HELP needed with Divorce issues! Posted: 04-26-08 14:38pm
Hello, i need help from other's who have
been in my position or have already had a
divorce. My problem is me and my wife of
4years were talking about a divorce, for
our own reasons but now after I had told
of my plans of what i was planing to do
for her and our 2 kids, she asked me if I
was sure that I wanted this divorce. The
funny thing is she is the 1 who wanted the
divorce 1st, but the problem is after
4years of problems in our marriage I'm
worried that nothing will really change
and with me in the military and
deployments, do I really want to waste
another few years with her? I love her
still in so many ways but don't want to
waste my time anymore not getting what I
need in this marriage. So I need people's
opinions on this issue.
Ant
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mominashoe
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Posted: 04-26-08 15:16pm
If she is considering not having the
divorce and she is the one that brought it
up in the first place, then of course, you
need to give it time. Marriage is really
something that takes years to settle into
and is no easy thing. You should also
consider not jumping in to a divorce also
for the sake of your children.
No time is being wasted here, and you need
to stop viewing it as such since it isn't
helping matters. When you got married you
pledged your life to her....and now to
your children. A stable family for the
sake of the children is never wasted and
every day is a learning experience. I
think it is very hard on the family for
your life in the military, but it should
be making you stronger.
If you truly love your wife and your
children, and you want it to not be a
waste of time, there has to be the
willingness to commit on both sides. Your
children are already committed: how about
you?
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Bhealthy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Jul 2007 Posts: 6 Location: , Deployed
Posted: 04-26-08 15:53pm
Sorry when i said waste of time, it's just
I don't know we have our problems, and
there's so many things I want to talk to
her about, like with my deployments,
things I did, saw and all that stuff but I
can't with her cause she would never
understand. When I come home from a
deployment all I want is time with her and
my kids, that affection, sex, time, etc. I
think she has gotten use to me not being
there with her, not much I can do about
that. I love my kids don't get me wrong,
my oldest is 4 and the baby is 1yr, just
don't want them seeing their parents argue
all the time. Don't know what I should do,
like I said I love her but she is not
trying here hardest to make me happy in so
many way's.
