Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Posts: 1 Location: Lubbock Texas,
help! What is going on? Posted: 03-21-08 21:38pm
I have only been married to my husband 11
months. He doesn't act interested in me
at all. When I point out I need attention
and compliments he says, he'll give me
compliments when I look good to him and
then I'll know he means it. Also; an old
"flame" of his told me he came to see her
just before he officially proposed to me
and asked if she would ever consider
marrying him-she said she said "no". We
had already talked about getting
married...he denies doing this and said
he'd "prove it to me if he could.
Well...I thought of a way. I asked him to
give me copies of his debit card (she said
they went out) which would show the
bill..he went all around the request and
when he had time today to get a copy from
the bank-he didn't. I have caught him
lying in the past..He shows no interest in
our new house. He came to bed late last
night and whispered to me; "you know I
love you, don't you"....what is going on?
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mominashoe
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Posted: 03-21-08 22:07pm
It seems like he really is hiding
something. If you have a gut feeling
something is wrong, there probably is,
unless you are previously prone to
paranoia in your life (which still doesn't
rule it out.) In rare cases there can be
a lack of libido and interest for medical
reasons, but I don't think this is the
case here, especially with his odd
schedule (coming in late at night, doing
things that he isn't tell you about).
I suppose you have already confronted him
outright and asked him what's going on?
Asked him blank and to the point about
what he's up to?
It could be pricey, but you could hire a
private investigator. I think it would be
worth it. Or, you could do a little
investigating on your own. Trust is
something that has to be earned and he
definitely hasn't earned it.
Until you do find out what exactly is
going on, you have the right to withhold
from him any rights he has to you as a
wife. You don't want to risk STDs because
you have no idea what he is doing out
there. If he really loved you, he would
want you, and would give you compliments
no matter what you looked like.
Best of luck to you. It's going to be
hard and the truth hurts, but it's the
best thing for both of you.
