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MIL is taking over my baby :( Posted: 04-04-08 13:54pm
First, I wanted to say I get along fine
with my ILs. They are nice people and have
never done anything mean or offensive to
me.
Right now, my ILs are visiting (it's been
a bit of a calamity as FIL broke his big
toe and pulled the toenail mostly off
getting out of the shower their 1st night
here). They don't get to see DD much since
they live in CA. MIL has latched right on
to DD...so much so that she is with her
every second of the day except when I'm
breastfeeding (but only when I'm
breastfeeding in the bedroom, other times,
she's still hanging over me even when I'm
breastfeeding). I know she loves DD and
doesn't get to see her much, but I'm
starting to feel like MIL is the mother
and I'm the grandmother because MIL is
with her almost all the time. I don't want
DD to forget me because she's with MIL so
much
I don't know what the point of this post
is. I know my ILs won't be here visiting
forever, and it's important that MIL gets
to bond with her granddaughter, but I'm
starting to feel left out. In addition, DD
often used to comfort nurse (I've loved
that time so much and granted, many times
I probably fed DD when she could have gone
longer between feedings), but MIL hardly
brings her to me to nurse, only when she's
so hungry she's starving and then she
doesn't comfort nurse much either
Sorry for the vent. I feel better getting
that out. I guess I need validation that
I'm not a bad person for feeling this way.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 04-05-08 19:44pm
I'm sorry! MIL's can be a pain that's for
sure.
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 04-05-08 19:55pm
That's got to be hard. Just remember that
she won't be there forever.
Maybe your husband and tell his mother,
"Since you guys have been here, we haven't
had much time with the baby to ourselves.
Can we have an hour tonight to spend time
with her in the bedroom?"
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Mommy35
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Joined: 23 Sep 2006 Posts: 3165 Location: Vacationland, USA,
Posted: 04-05-08 19:59pm
I also meant to say that I don't think
your acting like a bad person at all.
Just grab her and go to your room for some
alone time. They'll get over it.
i hate my b/fs parents lol. my mom likes
to hog up a lot of time with my one and
only child, a son, named michael. i dont
handle seperation well with him &
deff. not with the inlaws lol. id grab
baby and be private... hard to do if your
like me, but in the end u might feel
better. remember... w/e mom says goes!
only momma knows best, not just for baby
but for yourself.
