Joined: 31 Mar 2008 Posts: 1 Location: the burg , IN USA
likeing a girl 4 years older Posted: 03-31-08 22:33pm
i am 16 and i work with a female who is
20. she and i have been sort of dating for
about a month now. by me saying sort of it
is like all she wants me for is to have
sex. i have asked my dad for advice and
all he says is "THAT AH BOY SON" and i
really like her and want her to be more
than this. i just dont know how to handle
it i mean. i know it isnt exactly legal
but hell whos counting?
Anywon with advice?
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pheasant
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Joined: 01 Apr 2008 Posts: 6
Posted: 04-01-08 19:25pm
having not been in the situation, i dont
know what to tell you, only what i think-
It sounds like your rushing into something
youll regret and that your dad probably
isnt giving you the best advice though its
great you can talk to him about it. it
would all depend on wether or not you want
a serious relationship
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 04-01-08 19:57pm
take it from me. If she is using you for
sex then it's not healthy. I know from
experience. it will only hurt you in the
long run. it's very hard when one wants
something more and the other just want
he/she needs. i would get out if i was
you! i stayed a long time in it and i was
hurt really bad.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 04-01-08 20:14pm
I advise you to stop these relations. Not
only are they bad for your job, they are
bad for you as a person.
Starting a relationship out with just sex
isn't starting out a relationship well, if
at all. She's using you.... I agree with
pheasant in that your dad isn't giving you
good advice. Anyone can have sex, but it
takes someone special to have a good
relationship and to actually date and you
don't want to make yourself cheap.
I know you think you are a "consenting"
person, but it's true that it may not be
legal. It is different in various states.
The reason why there are laws against
this is because the minor party (yourself)
doesn't fully realize what they are
getting into. That law is there to
protect you. What you do need to know is
that basically you are being taken
advantage of and nothing more. Don't make
yourself such an easy target. It's hard
at 16 to understand how people can be that
way, but that's the way it is....take it
from someone who has been there.
Since you are only having sex, then there
is no sense of commitment on her part, and
there is a chance she could drop you for
someone else in the blink of an eye, and
she most likely won't want to develop it
further.
I had more things I wanted to say, but I
have so much bring in my mind that I can't
type it all at once. I hope this is
enough for you to realize the harmful
situation you are in, and I hope you make
the right decisions.
