Mourning death of spouse or losing exgirlfriend? Posted: 09-14-08 19:52pm
A few years ago, my wife died suddenly and
unexpectedly while I was on a business
trip. 2 months after her death, I went to
school to complete my MBA and completely
focused on my studies. 1.5 years after
her death, I met someone, fell in love,
broke-up but we kept in contact up until a
month ago. We remained friends for 4
years with each of us dating other people.
Now, she says she's in love and must
cease our communication. Now, I still have
issues regarding the loss of my wife, and
I'm feeling broken hearted about my ex
girlfriend stopping all contact, which
I've never felt to this extreme before
now.
Yes, I still love my ex girlfriend, but am
I actually mourning my wife or the ex
girlfriend? My emotions are confusing me.
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Posted: 09-16-08 13:18pm
Well, I believe that 1) it could be both
or 2) it could be that you were still
mourning your wife while you got with your
ex and she was so to say, a rebound
relationship. I'm leaning a little towards
both actually because it wasn't impossible
to love them both. I think you need to
give yourself time to heal and mourn over
your losses before you head back into the
dating game. Give yourself time.
