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Joey9725
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penis and vagina sex problem
Posted: 08-16-08 22:05pm
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Hi,
Im 20 years old and i have been married
for nearly a year my husband and i wanted
to wait till marriage before we both had
sex. We did wait and we are having trouble
having sex. For some reason its hard for
him to put his penis in, yes we do use lub
land i have read up books and info on sex.
we both get turned, and when its time to
try and have intercourse its like the
penis is hitting a brick wall and it feels
tight and it hurts. I need any advice with
people experiencing the same problem or
have been through the situation before.
Its very frustrating and i wish i knew how
to have sex without it being difficult.
Thank you
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mominashoe
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Posted: 08-16-08 22:27pm
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Alas the hollywood impression we have of
sex just isn't for a lot of us.
Sometimes it takes time before you can
both relax enough to be able to easily
make it happen. I waited until after
marriage too and it was no piece of cake!
I thought of getting a book myself called
Sex for Dummies...yes it exists lol. I've
been married over 10 years and I want a
book too 
I think this might be something that the
people in women's sexual health might be
able to answer, so I will copy your topic
over there so that you can get more
replies. I hope you are able to enjoy
each other successfully soon.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 08-17-08 00:08am
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How much foreplay takes place beforehand?
Does it hurt when your husband inserts his
fingers?
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Joey9725
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Posted: 08-22-08 21:46pm
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about 10-15 mins it does not take much.
It feels slighty uncomfortable when he
puts his fingers in there and it hurts a
lil.
Just don't know how to make the hole
bigger??
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Sydney123456
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Posted: 08-23-08 01:06am
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I think you need to work on the fingers
before you continue with the vagina. A
vagina's walls have the ability to
stretch...and by more foreplay along with
slowly working your way up, your vagina
will be able to comfortably have sex with
your husband.
Honestly, as I said in my other thread, I
think you and your husband need to spend A
LOT more time on foreplay. I think
spending entire nights just on foreplay
(which can be a lot of fun!) will help you
ease up.
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lotus130
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Posted: 08-29-08 21:29pm
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If your husband is circumcised, sometimes
that can hurt the vagina. I know for me
that's the case--it's not possible to have
fully pleasurable sex without a foreskin,
for me.
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Joey9725
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Posted: 09-02-08 21:00pm
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We do spend lost of time on forplay but
its like impossible to find the hole i
dont understand its really werid. it seems
like when im near the opening it just 2
small
Please anymore advice????
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Maddie34
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Posted: 09-02-08 21:19pm
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Have you tried being on top?
This way you'll be in charge of everything
and he won't be able to enter any further
until you're ready.
Do you masturbate?
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horselover1
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lube
Posted: 09-03-08 00:28am
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r u making sure your getting lube inside
your vagina? i had the same problem when i
first started having sex trust me one day
he will just go in and it will go all the
way in but it takes some time
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Joey9725
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Posted: 09-03-08 06:06am
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Yes i mainly try on top its the easiest.
No i don;t
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dr not
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Wine, wine, more wine
Posted: 09-04-08 18:25pm
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Each of you have a glass of wine and
massage each other.
Play some music and talk. The rest will
work itself out.
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