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How would you react? Posted: 03-10-08 11:44am
So, my husband decided to bring home an
8-week-old Australian Shepherd mix on
Saturday - without talking to me about it
first. He has been wanting to get a dog
for a long time now, but I always told him
no, that we had to wait until we got our
own house with a yard. We live with his
mother currently... the main floor is
about 900 sq ft.... 3 adults, one baby, 3
dogs and 2 cats is a BIT MUCH in my
opinion. I have such mixed emotions about
the entire situation. The puppy woke
Kaylee up a couple times last night
because he would not stop crying when we
gated him up in the kitchen. I told Daren
that this dog is 100% his responsibility
because a) I didn't want a dog in the
first place and b) I can't take care of
Kaylee AND a new puppy at the same time.
The living situation was cramped enough
before he brought this puppy home. Now I
am even more stressed about it. Of course
his mother can never say no to him either.
She was in on the whole thing as well,
even after she flat out told me that she
wouldn't allow him to bring another dog in
the house. I just feel betrayed that they
went behind my back to do this.
Oh, and ANOTHER thing that made me mad
(sorry, this is turning into a major
vent). My MIL's grill doesn't work
anymore, and Daren's got stolen from our
old apartment. So last night Daren asks if
he can use my debit card to go buy a $150
grill. I said no. So then his mom says
(with major attitude, mind you) "Well I
guess we're out a grill then, because mine
is broken and his got stolen." Like it's
MY responsibility to get a new grill
because HERS is broken?!?! I don't really
get along with her to begin with but this
just added fuel to the fire. I just
replied "I don't have $150 to be spending
on a grill." I just feel like it's 2
against 1 sometimes because she always
takes his side.
Sorry this was so long but I just needed
to vent
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 03-10-08 11:50am
That's really annoying! And that's
definitely a lot of animals to have around
a baby. I would definitely have said
something to him about how your opinion
obviously means nothing to him if he's
just going to go out and do what he wants
to do after "discussing" it with you.
And what does his mother's grill have to
do with you? It's HER grill - why isn't
SHE replacing it?
Ugh. It sounds like a tough situation. I'm
sorry, hon.
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krystineM
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Posted: 03-10-08 11:52am
wow sorry about all this that has happened
to you,
you have every right to be p---ed off
right now, i would feel the exact same way
if i were in your situation.
My bf/fiance wants a dog, he used to have
a husky/wolf mix but gave him away 2 years
ago and he wants to get a new dog, but
with our baby coming we've at least come
to an agreement that we would wait for a
year or so to go by and then get a dog.
I think you should sit down with your
husband and diccuss how your feeling, a
new mother should not feel like its always
a battle between her spouse and Mother in
Law, i would think his mother would
understand your point and discourage him
from bringing an animal into the house
when there are already 3 or 2 dogs there +
2 cats and a baby. As for the grill, i
would say the same thing, and you should
make it clear that you have another
priority to make than getting a grill, a
baby to take care of and they'll have to
wait or buy a table grill or hey, use the
oven! works just as well as a grill.
sorry you had to go through that again, it
is not fair at all, but i really thnk you
should discuss this with your husband and
maybe he would understand more.
krystine
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Ingi
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Posted: 03-10-08 12:48pm
Did your husband research this particular
kind of dog? This is an incredibly high
maintenance dog that requires a lot of
attention. I hope you can convince him
this wasn't such a great idea.
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krystineM
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Posted: 03-10-08 12:51pm
maybe you should ask if he would think if
leting a friend watch the dog for a while
till things settle down or you move into
your house cuz it is a big responsibility
he coudl still see the dog but not make it
so hecktic on your part.
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ebarnhard33
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Posted: 03-10-08 13:22pm
Thanks for all of your replies!
He knows how I feel about it, but he
honestly won't do anything about it. I
swear, I am NOT taking care of this dog.
Ingi, he researched the breed AFTER he
brought the dog home.
Yes, they are extremely high maintenance.
We gave away a Husky a few years ago
because she kept digging holes and jumping
the fence. They seem to be very similar
breeds by what I've read.
I just want to take my own personal
mini-vacation. Lay out on the beach with a
drink in my hand and not worry about
anything!!!
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Emma2
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Posted: 03-11-08 07:06am
That was incredibly selfish of him. 3 dog
already in the house! I like animals but
in "my opinion" none belong in a
house...especially near babies.
Oh and i would super ticked because this
is a partnership not Boss and employee
...Very disrespectfull of your thoughts.
Yes, they are extremely high maintenance.
We gave away a Husky a few years ago
because she kept digging holes and jumping
the fence. They seem to be very similar
breeds by what I've read.
