How do i recover from this? Posted: 03-02-08 09:27am
Although im 42 years old, i had never been
in love before. But it worked out badly
(partly because of my damned
inexperience!) and now ive lost her
forever.
What can i do to recover from this
constant desire for her? The pain is
horrible, and i dont want to have these
feelings for her anymore. I know i
shouldnt deny my feelings, but how the
hell do i deal with them?
I have been acting a bit psycho as well.
I
havent been stalking her or anything like
that, in fact we both go out of our ways
to avoid each other now with me pretending
im happy when i leave the house (which is
rare!). I really dont know what to do, i
feel so unhappy and have done for some
time.
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marvel
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Posted: 03-02-08 16:37pm
It's true that time heals. With the
combination of time and getting yourself
out there for distraction and the
possiblity of finding someone better, it
will get better. Believe me!
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skinny-loser
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Joined: 27 Feb 2008 Posts: 6 Location: , UK
Posted: 03-02-08 19:01pm
I suppose thats true Marvel, but im having
difficulty in doing that because i feel i
owe her something. Im not sure what
though. I have been a right pain to her
and her boyfriend as well. Ive spent the
last 18 months ignoring and blanking
anybody who has tried to help me as well.
Im naturally shy, very open and honest,
but this whole experience has changed me
for the worst - ive become an attention
seeking diva almost!
If only i had the time to recount whats
happend (and the awful things ive said and
done in the last 3 three years!) maybe
people would understand why i have been
such a nasty person. And there i go
looking for justification again! I cant
let go of her. And because im such a
coward i cant talk to her or her
boyfriend. Im really am pathetic. My
levels of self-esteem and self-worth are
zero, and im finding it difficult to
motivate my self to do anything.
One of the worst aspects of this whole
affair is that people think im a racist
now because of whats happened!! She is
black, im caucasian, and one of my friends
is very angry and has made quite a few
disparaging comments about black people in
public.
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I
havent been stalking her or anything like
that, in fact we both go out of our ways
to avoid each other now 
with me pretending
im happy when i leave the house (which is
rare!). I really dont know what to do, i
feel so unhappy and have done for some
time.
