I am 13 and would love a baby, help please.

your 13, what could you offer a child?
how would you care or support a baby at this age, your not even in or done highschool...something to love, you have your family and your 5 year old brother to love, something to care for, you have your brother and family for that too, your family loves you too.
you should get involved in something like an activity because it sounds like your bored and dont know what to do with the free time, so you think about having a child. Have you talked this over with your parents? or friends? what have they said about it...i dont think your mother and father would be too pleased with their 13 year old daughter having a child...they would be the main caregiver really to that child, providing a house, baby necesities, care for you, food, and more.
I think you should think this over, you have a lot more to live for than having a child at your age.
Get involved in some kind activity like i said earlier, so your mind is actively thinking of something other than a baby.
When your older, and a little more mature, then think about having a baby, at least finish highschool or college[if college is what you want to do]
But i really think you should wait.
At 13 theres alot more going for you than having a child.

No one is going to help you here. Grow up some before you want a child. You are in no way ready to have a child. Your body isn't even fully grown yet. You can't drive, you can't work, you're not done school, you're not an adult, you're not anywhere NEAR being ready for a child. I don't care how "willing" you are to give up anything since you have nothing to actually give up. A child doesn't have to love you unconditionally. I don't even understand where young girls get this idea. A mother is more likely to love unconditionally than any child is. Children can HATE their parents. Especially if the child suffers because their mother obviously can't care for them. And HELPING raise your brother is NOTHING like actually raising him. Did you pay for him? Did you go through birthing him? Did you wake up every time he cried at night? Did you lose weeks of sleep because of him? Or did you continue going to school like usual? The only thing that's appealing about having a child so young is the attention you'll get. Pregnancy is not easy. Taking care of a child when you're still a child yourself isn't either.

You're lonely and that really sucks but having a child will NOT help that or you. It'll ruin your life and theirs and your parents or whoever decides to take you in. Maybe you should seek professional help to help you get over your desire to have a child and figure out why you've become so lonely. You're not ready to have a child and in no way, shape, or form should you be trying to conceive. If you want love, look towards your pre-exisiting family and friends. That's what they're there for.

i am HOPING she is asking for help as to how not to feel so down and NOT as to how to get pregnant...in that case you have my complete support

i was there to, EVERY young girl goes through a period where she just wants a baby, she sees babies all around her and her hormones go crazy because of puberty and its just something your mind wants.....but with that said, do NOT act on it please, your 13, you have NO idea. you were what 8 when your brother was born, you have no clue how hard it is to wake up in the middle of the night when all you want to do is sleep, you cant go out and have fun you cant even go to a movie when you want anymore because its hard to find a sitter and its rude to bring a baby to a theater. also how would you plan to finish school, its NOT easy going to school while your battleing morning sickness and exaustion and backaches, heart burn, mood swings, headaches, growth and all that, trust me, i finished my senior year right after i had my daughter (i had my final exams waved because i was in the hospital in labor) i never got to go to prom because i had this ginaormous tummy and not to mention i think i was in the hospital that night because of false labor. i never got to relax and take it easy because of school and work. i never got to enjoy dr appointments because i was worried about missing school and i would do my homework in the waiting room. its NOT fun and its NOT easy and its NOT something you should be doing right now.

but like i said, if your asking for support for the depression your feeling, its normal and ive been there, i think almost every girl has, but if your asking for support on trying for a baby i dont think anyone can get behind you on that

i agree, if she wants help for feeling blue and upset, we can give advice for that, but also insight as to how bringing a child into the world at 13 is not such a wise idea for her age and developing body.
she could talk to friends or her mother as to how shes feeling, and her mother could explain some of the things like you did here Idony, a counsellor might help too, sometimes all it takes is a little activity to keep the mind active, because this depression can come from boredum, i suffer from depression its also passed down from my mother and grandmother, sometimes being bored triggers feeling blue, usually getting outside, getting active--nice weather is coming...slowly lol -- helps those down feelings.

First off, please get on birth control. I was the exact same way. I'm 18 now and my baby is due in a month. I couldn't be more scared at this point. Just remember you have LOTS of time. If I wasn't on birth control, my life wouldn't be where it's at today. You can PM me if you really need to talk.

Guys, this girl is a fake. This post is extremely similiar to the one made a few weeks back. And if I remember right, the "other girl" 's name was Jade too.

Wildflower is correct...

However I just have one simple statement... theres been so many of these type posts... I just have ONE bit of advice... at 13, you want a child? OKAY... march your little bum up to your parents and tell them you are planning a child.. see how much longer you want a kiddo then!

honestly, i dont care if its a fake or if its the same girl that posted before only with a different name, if its a fake, theres the very real probability that some REAL 13 year old girl could come across this very post and THAT girl needs to hear this, and if its teh same girl as before i would tell her this a million times over hoping just ONCE it might sink in

i thought it was a fake too on reading it I was like is this kid for real?????
you need to serious help mentally if this is genuine and you need serious help mentally if its a fake because these posts are for REAL people with REAL problems and they deserve our true time advice and effort.
it makes me mad when i read things like this.get a life.

fake or not, too many girls around this age come on here saying they want a baby.
maybe one will wise up before posting it and come to the conclusion that they are in no way capable of raising a baby at such a young age.
if you want something to love and care for, at 13 a baby wont do it for you, its way more work than you may think goes into it, why dont you get a small pet? goldfish, hampster, kitten, giunea pig or bunny so you can love and care for that pet instead of bringing a child into the wold.

nicely said KrystineM..................also find it very hard to believe that she helped raise her brother who is now 5 as she would have only been 7 or 8 when he was born.

exactally, i mean im the oldest of 4 younger siblings, i helped change diapers, feed and watched when my youngest sister was given a bath and if my step mom had to run to get my other sister from the washroom i would supervisor my little sis in the baby tub. I helped baby sit too...but just because i did all of that does not mean i know first hand what its like to be a parent! Hell adults dont even know what its exactaly like to be a parent! How could a 13 year old know that!?

yes very true....im the youngest but still see what you mean...no way is helping out like that raising....she needs to go buy a puppy if this is true if not she needs to get a grip and let our time go on to people with real problems.

exactaly, the only other piece of info i would give her is just mention this [everything shes said here] to her mother, and then see if she really wants a baby after the reaction. no way in any parents right mind would they condone a 13 yr old being pregnant.

buy a dog. they love you unconditionally. 13 is tooooooooo young

Well hopefully this girl is fake. I don't understand little girls wanting babies at 13 and 14 and stuff. I'm 19, I'll be 20 next february and I think I'm too young as it is.

one thing even if this girl is fake or not
a baby will not love u unconditionally for the rest of ur life
my daughter will turn 5 in july n she is already telling me how she doesnt love me anymore LOL mostly cause i dont give in to her every wish n command but still a child doesnt always love u unconditionally

im 13 and me and my b.f have been dating for a year and 1 month
i love him w/ all my heart
i've raised my 5 yr. old brother and my 6 yr. old sister
i know what it takes 2 raise a child
i have a job and so does my b.f
i want a child
but i just want his child
i would never want another 1.
i've talked 2 him about it and he says he wants 1 but he doesn't want 2 ruin our lives
i don't think it will ruin our lives
i've had 2 run my whole household and now my sis and bro are taken away from me
i live w/ my mom now
i just have a huge urge to have a baby
i do cry bcuz i want 1.
plz don't assume that this is fake bcuz it's not and i really need help knowing what i can do
to either stop feeling this way (which i don't want to)
or help me w// tips 2 raise it and stuff.