Joined: 04 Apr 2008 Posts: 5 Location: Rowland Heights, California, 91748 United States of America
might be pregnant ? Posted: 04-04-08 20:40pm
hi, i'm michelle. & i'm only 15.
i had unprotected sex... & yes, i know i'm
very young.
lets not worry about that. my boyfriend is
18.
uhm, i think i "might" be pregnant - pull
out method?
he said he did not ejaculate... but
pre-cum.
my period is irregular. the last time i
had my period was on 3.28.08
so, can some calculate when i am suppose
to get my next period?
my boyfriend gets mad every time i mention
that i might be pregnant, and he doesn't
listen to what i have to say. he's so
selfish, & he thinks he's always right.
how can i prevent this from happening?
if i am pregnant, what am i going to do?
i'm 85% sure that i don't want to keep the
baby.
should i get an abortion behind my parents
back?
oh, and is the doctor / clinic going to
call my parents?
i have no idea - i'm just a very lost &
confused 15 year old.
help me, please?!
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Amethyst_Butterfly
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Posted: 04-04-08 20:49pm
wait...so you just had a period? When did
you guys have sex? becuse if it happened
before your period, then your not
pregnant, if it was after, you won't know
yet
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XO.aung
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Joined: 04 Apr 2008 Posts: 5 Location: Rowland Heights, California, 91748 United States of America
last time i had my period - Posted: 04-04-08 20:52pm
i had sex after my period; 2-3 weeks
after.
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cassandra2
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Joined: 04 Apr 2008 Posts: 19
Hello Posted: 04-04-08 21:37pm
Hello,
I hope everything is alright with you.
Well to start off with I am totally
against abortion and am definitely for
pro-life and everything but I know that if
you really need to have an abortion that I
guess it's alright, you know? I mean I
really really am against it but if you
don't feel you are ready and everything
then I think it would be the best thing
for you right now. I mean you are young
and everything and I am not going to say
that you are too young because that's
judging you and I definitely don't want to
do that but most 15 year olds are not
ready to be able handle a baby at that
age, financially and emotionally but hey
you could be fine with a kid. Would your
parents be supportive of you if you told
them or you don't know? And for your
boyfriend, well he just sounds like he is
afraid and definitely sounds like an
problem. For the fact that he doesn't want
to listen to you is a really big major
problem and that could be another reason
why you might not want to keep the baby
because he doesn't seem like he is ready
for it and doesn't want it so most likely
he won't be much of a help to you. Also,
it sounds like he just likes the fun and
games and now that the consequences are
coming to him he doesn't' want to face it
and that's not good. Definitely don't stay
with him.
Well let me know what happens and keep in
touch [ :
If you need anymore advice or help let me
know..
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Reptar
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Posted: 04-05-08 08:59am
If you've just had a period, you're
99.9999% not pregnant. Take a test if
you're really worried.
Otherwise, I think you should either talk
to your boyfriend or find a new one. You
can't prevent your boyfriend from being
selfish, that's who he is. You can try to
explain your fears, but really, as you
just had a period, he's probably right.
Other than that, no 18 year old should be
having unprotected sex with a 15 year old.
If he is so upset at the idea of getting
you pregnant, he should be responsible
enough to get some condoms. Not to mention
you have to be 18 to consent to sex in
California, if you were to be pregnant,
and someone found out it was by him, he
might be thrown in jail for having sex
with a minor. He's obviously not being a
responsible adult, so you're going to have
to be responsible or you're both going to
be very screwed.
About your period, we can't tell you when
you're supposed to get your next one since
you just told us your period is irregular.
If you had a normal 28 day cycle, it'd be
4 weeks since your last one. If you want
to test for a pregnancy, tests are usually
accurate 14 days since the unprotected
sex. Start taking care of yourself and get
protected immediately. You don't want to
go through with a pregnancy, and you
won't enjoy having an abortion so take
precautions before it's too late.
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-05-08 10:57am
that doesnt make sence.. if you had your
period on the 28th that was just a week
ago... how did you have sex 2-3 weeks
after your period then????
that makes no sense at all...
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Ingi
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Posted: 04-05-08 12:58pm
You should get to planned parenthood and
get some birth control. When your period
starts, you should start using that birth
control. Not only will it prevent
pregnancy but it will also regulate your
periods! So it has more than one benefit.
Cool, huh?
It is very doubtful you are pregnant. Have
your boyfriend get some condoms. Don't
ever have sex without birth control.
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lagringarican787
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Posted: 04-05-08 14:11pm
ingi, im still confused... if she got her
period on the 28th... how did she have sex
2 -3 weeks after her period?? her period
was only one week ago... and if shes
talkin about her last period, then she got
her period after and she isnt pregnant...
im so confused lol
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Ingi
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Posted: 04-05-08 14:27pm
lagringarican787
wrote:
ingi, im still confused...
if she got her period on the 28th... how
did she have sex 2 -3 weeks after her
period?? her period was only one week
ago... and if shes talkin about her last
period, then she got her period after and
she isnt pregnant... im so confused
lol
It sounds like she has her times/dates
confused.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 04-05-08 19:35pm
hun it hasnt been 2-3 weeks since the 28th
are you sure that was the last date of
your period?
Why are you not on birthcontrol? You can
get it free from clinics... if this "i
might be pregnant" thing happens alot... I
understand thats hes frustrated...
Getting an abortion if thats what you
choose does not have to involve your
parents.
Wait it out about 2-3 weeks from now and
try taking a pregnancy test.
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krystineM
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Re: boyfriend doesn't understand; might be pregnant... Posted: 04-05-08 23:14pm
XO.aung
wrote:
hi, i'm michelle. & i'm
only 15.
i had unprotected sex... & yes, i know
i'm very young.
lets not worry about that. my boyfriend is
18.
uhm, i think i "might" be pregnant - pull
out method?
he said he did not ejaculate... but
pre-cum.
my period is irregular. the last time i
had my period was on 3.28.08
so, can some calculate when i am suppose
to get my next period?
my boyfriend gets mad every time i mention
that i might be pregnant, and he doesn't
listen to what i have to say. he's so
selfish, & he thinks he's always
right. how can i prevent this from
happening?
if i am pregnant, what am i going to do?
i'm 85% sure that i don't want to keep the
baby.
should i get an abortion behind my parents
back?
oh, and is the doctor / clinic going to
call my parents?
i have no idea - i'm just a very lost
& confused 15 year old.
help me,
please?!
hi there,
i've read what your questions were, and to
answer when you should get your next
period....how long are your periods, do
you get them like between 28 days? that
should give you the answer as to when you
should expect your next period.
second..how to prevent this from happening
again, im asuming this has happened
possibly more than once in the past, and
that may be why your boyfriend is not
understanding or upset about this.. you
should probably think of getting on some
birth control, or use a condom. this would
prevent the worry of if you are pregnant
or not.
if you are pregnant, you dont have to keep
the baby, but instead of abortion you
could put the baby up for adoption. theres
alot of couples out there who want a child
desperately and cannot concoeve their own,
you could give your baby up for adoption
to a loving a caring family.
Also, you are under 16, which means that
your doctor would notify your parents that
you are pregnant. but regardless, if you
are, despite what your decision is it
would be wise to tell them.
think about it, you were old enough to
engage in the act of sex, so you should be
old enough to step up to what both of your
actions may have concieved.
