losing drive after orgasm? Posted: 04-09-08 22:18pm
after having an orgasm I immediately feel
DONE, i.e. lose all sexual drive, wetness,
etc. how on earth are you supposed to
have multiple orgasms? Is it common to
still be aroused after finishing? If i
finish before the guy the time until he
finished is not pleasurable and I feel
like we need to break out a bottle of lube
because I dry right up! i was reading
cosmo and it suggested an awesome way to
prep for actual sex was allowing the guy
to bring you to an orgasm orally before
even having sex-I know this would never be
possible for me!
can someone please enlighten me??
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Maddie34
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Posted: 04-09-08 23:48pm
Well, whats wrong with busting out some
lube? Does it still hurt even after you
apply lube?
When I orgasm before sex I dry up but then
we use lube and it feels good again.
Sometimes I do have to wait a little bit
before though because I do get really
sensitive. Lube usually really helps
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-10-08 00:04am
I lose all my drive immediatly too, and i
have never tried lube. I will have to try
it.But it happens even if we use a condom
and I dont think you are suppose to use
lube with a condom. I have never been
able to have multiple orgasms, i dont even
think it is possible for me.
I think my main problem is i just get very
sensitive, almost like it tickles for a
while and I just want him to be done!
If i come across any solutions, I will let
you know.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 04-10-08 01:09am
Using lube with condoms is safe. I've even
been told its a good idea to put a DROP or
two (no more) inside the condom too for
him.
Give lube a try. You may have to stop and
apply more during sex too so keep it close
by.
And with oral sex before actual
intercourse. Nothing is wrong with you
taking a small break if things don't feel
as good right away. It doesn't mean
everything needs to stop, just you're done
receiving for awhile
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preciousone803
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Posted: 04-10-08 20:58pm
i have that same problem sometimes too. i
need to be broken in before i am used if u
know what i mean. i have to have some
kinds of fore play before i right.
sometimes he just feel that kissin on my
neck will get the job done. and it takes a
lil time to get it in because im dry. try
some fore play first, maybe you can do
like me and get a lil toy to help you out.
i also went to the sex store and got some
handcuffs and emotion lotion. i have some
more things for you to know so hit me up
if you need further information.
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njw753
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Joined: 16 Mar 2008 Posts: 11 Location: Scottsdale, AZ,
Posted: 04-12-08 08:13am
Sweet Almond Oil makes for a great lube.
It's pure and good for the body. It's
also a great massage oil, which leads
right into sex. Never gets goopy or
sticky. I love it.
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brookster29
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Posted: 04-14-08 02:12am
Lube is a necessity for me....even when I
am aroused, I just dont get enough wetness
down there and intercourse is painful. But
lube helps 100%. And yes, it is definitely
safe to use with a condom. In fact, a
condom that is lubed on the outsite has
less friction and resistance in your
vagina, therefore the risk of tearing goes
down.
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