First off I want to apologize for the
thing with sarah being banned and such
from a while ago.
I havent been around in a while cuz ive
been dealing with stuff at home and still
working on it. Ive been having major
anxiety and stuff but my dr put me on
prozac now instead and gave me xanax until
the prozac kicks in.
Jason is seriously addicted to world of
war craft, he made me go to the FRG meetin
gyesterday for him and I wound up talking
to his platoon sgt about it for 2 hrs!
Because its seriously causing a problem!
If he is at home hesplayin that game , he
will come home sit on the computer , not
even take his shoes off and play the game
till he goes to bed, hes on it all
weekend. like i am not over exxagerating
any of this at all! He has stayed up and
pulled all nighters a few times playing
this game, he spent mothers day playing
it, until we got in a huge argument over
it and he got off a few hrs but he was mad
the entire time so it didnt make a
difference then he called me a fat@$$! And
then told joseph that mommys a B****. So
yeah mothers day was not fun at all for me
and he never even said happy mothers day,
he doesnt help around the house at all but
i dont ever ask him to cuz of his back,
occasionayl i will ask him to put the kids
to bed or give em a bath cuz thats like 10
min ya know but sometimes he flips out
about having to do that even! And im tired
of waiting to see if he gets sick of the
game cuz that could be months and months
away. I called family advocacy today to
talk to them about it and shes calling
tomorow to set up an appt to hopefully
talk to him and me about it if hes willing
to show up that is, and i still need to
warn or tell him that shes gonna be
calling and wants to talk to him for a few
min but im scared that hes gonna be really
mad at me but its affecting our marriage
and our family. Its like hes just a couch
decoration and I cant take it anymore.
In better news we got a doggie tuesday,
rotweiler, hes house trained and
everything and mostly calm unless joseph
hypes him up! His original owner died in
iraq about amonth ago and the guys wife
went back to the states and couldnt take
the dog with her so her friend took him in
to find hima home. She allowed us to take
him for a trial and well he did well so he
is ours for the keeping! I love him! The
kids love him. He just has to see a doggy
shrink here cuz the breed he is, its
required here in germany. they will keep
him 72 hrs to make sure hes not agressive.
All he does is lick ALOT. He thinks he is
small and tries to sit in your lap too and
hes 80lbs!
Josephs doing really well with talking,
still working on potty training
though.......Still meeting with the
parenting lady hopefully she can help me
more with the discipline becuase lately he
tells me no, he gets mad if i tell him off
and starts to throw things and i tell him
to go to the corner and he says NO. And id
have to stand and hold him in the corner
for him to stay there! He listens to Jason
though but not me and lately its driving
me crazy though .
But wow I think i wrote enough but i
thought id update everyone since i have no
been around in a while, i hope to like be
back for good ina couple weeks. Im hoping
the counseling with jason works out too,
it makes me a tad nervous but it HAS to be
done. I dont exaggerate when I say he
ALWAYS plays it because he does always
play it and if hes not on it when the
servers down hes lookin stuff up on
youtube about it or on forums about it.
Its just making me mad and frustrated!
But anyways how is everyone else doing?
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Ingi
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Posted: 05-15-08 18:06pm
I'm sorry to hear about the WOW addiction
and your anxiety issues. I hope you find
some meds that will help you work through
that.
yeah, she said it takes 4 wks to see a
difference but im thinking that it will
have to be upped a bit, i dont like to
take the xanax, but i only take it if like
i desperately need it!
But yeah the WoW is seriously an addiction
that is affecting our marriage and has
been for going on 4 mths now and well
lately its just been frustrating me to no
end. Ive tried everything with him to get
him to see what its doing to us! but he
just he doesnt get it! So im hoping
counseling does something! it almost seems
funny to seek counseling because your
husband is addicted to a computer game!
But im not gonna wait another 4 mths or
longer for him to get tired of the game if
he ever does! and well this game costs 15
bucks a month but he has 2 accounts so
thats 30 bucks and he spends money buying
"gold" that he can use in the game and has
paid for someone to "level" him up so he
could spend a few days with me but his
game was being played.......its just
getting bad and ive like been single mom
pretty much. Gah i could go on and on
about him and that game! I talked to his
platoon sgt for 2 hrs! about that game
haha.
well his sgt agrees that it is a problem
of course hes not one to know how to help
the situation but at least he knows whats
going on and would know if his work was
being affected or not and what is causing
it! And well tomorow the counsel lady is
calling to set up an appt and talk to
jason for a few min to hopefully talk him
into coming in because i think me just
talking to someone is nto gonna change him
at all, ive tried everything and talking
to him and teling him it affects me and
him and even the kids! But he just gets
really mad at me about it and says i
complain to much about him playing it all
the time, but its like i wouldnt complan
all the time if he wasnt playing it all
the time.
But wow i really need to go to bed its
3:45am. I think this prozac makes me an
insomniac!
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trijos21
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Posted: 05-15-08 22:08pm
Wow. My husband right now is into
oblivian(sp) hes been that way for 3 wks
now. But i havent really cared since i
been sick and sleeping all the time (im
almost 10 wks preg.). But once he finishes
a game, he wont play another one for like
a month. Im really sorry to hear about
that though, i know that has to be tough.
Your doggie looks exactly like mine!!! My
rottie will be 4 in july, his name is
Rama. Ive had him since he was 6 wks old.
They are the best dogs!!!! Very loyal to
their owners!!! Mine is a tad over weight
though, he has thryroid problems. Your
doggie is very beautiful!!!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-16-08 07:52am
I'm sorry to hear your having all these
problems Diane. You are doing the right
thing in trying to get some help for your
family. He can get mad all he wants
because he's the one ruining it.How dare
he call you names and especially to your
children! Thats a horrible thing. About
your anxiety, I hope that gets better as
well. Maybe if Jason helped out more and
started playing the father/hubby role you
wouldn't have so much anxiety. I'm glad
you can come her and talk about it. What
will you do if the counceling doesn't
work?
Your new dog is so cute!
Please let us know how it goes with the
counceling.
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mamaTT
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i dont know whati willdo
do, well she called today. Jason was a
little mad at first buteh now hes not so
mad. We are gonna talk with her sun
monday, my friends gonna watch the kidsfor
me while we are talking to her. so we will
go from there, ah srry for the typos
jordynnes trying to type with me!
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musikmaker
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Posted: 05-16-08 11:35am
Hey! I was just thinking about you the
other day and wondering how you were
doing.
I met a couple that the husband was
stationed in Germany with the Army but
they came home because their daughter has
Cystic Fibrosis. I guess that the Germans
didn't know what to do with the little
girl because CF is VERY rare in Germany so
they had the girl on all the wrong meds
and told the parents she would die before
she was 10. Thankfully the Army let them
transfer to Chicago and they now go to the
same clinic as us.
I know how tough it is when you have a
husband addicted to a RPG. Dan was
addicted to Final Fantasy XI for quite
awhile and it even affected his job! I had
to pull 2 jobs in order to make ends meet
but even then we had issues financially.
We started going to marital counseling
(because I made a big mistake that I have
never felt comfortable sharing on here)
and that helped drastically. If we hadn't
had counseling we wouldn't still be
married. We were mess and a lot of it was
due to his obsession of the game and total
lack of interest in me or the outside
world.
I will be thinking of you on Sunday and I
hope that counseling works for you guys.
It takes awhile though. Try not to expect
a complete change over night. Dan doesn't
play anymore but that is only since Luke
has become sick. Before that we had
certain nights that he could play. We
usually planned those nights on the nights
that there were tv shows that I liked and
we also would eat dinner together before
he could play. He sticked to the rules
pretty well too!
yeah ican understand how that would work,
when we moved here we had to go thruogh an
EFMP screening to make sure there werent
any medical conditions that they wouldnt
be able to treat over here before we were
allowed to come over. The only american
hospital i know is in landstuhl and mostly
caters to the soldiers unless a serious
injury or something happened to someone
else while they were here. Most of the
german hospitals are small too, well the
one in nurenburg is HUGE but i only went
there when my ex friends soon to be ex
husband was there after getting jumped and
almost killed so yeah. Jason sorta flipped
at first when i told him the lady was on
the phone, and he was like why didnt you
tell me you were calling someone, and well
I did warn him. Because it takes over his
life, he gets off it to smoke or the
5-10min to eat dinner really quick and
thats it, he acts like he HAS to play it
like hes letting these people he doesnt
even know down. It is really easy to just
shut the laptop ya know. But he did talk
to the lady and he is willing to meet up
with her and me on monday so my friends
gonna watch the kids when we go and talk
to her. Im not really sure whats gonna
happen or if anything will get sorted but
I cant just sit here and wait anymore it
is just getting really annoying. But then
he blames it on having no money that he
never leaves the house or anything. The
park is free lol. And its not even about
leavingt he house its abotu spending time
with the kids and me! I feel like a single
mom even when he is home! I mean he prob
has alot going on to, This is his first
duty station being in the army , he just
got back from his first deployment and got
injured on his very first deployment so
who knows whats going on in his head. I
just hope something gets sorted!
Jason has said he would cut down on
playing it but he really hasnt, its like
if he isnt playing the game itself hes
lookin up videos on youtube about it or on
a forum about it , and if he gets off the
laptop he just has that look like staring
at it like he cant not be on it like its
foreign to not beon the laptop now and he
is just eager to pick it back up!
His back is still hurting him, they put
some nerve blocks in yesterday, I think
they are gonna see if this does anything
and i think after this if it doesnt work
then surgery. But he isnt immobile at all.
he can walk with a cane. He is able to go
to the store etc. I mean when me and my
friend went to the zoo with the kids i
wouldnt expect him to go and walk around
for hours all day like we did but little
things like taking them to the park or
playing in the house even. He does ntohing
with them but discipline on occasion if
joseph doesnt listen to me. I ask him to
just put them to bed and he rarely does
it. I tried to wait it out but I just dont
wanan keep putting it off more and more
and then nothing changes between us ya
know.
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mc4ever02
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Posted: 05-17-08 18:55pm
mike had a really big problem with WOW
too. To the point that it was affecting
his job, and our relationship. Luckily, he
noticed it on his own. He asked me to stop
paying for the monthly charge and never
looked back. The only real way to stop
something like that is all at once. He
will have to go cold turkey.
I hope the counseling works for you. Just
make sure that you like your counselor.
Otherwise, nothing will get accomplished.
You may have to go to a few counselors
before you find the one that works for
you.
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