HIV after intercourse ??

I had intercourse on May 12 and I asked my partner (who's 39 years old, has a kid, divorced) to wear a condom, he did it, but afterwards I saw that the condom was on THE BED!! I don't know if it "fell down" somehow, or if he took it off...
I don't know.
I freaked out but he seemed to be calm, told me I should take the morning after pill (as my 1st worry was pregnancy)...
I gotta say I shaved that day and felt something itching by the external area of my vagina when my partner came, which lasted some 3 days. I don't know if that could mean an infection was entering my body...

The pill made me feel very sick, with severe headache, nausea and diarrhea since I took the 2nd pill. Also shortness of breath and changes in the heart beat frequency (that was the next morning aready).
After some 5 days, I felt better, and after some other days I got much worse than I was before. Symptoms were back and worse: nausea, diarrhea, lack of appetite, weakness, shortness of breath, stomachache, and I don't know if it was 'cause I was in the beach with changes in the weather all the time, but my throat got a little sore, sinusitis, some coughs, stiff neck, (and then after some days I don't know if I'm just nervous, but I think my neck glands are hurting a little, and my neck is a little swollen..?)... maybe it was only the cold sea water where I surfed for hours??
I experienced night sweats twice. They made me freak out and think I could have HIV.
Then, for some days, I woke up with my eyes very swollen, as if they had been punched... but nothing wrong, except for pain in the eyes, and vision a little blurred which are getting better.

My blood tests are all normal, but it's been a few weeks since the "episode", and I had been alone for ages before that "episode" with that guy.

I just started to have more appetite although some symptoms are still there. Could these be the 1st symptoms of HIV?
Is there anyone who has it and could tell what you felt when you 1st noticed it?
Can those be symptoms of side effects of the morning-after pill?
I'll get tested again in 3 months, but I'm thinking about this everyday..... help me!!!

* NOTES:
I've passed through a period of menopause for almost a year, when I had a shot of zoladex 10.8 to control ovarian cysts, I don't know if this helps...

** I had a nose surgery on 29 January and my nose still didn't recover well, so maybe it can be something associate to it?

Am I hypochondriac? I don't know.. I'm worried!!

Please, let me know your experience and opinion, THANK YOU!!