How to make him cum from a bj Posted: 04-13-08 11:05am
okay i was dating this guy *that's right
he's an ex now* but i'm still self
concious because i gave him a lot of bj's
but he never cummed once. he told me that
it wasn't me and that he didn't know why
he couldn't cum. whenever we stopped he
always said he was so close and that his
balls where hurting *blue balls* well he
didn't say i was bad he just said i did it
too quick *the first two times where just
experiments* and asked me if could slow
down and do it longer and maybe that would
help....i did for awhile but he never
cummed. he said that he enjoyed it and i
think he might have because he was
breathing heavily and moving his fingers
and i could feel some penis vibrations
*idk what that means* is he just one of
those guys that can't cum from bj's or am
i just that bad?
btw: this was the first few times i gave
bj's and i was the first girl that gave
him oral so that could be another reason i
just need to know if i did it right that
way when i do it to a more experienced guy
i won't feel embarrassed
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marvel
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Posted: 04-14-08 10:45am
He was probably nervous. Nerves wreak
havoc on sexual experiences... especailly
if you're inexperienced. I wouldn't worry
about it too much.
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Jessicalikestoparty
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Posted: 04-14-08 18:11pm
okay but i do have one question...what
were the penis vibrations? and whenever
those happened he let out kinda this loud
grunt.
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Jessicalikestoparty
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Posted: 04-14-08 19:25pm
could it also be that we didn't get enough
time?? we got interupted almost all the
time i think that's why he didn't cum is
because he wasn't concentrating hard
enough. we only did it for like...maybe
4-5 mins somewhere around there. and he
was new to this, i'm new to it too but he
was letting out grunting noises and
twitching his fingers and breathing
heavily so is that a sign that he was
close? or even that he was enjoying it?
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marvel
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Posted: 04-15-08 08:24am
Yes. Definitely. Penile vibrations, or
grunting or spontaneous spasms are signs
that it's very enjoyable. And 4-5 minutes
is hardly long enough for some people.
Maybe you just had to do it for a bit
longer. Also, interruptions definitely
don't help.
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Junior26
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Posted: 04-18-08 15:54pm
ya i have never got off from a bj but then
they were probably never long enough.
I have talked to some girls and they say
that it helps if the guy talks you through
it when you are giving him a bj. Letting
you know what he likes and doesn't like.
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treetrunk
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Don't worry about it. Posted: 04-18-08 22:18pm
I think he could have been telling the
truth about not being able to cum. And/or
he just wasn't comfortable.
For me it's hard to cum from oral even
when i'm relaxed. The fastest quickie
i've had was like 15mins. Never faster
than that.
Mainly because some of us get use to our
hands. Just like some women get use to
their vibes and cumming only from their
vibes.
I really wouldn't worry too much. I
believe it's most likely not your fault.
