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Confused84
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Help! Lying about pregnancy?
Posted: 06-30-08 15:07pm
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I am in a somewhat sticky situation. I
was dating this guy back in last year for
a few months. We weren't very serious.
He ended up sleeping with an ex one very
drunken night. This all happened 3 days
after the girl found out he had been
seeing me. well, I probably should have
dumped him, but I really wanted to be with
him and he's really not the cheating type.
So, after he came clean I told him we're
either exclusive or I'm out. He said he
wanted to be with me and everything was
fine. Six days after they had sex, she
calls, and says that she is pregnant. A
doctor's appointment was set up in January
to get a pregnancy test done. She called
on the Friday before and said that she
forgot that she had an annual on the
Friday, and so she already knew she was
definitely pregnant. So, he did not get
to go with her to a doctor. She called
randomly the first month, then he was
unable to get in touch with her for a
couple of weeks. She comes to him at 5
weeks and shows him a sonogram that she
got, while he wasn't at the doctor.
Supposedly she texted him and he said he'd
go to the doctor, but he never received a
text. She disappeared for a couple of
months at that point, then called one day
and said she had another sonogram. She
showed up, yelled at him for not being
involved, and left. She never gave him a
sonogram. Then, at about 5 months she
texted him a picture of a stomach, which
looked more like a pillow. He didn't
answer because by then things were just
way too fishy. A week later he gets the
text again. So, he said, wow you're
stomachs big, when are you due? She
couldn't say. She said they keep pushing
up her due date. then, last night, she
texted him saying she was having
contractions and on the way to the
hospital from another state! She told him
to meet her there, oh and by the way, now
it's twins! He told her to call when she
got into town or if her contractions got
closer. He has yet to hear from her. He
called today and got no answer.
This whole situation has been crazy. I
can't decide if she's lying or not. I
know I'm somehwat dumb for staying with
him, but he's been really great. He made
a mistake and if she's pregnant he'd take
care of the child. But we can't get a for
sure answer. I don't think I can make it
the whole nine months without having some
idea if she's even really pregnant.
Someone give me some input, please!
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Mabel
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Posted: 06-30-08 15:14pm
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How can you not decide if she is lying?
You cannot find out 6 days after sex if
you are pregnant - that should be clue
number 1.
Clue number 2 should be that she can not
provide any proof to anything and her due
date keeps 'changing'.
Your for sure answer is that this girl is
not pregnant.
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Confused84
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Posted: 06-30-08 15:17pm
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thanks..that's how I've been feeling, but
it's been going on for 7 months now! How
can someone lie for that long? I don't
get what she thinks she is achieving.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 06-30-08 15:48pm
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She's getting attention from him. That's
what she's achieving. If she were
pregnant, she'd have solid proof of it.
SOLID proof.
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Mabel
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Posted: 06-30-08 17:57pm
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Like AyaMiyaki says, she is getting
attention and, boy howdy, are you guys
worried about it. I bet you think and/or
talk about this girl all the time.
You guys don't know anyone who knows her?
He had random sex with a complete
stranger? Does she have a myspace? Does
she have facebook? Pregnancy information
would be all over those things - because
pregnant women all like to talk about
their pregnancy.
So when did they have sex? Her due date
would be very easily figured.
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Confused84
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Posted: 06-30-08 19:28pm
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She was an old fling from a year or so
ago. She had claimed pregnancy before
actually, and 3 months into it said she
had a miscarriage. He hadn't heard from
her since. I found her myspace and it
says proud parent..nothing else. She
hasn't update information or pictures
since this all started. I don't really
know who she hangs out with and it seems
from myspace that no one has seen her.
Most people who post anything are asking
where she's been. She doesn't get much
attention from him. I worry a lot, but he
doesn't know what to believe. The first
couple of months he gave her attention,
but when things started seeming fishy he
blows off most of her calls. She always
has an episode then kind of goes missing
for a while..then shows up again.
Oh...and they had sex either Dec 16 or 19.
Help with a due date?
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Mabel
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Posted: 06-30-08 21:50pm
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Based on December 18th, the due date would
be September 9th.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 07-01-08 14:20pm
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personally i'd call the hospital shesays
she's at and ask if she's there
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Mabel
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Posted: 07-01-08 15:19pm
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| Dannzibelle
wrote: | | personally i'd call the
hospital shesays she's at and ask if she's
there |
They don't tell you that information. You
have to ask specifically for that person.
With the new HIPAA laws, doctors and
hospitals cannot give out any information.
Even to let you know if that person was
there or not.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 07-01-08 16:01pm
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well then i'd ask for that person then
they'd either say they're there or not
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 07-01-08 20:23pm
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hmmm does he know her parents or their
phone number maybe call them and saY hi im
....im trying to get in touch with your
daughter she says she is so many months
preg with my child and i want to take
respsability for the child but have not
seen her since the one night affair and
want to go dr and such.....
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Confused84
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Posted: 07-01-08 21:26pm
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that's a good idea. i talked to a friend
who met her a few months ago. he saw her
2 to 3 months ago and said she didn't look
pregnant. so i think i'm getting closer
to proving shes a liar.
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Confused84
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Posted: 07-01-08 21:28pm
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o and...she called him 2 weeks ago
completed drunk. so if she is
pregnant..she's not being a great mother.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 07-01-08 21:39pm
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You don't need to prove anything. Just
leave her alone and move on with your life
with your boyfriend. This attention, even
BAD attention, is still ATTENTION and it's
what she's obviously craving. She WANTS to
be what you two are thinking about.
Don't worry about her or even answer her
phone calls unless she starts whining
about paternity tests and hospital bills.
Then tell her to have the courts contact
you. Until that happens, move on with your
life. Don't let this affect you anymore.
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Confused84
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Posted: 07-01-08 21:52pm
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Thanks..that's just what I'm going to have
to do. It's getting him to not answer his
phone. He doesn't want to be a deadbeat
dad if it ends up being true. He doesn't
believe it is, but on the off chance...he
wants to be a good guy. If anything, I
guess she only has two more months she can
keep this up. Then her time is definitely
up.
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Confused84
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Posted: 07-02-08 09:18am
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Hey guys! Cats out of the bag! She got
caught. That guy that knows
her..confronted her, then called me. She
called my boyfriend and yelled about this
is not our place to spread her "news" but
she admitted she was lying. Then, a
little while later tried to say she was
pregnant again, but just got ignored. She
is crazy.
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 07-02-08 09:21am
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I hope you two are able to move past this
now. Good luck.
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