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Men and the blame game Posted: 05-27-08 12:51pm
I love how woman are always told they are
responsible, yes they are but I highly
doubt she was the virgin mary, it take to
people to have sex so why are men not
getting in caca.
Men should be held responsible to carry
contraception as well as woman, I think
that if abortion ever became illegal that
men should be forced to wear condoms, I
feel that would be the only equal stance
to fight it. So I want to know why woman
must take a blame alone or be degraded
because her reproductive status.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 06-18-08 20:55pm
its both peoples responcibilities i think.
sometimes contraception fails on both
sides or just one (condom breaks for the
guy, girl forgets the pill or it doesnt
work etc) so many things can happen. i
recently talked to my boyfriends friend
who says he purposely tried to get his
girl pregnant cause he thought that would
make her stay with him*eww*. fortunately
she figured out what he was planning and
got on the depo shot without him knowing.
i was shocked cause all ive heard were of
some women trying to do that to the guy,
not the other way around lol. she even
told him if she got pregnant he would
abort ( by the way shes 1
what im trying to get at is theres so many
outcomes it just boggles my mind. if a
couple..even if they exclusive or not
suddenly has an accident its both their
responcability to figure out what to do.
they can try staying together for the sake
of the kid but it might make things
worst.he might want to stay but she doesnt
want to have the kid, she wants it but he
doesnt...theres soooo many. im 24 and my
boyfriend is 24 next month...we both agree
that if we were to have an accident i
would not keep it because we dont have
anything to offer a child. i dont have a
stable foundation for myself, im realistic
when it comes to this topic cause ive had
a few scares, if we were to get pregnant
and he doesnt want it and leaves atleast i
would have a solid foundation were i
wouldnt feel scared that i wouldnt be able
to provide for my child. so i dont believe
in blaming anyone unless theres a
malicious intent on either side were their
just trying to see if by having a baby the
other will stay. sorry its so long just my
thought on the subject
Apparently, becuase the woman is the one
carrying the baby...she must be
responsible for everything. I don't
know....I could not venture into some of
these people's minds and figure out what
they are thinking.
I know a lot of people get all up in a
tizzy because they feel that the abortion
procedure is something that a woman can
solely decide on (WHETHER or not that is
the truth). The woman has complete control
over the pregnancy...and if she has the
right to terminate it, then by golly she
obviously did something to have the baby.
The logic is not correct...and I agree,
men should be given more responsibility-
hell, EVERYONE should carry around a
barrier method in their pocket/purse/etc.
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Birch
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Posted: 07-12-08 20:20pm
It ain't right, but since women bear the
brunt of post-sex whatever, it behooves them
to step it up on the "who am I going to
bounce on the bed with tonite" Patrol.
We wouldn't hand over the responsibility
of making decisions about our unwanted
pregnancy to them, so why would we when
having sex with them?
