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mindmessedup
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lying about pregnancy ?
Posted: 05-04-08 20:24pm
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I slept with a girl without protection, i
asked her to let me know if she was
pregnant or not. She told me she had
started her period and wasnt. After that i
told her to leave me alone and didnt want
to know her. She responded the day after
by posting very explicit letters addresed
to my parents explaining the sex which was
like a page long, and then lastly said she
was pregnant. I rang her up asking what
this was all about and she denied knowing
anything about the letters and the
preganancy and i asked her again and she
still said she was not pregnant. 2 weeks
later another letter arrives explaining
the sex again addresed to my parents. She
then again expressed the preganacy. These
letters where very nasty and horrible to
read. Another letter comes along with a
condom. Again another letter comes. She
explains how she has had a scan and is
expected twins, she gave a photocopy of
the scan. She expresses how she is going
to keep them and how much she hates me.
aslo claiming i have given her Sexually
transmitted diseases which are 100% not
true as i got tested. I found the exact
copy of the scan she sent me on google as
she had just copied and pasted the date
which coincides with the exact date 8
weeks prior of having sex. I am still
unsure, can any help?
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Posted: 05-04-08 20:46pm
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She probably isn't pregnant. It sounds
like she is lying. If your parents are
involved I'd have them talk to her parents
about it. Make her pee on a stick in
front of you.
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Posted: 05-04-08 23:02pm
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She's not pregnant, she's just mad because
your done with her, she needs to let it
go. Tell her your pregnant and laugh, just
kidding but it would be just as silly. I'm
11 weeks, and I'm having to wait till I go
in at 13 weeks before I find out if i'm
carrying twins. And I'm showing as I've
been since 8 weeks. Trust me, she isn't
pregnant, and she definitely isn't
expecting twins. Tell her if she doesn't
leave you alone, you'll report her for
harassment
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mindmessedup
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Posted: 05-05-08 05:18am
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The promblem is that its just not her
involved now, she has got her friends
involved who come to outside my house at
night doing stupid stuff. Like making
killing gestures and they just stand
there. I parents are involved and my dad
is saying she isnt preganant becuase we
found out that she and her sister (who she
lives with) have left my area and gone far
away. So she is just having fun. Also she
text me a few days ago, she is acting like
she doesnt know anything and that
everything is normal. I know she is
playing mind games but its i dont
know............
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Posted: 05-05-08 08:50am
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then get a restraining order
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Posted: 05-05-08 10:02am
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I agree, you should look into a
restraining order. For proof, the next
time you see the girls outside your window
making the obscene gestures at you, record
it on a video camera to show it to the
police and let them know how you are being
harassed at all hours of the night. It
sounds like she's just a crazy girl who
doesn't like the fact that you didn't want
to talk to her anymore.
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mindmessedup
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Posted: 05-05-08 10:59am
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The problem is that that i have found out
that the girl is under the age of 16 which
i was unaware of. So i can do nothing.
Recentley it has stopped becuase she has
moved from my area. Im not worried about
the harrasment thing because i can handle
that. Its just the pregnancy...... The
letters dont talk about the pregnancy
much, but mainly about the sex and how
much she hates me. She starts teh letter
saying "Hi Pus..." and then just continues
to curse me. She says she is going to keep
them becuase they have done nothing wrong
"YOU HAVE". She said her sister has 4
children with 4 strangers but i found out
she has just two. The sister is known for
trouble. I think the girl is 14-15 years
old and the sister is 21-22/
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Posted: 05-05-08 12:30pm
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Yeah, I wouldn't worry, I seriously doubt
she is pregnant-especially since you found
the exact ultrasound scan on google.
Just ignore her and her immature friends.
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Posted: 05-05-08 12:56pm
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| manuftw82
wrote: | | how old are
you? |
On his profile, it says his birthday is
8/30/85, making him 22. Not sure if that
is his correct birthday though.
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Posted: 05-05-08 12:56pm
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| mindmessedup
wrote: | | The problem is that that i
have found out that the girl is under the
age of 16 which i was unaware of. So i can
do nothing. Recentley it has stopped
becuase she has moved from my area. Im not
worried about the harrasment thing because
i can handle that. Its just the
pregnancy...... The letters dont talk
about the pregnancy much, but mainly about
the sex and how much she hates me. She
starts teh letter saying "Hi Pus..." and
then just continues to curse me. She says
she is going to keep them becuase they
have done nothing wrong "YOU HAVE". She
said her sister has 4 children with 4
strangers but i found out she has just
two. The sister is known for trouble. I
think the girl is 14-15 years old and the
sister is 21-22/ |
Did you 'date' this girl or was she a one
night stand? This all sounds very dramatic
- like a young girl who was led on or
possibly thought there was more to the
relationship than there really was.
Everyone here has given you advice. Have
your parents call the police if they get
another letter. Have your parents call her
parents or her older sister.
If anyone comes to your house and taunts
you in the middle of the night, call the
police.
None of us can say whether she is pregnant
or not. Did you have sex with her? Yes,
you admitted you did. Did you use
protection? If not, pregnancy could be
likely. If she is offering no proof like a
doctor's note (yes, they are available!),
then she probably isn't.
Change your phone number! That is fairly
simple. Then no more text messages. Change
your email address. Again, pretty easy. If
you want nothing to do with her, make it
difficult for her to contact you.
If she isn't pregnant, all this will end.
If she is, deal with it then.
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Posted: 05-05-08 13:32pm
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| Marianne0558
wrote: | | manuftw82
wrote: | | how old are
you? |
On his profile, it says his birthday is
8/30/85, making him 22. Not sure if that
is his correct birthday
though. |
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just don't get how you don't know someone
is 14. I can understand like 17 yrs old
could look like theyre over 18 but I've
never in my life seen a 14 yr old look
like they were not a minor...regardless of
how they dress or how much make up they
wear I don't really see that.
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Posted: 05-05-08 13:41pm
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| manuftw82
wrote: | | Marianne0558
wrote: | | manuftw82
wrote: | | how old are
you? |
On his profile, it says his birthday is
8/30/85, making him 22. Not sure if that
is his correct birthday
though. |
I
just don't get how you don't know someone
is 14. I can understand like 17 yrs old
could look like theyre over 18 but I've
never in my life seen a 14 yr old look
like they were not a minor...regardless of
how they dress or how much make up they
wear I don't really see
that. |
My little sister in law looks older than
me and she is 14! We were out at dinner
this past weekend and the waitress asked
her if she's be having cocktails with the
rest of us as well! Didn't try to card her
or anything!
There are PLENTY of 14 year olds that look
of age.
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Posted: 05-05-08 14:46pm
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No it was a one night stand, and also im
18. I dont know where thsi girl lives or
what she does. She said to me she was
expecting twins 7 weeks after we had sex.
Is this possibile.... and then at the end
says she wil pop over for a DNA test to
put my mind at rest. She aslo continues to
say she doesnt want anything to do with me
and that i am out of her life and her
babies. But the letters keep coming....
Also she says she is glad that i dont know
where she lives.
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Posted: 05-05-08 14:56pm
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Don't even open the letters. Write "Return
to Sender" on them, or "Refuse to
receive."
Just ignore her until she gets a
COURT-ORDERED DNA test, IF that happens.
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Posted: 05-05-08 15:12pm
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The letters are hand delivered late night.
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Posted: 05-05-08 15:50pm
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lol wow that girl is twisted, tell her to
leave you alone then, if she hates you so
much then why does she bother, if you see
her friends outside pretend you dont see
them and pretend to get on the phone with
a friend, and make the expressions and
everything but really be calling the cops,
the other girls can get in trouble and you
won't. Also she is NOT pregnant, and
wouldn't know anything about the number of
babies shes having. I'm possibly pregnant
with twins, and don't find out till 13
weeks, and I'm 11 weeks right now. Its
impossible, and at even as early as 8-9
weeks the uterus measures normally, mine
did. So she is faking it to be a .......
Stop worrying about what she says she's
full of it.
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Posted: 05-05-08 16:01pm
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it sounds like she just wants attention
and is doing this to get it.
there's no way she would find out shes
having twins just like Amethyst_Butterfly
said.
You can stil return the letter to the
sender even if it is hand delivered. You
just have to leave it in your mail box and
the mail man will take it away.
Get your parents to make the restraining
order against you since you dont want to
get involved with it because she is
younger than what she said.
Or just ignore her completely, she's just
wanting to get a reaction out of you.
My ex was doing things to terrorize me and
my fiancee for a few months, and we tried
getting a restraining order against him,
but couldnt because it was not direct
threats or comments to us, like this girl
is doing to you. He just wanted a
reaction, so we ignored him, blocked him
from any way of contact and he stopped.
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Posted: 05-05-08 16:24pm
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Thankyou very much for your help everyone.
You have made me feel sooo much better.
May life bring you every happiness
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Posted: 05-05-08 16:26pm
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Why haven't you contacted the police? Next
time she gets in contact with you, inform
her that you will contact the police and
file harrassment charges against her and
will use the phone call records and the
letters as evidence. Don't be surprised if
she stops contacting you after that.
She's doing this because you're allowing
her to. There are very simple measures you
can take to make this stop.
Everyone here has given you advice. Please
take it.
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