Joined: 10 Apr 2008 Posts: 8 Location: lexington, sc usa
is he cheating on me Posted: 04-10-08 17:12pm
well me and my finance have been together
for a lil over 7 months and things was
good in the beginning. he started acting
different and coming home later and later.
he started getting text messages from his
ex nd phone calls. one day he was in the
bathroom and i went through his phone and
read the message she sent him. i was very
upset. he told me he didnt know nothing
about the message, he dont conversate with
her at all. then he went out of town and
when he came back home i looked through
his phone again and he called her while he
was away but barely called me. everytime i
turn around i find that they have been
calling each other and texting each other.
i dont know what to do. i love to death.
we are engaged and were trying to have a
baby. i find myself sneeking and listen to
the door when he's in the bathroom cause
he dont talk on the phone around me he
goes in the bathroom and turn on the fan.
i always hear his talking sexual to these
females and finding nasty text's, and he
assures me that he didnt do it he dont
know how it got there. he goes everwhere
with his phone. he wont let me use his
phone barely, so how dont he know how
those numbers got in the dialed call log?
i dont know what to do. please help me
with this dilemma. ive also lost almost
20lbs stressin over him.
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Rosie H
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1115 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Posted: 04-10-08 17:24pm
Wow you need to either leave him or speak
up. I do not mean to sound harsh but this
is ridiculous!
He is obviously hiding someone or
something and doesnt want you to know
about it, and it sounds like another
woman. You need to comfront him and
demand explanations. There is no way he
doesnt know how messages get on his phone
and its completely disrepectful to go into
the restroom and turn on the fan with you
there. Im sorry if I sound angry. I have
been through exactly what you are going
through and trust me it tore me apart.
So the first thing I would do is ask him
if hes with someone else. And until you
get an answer I would stop trying for a
baby. What hes doing is totally unfair to
you and it will be to a baby. Also if he
has cheated then he doesnt deserve the
family you are willing to give him.
Then depending on what he says and what
you beleive, you should decide how much
lying you are willing to take.
But the bottom line is once they use you
and lie to you they almost always do it
again. Because you havent said or done
anything then he thinks this is ok. I
guarantee you he will not like you asking
him questions.
Again Im sorry if I sound harsh or mean.
I dont know the whole story but I have
been used and abused and I knew it. But i
loved the man soooo much that I stayed and
always took him back. As a result of his
cheating I was given genital herpes and
lost 3 years of my life. Please dont let
this kind of heart ache happen to you or a
child.
Please keep posting and pm me if you like
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preciousone803
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Apr 2008 Posts: 8 Location: lexington, sc usa
re:is he cheating Posted: 04-10-08 18:54pm
i know what u mean. they was together for
4 yrs and everytime i turn around shes
either callin his uncles phones or his
phone.he just recently got a new cell.and
her number is in it.im like u just got the
phone if u didnt call her or gave her ur
number then how did she get it.he wouldnt
give me his number for a few days.we live
together and hes gone all day and im in
the house by myself no phone no
nothing.when i confront him about it he
tells me that she been had his ppls
numbers since they were together.but there
numbers have changed and they have new
numbers. how is it that she keeps getting
these numbers.and then on top of that i
had a phone that i didnt want but it was
on and my name was on the bill.i gave it
to his uncle and she winds up gettin my
number!!!aint that crazy.i went to my
phones website and looked at the phone
records and he calls her like 10-15
sometimes more than that a day.i barely
get 1 phone call from him and if i do its
no more than 5 min.i told him that very
disrespectful for for someone to keep
givin her the number and her keepin
incontact with him.but i cant talk to a
guy on the phone.im gonna make a stand im
gonna keep my kool and if i find out on
more thing,im goin to leave cause i dont
deserve it.and im tired of him always
saying hes sorry.if u didnt do anythin why
say sorry?
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brookster29
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Joined: 08 Aug 2006 Posts: 28 Location: ,
Posted: 04-10-08 21:42pm
First of all it doesn't sound like you're
relationship with this person is stable
enough to even think about getting married
let alone try to have a baby! You need to
definitely re-think this relationship. If
you stay in it any longer it looks like
you'll end up getting hurt. Of course I
dont know this guy, but he seems pretty
sketchy to me, so just keep your eyes open
and make smart decisions. NO ONE deserves
to be cheated on. Good luck!!
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antigone
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Joined: 27 Jan 2008 Posts: 899 Location: IL
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Posted: 04-11-08 00:25am
Take care of you and the baby. This guy
sounds like a liar and cheat. If you marry
him this will be your life. He won't
change for you or the baby. You deserve
better and so does the little one. Move on
and make a life for yourself and your
baby.
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mikky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2008 Posts: 11
Posted: 04-12-08 02:44am
or stay with and be unhappy
Ask your self a few questions, I wanna be
with a guy who fools around on me,,
cheats, lies etc... he may be worth it in
the end, do you have what it takes????
Sounds like he is in control of you, can
you do what ever he feels like, no matter
what, you think a baby will change that?,
cause of the love you feel for him?
NottA,If you wish to keeep dating the guy,
ok, we all have our troubles, it's a long
road, but keep in mind, the long road
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bumponshaft
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Apr 2008 Posts: 3
Posted: 04-12-08 03:12am
this is comming from on honest guy that
used to party and knows how guys r.. hes
cheating on you girl.. and even if its not
sexually just talking to other girls is
cheating.. find yourself a guy that dont
hide anything from you.. everyone deserves
on honest and open relationship.. if you
wanna talk message me!
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mikky
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Apr 2008 Posts: 11
Posted: 04-12-08 04:35am
hmmmm well read what he said, if you want
to live in denile and be treated
unfaithfully, keep doing what you are
doing, the guy is a "_uck up: and doesn't
deserve to bring a baby into this world.
Does society need anymore of this, you
decide? Just my opinion:)
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xbostonx
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2008 Posts: 96 Location: Boston, MA
Posted: 04-12-08 12:17pm
Personally to me it does sound like he is
cheating on you. If he was just friends
with his ex and they talked once and a
while he should not have to hide from you.
I would speak up to him and say something.
Maybe even try to follow him and she where
he goes or something.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5539 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 04-12-08 16:59pm
think about yourself here- not just
emotionally- but physically. This guy
could give you diseases. Diseases could
hurt you and any baby you might have. You
need someone you can trust to stay loyal.
Speak up and get the confidence to tell
him you won't put up with it! You can find
someone better, you ARE worth it.
