married, got 2 kids...she has no self
respect. unless my boyfriend was liening
about that too and she really isnt married
and with kids. im talking to him right now
about it i.ll keep you guys posted
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-29-08 20:48pm
if shes asking him to hang out that
doesn't mean she thinks hes single...how
does that mean she thinks hes
single?...shes probably just an old friend
wanting to catch up honestly, especially
if shes married with 2 kids...
that would bug me though if your boyfriend
lied about it in the first place...that
just makes it a bigger deal than it needed
to be
good luck
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ladyT02
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Posted: 06-30-08 18:58pm
well i talked to him yesterday, and he had
told me she was married,kids,husband the
works lol turns out shes not technically
married(shes been with her guy so long she
might as well be married he says) she
doesnt have any kids (but her boyfriend
does) and she does live in another
state..but not the state he had told me
about(he sayd austin and now he says
oregon) so...right now im reevaluating the
trust i had in him. i told him all i
really want is honesty, be real with me
dont bull****. so im sorta not talking to
him right now, things feel so tense at
home. he came home quiet and feeling bad
cause he lied, but honestly i would have
appreciated the truth instead of a lie to
calm me down. but i honestly dont care,
best thing i think is let him mull over it
for a while so he sees its not cool.
i even told him some of my guy friend want
to hang out with me and they ALL know i
have a boyfriend but i dont go out out of
respect to him.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 06-30-08 20:23pm
well hopefully things work out with you
guys..and if he's lying then stop wasting
your time you know?
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Desteny11
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Posted: 07-09-08 12:09pm
Something like this happened to me. I
called the girl, emailed her, and texted
her telling her to back off... never to
receive a reply. She hasn't contacted him
since though. I confronted him about it
and he said he didn't think I would have a
problem with him talking to her and
hanging out with her when I was at work
and he wasn't and "Baby, do you really
think I would cheat on you?". After I said
what I had to say, he understood where I
was coming from and how I felt like he was
sneaking around because he never even
mentioned her name to me. I mean, if it
had been me texting and hanging out with
another guy without telling him, I know he
would have been just as upset, if not even
more upset than I was.
I decided to tell her off first because I
had a feeling if I asked him to stop
texting her and hanging out with her, he
wouldn't actually tell her why he couldn't
hang out or talk, so I figeured what
better way to end it? Let her know how
pissed I was when I found out, so she
understands my side of it.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 07-09-08 16:02pm
Desteny11
wrote:
Something like this happened
to me. I called the girl, emailed her, and
texted her telling her to back off...
never to receive a reply. She hasn't
contacted him since though. I confronted
him about it and he said he didn't think I
would have a problem with him talking to
her and hanging out with her when I was at
work and he wasn't and "Baby, do you
really think I would cheat on you?". After
I said what I had to say, he understood
where I was coming from and how I felt
like he was sneaking around because he
never even mentioned her name to me. I
mean, if it had been me texting and
hanging out with another guy without
telling him, I know he would have been
just as upset, if not even more upset than
I was.
I decided to tell her off first because I
had a feeling if I asked him to stop
texting her and hanging out with her, he
wouldn't actually tell her why he couldn't
hang out or talk, so I figeured what
better way to end it? Let her know how
pissed I was when I found out, so she
understands my side of
it.
some girls really dont give a rats butt if
theres a girlfriend involved or not and
they still pursue the guy for some unknown
reason..I really REALLY cannot understand
that...like..do you think you're Gods gift
from heaven or something and he wont cheat
on you? WRONG...if your "that girl" that
he cheats on his gf with, there will be
another that he will cheat on you
with..and soon Karma will come back and
bite you in the butt...this happened to
one of my girlfriends..she caught her
boyfriend hanging out with some 17 year
old chick(when the guy is 23 and "ready to
settle down) ..they talked things out he
BEGGED her for forgiveness and said he
wasn't into her..the girl kept pursuing
him, he did nothing to stop it and
evetually he left my friend for that
girl....complete fool..yea, let me leave
my girlfriend of over a year to jump back
into another high school
relationship...what a loser..eh..shes
better off without him, he was a jerk
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worrywart01
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Posted: 07-09-08 16:03pm
Desteny11
wrote:
Something like this happened
to me. I called the girl, emailed her, and
texted her telling her to back off...
never to receive a reply. She hasn't
contacted him since though. I confronted
him about it and he said he didn't think I
would have a problem with him talking to
her and hanging out with her when I was at
work and he wasn't and "Baby, do you
really think I would cheat on you?". After
I said what I had to say, he understood
where I was coming from and how I felt
like he was sneaking around because he
never even mentioned her name to me. I
mean, if it had been me texting and
hanging out with another guy without
telling him, I know he would have been
just as upset, if not even more upset than
I was.
I decided to tell her off first because I
had a feeling if I asked him to stop
texting her and hanging out with her, he
wouldn't actually tell her why he couldn't
hang out or talk, so I figeured what
better way to end it? Let her know how
pissed I was when I found out, so she
understands my side of
it.
some girls really dont give a rats butt if
theres a girlfriend involved or not and
they still pursue the guy for some unknown
reason..I really REALLY cannot understand
that...like..do you think you're Gods gift
from heaven or something and he wont cheat
on you? WRONG...if your "that girl" that
he cheats on his gf with, there will be
another that he will cheat on you
with..and soon Karma will come back and
bite you in the butt...this happened to
one of my girlfriends..she caught her
boyfriend hanging out with some 17 year
old chick(when the guy is 23 and "ready to
settle down) ..they talked things out he
BEGGED her for forgiveness and said he
wasn't into her..the girl kept pursuing
him, he did nothing to stop it and
evetually he left my friend for that
girl....complete fool..yea, let me leave
my girlfriend of over a year to jump back
into another high school
relationship...what a loser..eh..shes
better off without him, he was a jerk
