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Help! Lying about pregnancy?
Posted: 06-30-08 15:07pm

I am in a somewhat sticky situation. I was dating this guy back in last year for a few months. We weren't very serious. He ended up sleeping with an ex one very drunken night. This all happened 3 days after the girl found out he had been seeing me. well, I probably should have dumped him, but I really wanted to be with him and he's really not the cheating type. So, after he came clean I told him we're either exclusive or I'm out. He said he wanted to be with me and everything was fine. Six days after they had sex, she calls, and says that she is pregnant. A doctor's appointment was set up in January to get a pregnancy test done. She called on the Friday before and said that she forgot that she had an annual on the Friday, and so she already knew she was definitely pregnant. So, he did not get to go with her to a doctor. She called randomly the first month, then he was unable to get in touch with her for a couple of weeks. She comes to him at 5 weeks and shows him a sonogram that she got, while he wasn't at the doctor. Supposedly she texted him and he said he'd go to the doctor, but he never received a text. She disappeared for a couple of months at that point, then called one day and said she had another sonogram. She showed up, yelled at him for not being involved, and left. She never gave him a sonogram. Then, at about 5 months she texted him a picture of a stomach, which looked more like a pillow. He didn't answer because by then things were just way too fishy. A week later he gets the text again. So, he said, wow you're stomachs big, when are you due? She couldn't say. She said they keep pushing up her due date. then, last night, she texted him saying she was having contractions and on the way to the hospital from another state! She told him to meet her there, oh and by the way, now it's twins! He told her to call when she got into town or if her contractions got closer. He has yet to hear from her. He called today and got no answer.


This whole situation has been crazy. I can't decide if she's lying or not. I know I'm somehwat dumb for staying with him, but he's been really great. He made a mistake and if she's pregnant he'd take care of the child. But we can't get a for sure answer. I don't think I can make it the whole nine months without having some idea if she's even really pregnant. Someone give me some input, please!
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Posted: 06-30-08 15:14pm

How can you not decide if she is lying? You cannot find out 6 days after sex if you are pregnant - that should be clue number 1.

Clue number 2 should be that she can not provide any proof to anything and her due date keeps 'changing'.

Your for sure answer is that this girl is not pregnant.
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Confused84

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Posted: 06-30-08 15:17pm

thanks..that's how I've been feeling, but it's been going on for 7 months now! How can someone lie for that long? I don't get what she thinks she is achieving.
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Posted: 06-30-08 15:48pm

She's getting attention from him. That's what she's achieving. If she were pregnant, she'd have solid proof of it. SOLID proof.
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Posted: 06-30-08 17:57pm

Like AyaMiyaki says, she is getting attention and, boy howdy, are you guys worried about it. I bet you think and/or talk about this girl all the time.

You guys don't know anyone who knows her? He had random sex with a complete stranger? Does she have a myspace? Does she have facebook? Pregnancy information would be all over those things - because pregnant women all like to talk about their pregnancy.

So when did they have sex? Her due date would be very easily figured.
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Posted: 06-30-08 19:28pm

She was an old fling from a year or so ago. She had claimed pregnancy before actually, and 3 months into it said she had a miscarriage. He hadn't heard from her since. I found her myspace and it says proud parent..nothing else. She hasn't update information or pictures since this all started. I don't really know who she hangs out with and it seems from myspace that no one has seen her. Most people who post anything are asking where she's been. She doesn't get much attention from him. I worry a lot, but he doesn't know what to believe. The first couple of months he gave her attention, but when things started seeming fishy he blows off most of her calls. She always has an episode then kind of goes missing for a while..then shows up again. Oh...and they had sex either Dec 16 or 19. Help with a due date?
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Posted: 06-30-08 21:50pm

Based on December 18th, the due date would be September 9th.
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Posted: 07-01-08 14:20pm

personally i'd call the hospital shesays she's at and ask if she's there
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Posted: 07-01-08 15:19pm

Dannzibelle wrote:
personally i'd call the hospital shesays she's at and ask if she's there


They don't tell you that information. You have to ask specifically for that person. With the new HIPAA laws, doctors and hospitals cannot give out any information. Even to let you know if that person was there or not.
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Posted: 07-01-08 16:01pm

well then i'd ask for that person then they'd either say they're there or not
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Posted: 07-01-08 20:23pm

hmmm does he know her parents or their phone number maybe call them and saY hi im ....im trying to get in touch with your daughter she says she is so many months preg with my child and i want to take respsability for the child but have not seen her since the one night affair and want to go dr and such.....
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Confused84

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Posted: 07-01-08 21:26pm

that's a good idea. i talked to a friend who met her a few months ago. he saw her 2 to 3 months ago and said she didn't look pregnant. so i think i'm getting closer to proving shes a liar.
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Posted: 07-01-08 21:28pm

o and...she called him 2 weeks ago completed drunk. so if she is pregnant..she's not being a great mother.
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Posted: 07-01-08 21:39pm

You don't need to prove anything. Just leave her alone and move on with your life with your boyfriend. This attention, even BAD attention, is still ATTENTION and it's what she's obviously craving. She WANTS to be what you two are thinking about.

Don't worry about her or even answer her phone calls unless she starts whining about paternity tests and hospital bills. Then tell her to have the courts contact you. Until that happens, move on with your life. Don't let this affect you anymore.
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Confused84

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Posted: 07-01-08 21:52pm

Thanks..that's just what I'm going to have to do. It's getting him to not answer his phone. He doesn't want to be a deadbeat dad if it ends up being true. He doesn't believe it is, but on the off chance...he wants to be a good guy. If anything, I guess she only has two more months she can keep this up. Then her time is definitely up.
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Posted: 07-02-08 09:18am

Hey guys! Cats out of the bag! She got caught. That guy that knows her..confronted her, then called me. She called my boyfriend and yelled about this is not our place to spread her "news" but she admitted she was lying. Then, a little while later tried to say she was pregnant again, but just got ignored. She is crazy.
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Posted: 07-02-08 09:21am

I hope you two are able to move past this now. Good luck.
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